Just had an epiphany!!! Why you shouldn't take things personal

[Razard86]

Everyone you ever meet is just dealing with their own perspective on life. This is called projection. Projection is not personal, why? Because when a person projects they are not in the present moment, they are in their head. I don't think a lot of people understand what a projection is. A projection is just a person placing opinions and judgments on a neutral situation. 

Example: A guy's girlfriend said she is going to the store. This guy was cheated on by his ex-girlfriend with the phrase "I'm going out for a bit. I'll be back in a little while." This guy then projects his past experience onto the present experience and accuses said girlfriend of trying to go out and meet some dude.

Neutral situation: Girlfriend going to the store.

Projection: They must be trying to cheat on me.

Projection happens because of past fear. A trauma, a hurt, that has not yet healed. As a result when something in the present triggers that past hurt, the person relives that fear in the present moment and plays out that fear on you.

So think about this....IT HAS NOTHING TO DO WITH YOU!!

The person is just living in the past. Now in truth all mental illness stem from this. A habit of living from the past and projecting onto the present moment. Even their fears of the future are just projection again. Unresolved fears from the past used as a predictive model to foresee the future. 

As long as you don't live in the present moment, you are always projecting. This is why Eastern Philosophy teaches to be in the present. Drop all judgment, and live in the present. Only when you can do that, does the mental suffering you create vanish. 

Also...go watch Leo's video on Ketamine. It can put this into context as well. 

 

Anyway...don't take it personal when a person is projecting. Because at that moment, they are not even present. They are just reliving their past pain in the present moment. It has nothing to do with you!!!

Edited June 20, 2022 by Razard86