Dates Log

[Illusory Self]

23/06/2022 Thursday 

 

Date: 1     

 

What went well?

• Said hi to everyone when I was walking to the bar (got into good state)
• Talked to the bartenders for a bit, making them laugh
• Got into a flow state (talked to the girl about anything)
• Got over my fear and asked her to watch some movies at mine
• Moved up from my chair and sat beside her, going into my fear
• Made a lot of jokes & made her laugh a lot
• Enjoyed the convo process

 

 

 

 

What went bad?

• Over talkative (didn't give her enough space to contribute to the interaction)
• Over eager - To much pushing & not enough pulling
• Waited to long to try to close at mine
• Didn't lead the convo as well as I could of
• No physicality 
• Should of tried to sit next to her to begin with
• Tried to hug her in the middle of the road at the end (awkward goodbye)
• Gave to much information away (be more mysterious)
• Did not ask the girl much about her own personal life 

 

 

 

What will I do better next time?

• Try to get a venue where there are seats next to each other
• Give the girl more space to contribute to the conversation
• Lead the conversation better
• Be more flirtatious/physical
• Try to incorpate some pulling as well as pushing
• Use the beginning bit of the date to vibe & try to close sooner
• Try to talk more without giving as much info away to keep the woman chasing
• Ask more questions about the girls life, show intruege and interest 

Edited June 23, 2022 by Illusory Self

[Illusory Self]

04/07/2022 Monday

 

Date: 2     

 

What went well?

• Got a make out
• Tried to ask her to come back to mine
• Asked her to sit next to me
• Made her laugh a lot
• Made her feel more at ease with me towards the end
• Doing physicality towards the end

 

 

 

 

What went bad?

• Convo was very logical and boring for a majority of the date
• Rather awkward goodbye at the end
• Sat opposite each other
• Should of tried to go for the close earlier in the interaction
• Not much flirting
• Some silences

 

 

 

What will I do better next time?

• Try to go for a close earlier in the interaction
• Get more emotional and less logical
• Bring flirtation into the interaction
• Be more physical earlier on
• Sit next to her
• More playful

[Illusory Self]

07/07/2022 Thursday

 

Date: 3     

 

What went well?

• Gave her a long confident hug
• Made her laugh a bit
• Conversation for most of the time
• Held her hand on the way back
• Tried to kiss her
• Stepped out of my comfort zone

 

 

 

 

What went bad?

• Did not ease her shyness
• Not much flirtation or man/woman frame
• Did not lead enough
• Not much physicality/banter
• Should of asked her to come back to mine sooner
• A lot of silence on the walk back (probably why she left)
• To much desperation/expectation

 

 

 

What will I do better next time?

• Lead more
• Sit next to her
• Be more physical earlier on
• Try to make sexual innuendos
• Try to be more relaxed in the situation
• Express gratitude when my mind goes into negativity
• Should of tried to close sooner
• Steer the convo

[Illusory Self]

 

09/07/2022 Friday

 

Date: 4

 

What went well?

• Stepped outside of the fear zone a lot
• Sat next to the girl
• Kissed her on the date
• Attempted to close
• Made her laugh
• Lead her to a bench after a walk outside
• Good physicality 

 

 

 

What went bad?

• To much deep talk
• Needed to ask her to come back to mine sooner
• Needed to build A LOT more rapport before closing
• Did not reveal much about myself to the girl
• Tried to close without much rapport building

 

 

 

What will I do better next time?

• Get more into building a connection and rapport between the 2 of you
• Slide in flirty jokes/innuendos
• Close sooner
• Talk about myself more