Is favoritism necessary for a peaceful society?

[Zion]

Favoritism definitions:

- Giving preferential treatment to someone or something.

- The practice of giving unfair preferential treatment to one person or group at the expense of another.

 

Is favoritism necessary for a peaceful society? Why or why not?

What are your thoughts about favoritism? 

Is favoritism biological?

Is it necessary?

Why is it important?

How does favoritism contribute to an efficient peaceful society?

Is favoritism healthy for the human race?

What are the pros & cons?

If it is necessary, how can it be practiced in a healthy way?

If it isn't necessary, why? And how does one mature out of it?

What would a world without favoritism look like?

 

Please share your thoughts, let's have a discussion!

 

[Razard86]

Its also nepotism as well. 99.9% percent of the world runs on nepotism. Also no it isn't necessary for a peaceful world but it is the default setting of the world lol. 99.9% of the world is going to look out for themselves, their family, and their friends over strangers and adversaries. If you think that is peaceful....then I don't know what to tell you.

[Oeaohoo]

I like this question so I’ll give it a go.

1 hour ago, Zion said:

Is favoritism necessary for a peaceful society? Why or why not?

Yes. A healthy society needs to have a clear idea of what it values. It needs to be capable of making clear distinctions between insiders and outsiders, friends and enemies. The enforcement of these distinctions might occasionally provoke conflict but greater and graver conflict is sure to ensue in the end from failing to make them.

1 hour ago, Zion said:

What are your thoughts about favoritism? 

I think that one of the most fundamental utopian delusions of our time is the attempt to transcend favouritism. We could call this “the liberal delusion”, or for Spiral Dynamics fans “the Stage Green delusion”, or maybe just “the postmodern delusion”.

To be clear, we could create a society in which favouritism was minimised, but it would require a radical shift in mentality. This delusion, however, is pedalled by people who are often far more identified with their limited human self-identity than any people of the past were.

A society which practised a healthy favouritism would still be able to reach out and help others in need. Ironically, the denial of favouritism has produced forms of it that are very one-sided and unhealthy.

1 hour ago, Zion said:

Is favoritism biological? Is favoritism healthy for the human race?

Is it necessary? Why is it important?

Favouritism is reflected in biology because it is intrinsic to existence. To exist is to “stand apart”, to be separate, to be a limited and partial being. For such a being to be itself and not something else it must (at least at the most fundamental level) prefer to be that thing, otherwise it would be something else! It is as necessary and important as existence itself.

2 hours ago, Zion said:

What are the pros & cons?

If it is necessary, how can it be practiced in a healthy way?

If it isn't necessary, why? And how does one mature out of it?

I think we all know what the cons of excessive favouritism are. If anybody has forgotten, a Hollywood movie or a chat with one of your progressive friends can surely remind you!

1 hour ago, Zion said:

What would a world without favoritism look like?

Say goodbye to the world!

You could never eradicate favouritism from the world because it is intrinsic to existence. In a virtuous and noble society, however, favouritism would be understood as nothing more than one of the infinite faces of God.

[thisintegrated]

Roughly half of the population is susceptible to this.  (All the xxFx types, apart from SFP, and a few others).

It's mostly a problem, and unhealthy.  But I think it has its place.  E.g. you're absolutely supposed to be biased when it comes to romance??

[Zion]

@thisintegrated Why do you think you're supposed to be biased when it comes to romance?

[puporing]

It's not "necessary" but it is currently how God is experiencing reality - through differentiation, seperation. 

More dissolution of the ego and return to the singularity of consciousness will diminish such things. 

Both are valid ways for consciousness to express itself. There's what you might call "limitations" of both. But it is possible for one to increase the embodiment of Love to the point where differentiation is not nearly as important. It's a kind of spectrum you can slide back and forth..

Edited June 11, 2022 by puporing

[puporing]

1 hour ago, Zion said:

@thisintegrated Why do you think you're supposed to be biased when it comes to romance?

It's not necessary either, one can increase the capacity for Loving anyone. 

It's just a tall order as most will at least have some attachment to their survival and limitation with time and energy etc.

Edited June 11, 2022 by puporing

[gettoefl]

favouritism is, i like you if you're like me

if ego runs the show, this won't change 

[thisintegrated]

11 hours ago, Zion said:

@thisintegrated Why do you think you're supposed to be biased when it comes to romance?

10 hours ago, puporing said:

It's not necessary either, one can increase the capacity for Loving anyone. 

It's just a tall order as most will at least have some attachment to their survival and limitation with time and energy etc.

If you love someone, you give them the benefit of the doubt.  You don't treat them with cold logic.  You romanticise them, as a perfect person.

If you're not biased for them, you're not romanticising them, and so it's not romance.  When you flirt with someone, you're not talking to them like they're an ordinary person, you're addressing them as that romanticised image you have of them.

Edited June 11, 2022 by thisintegrated

[GreenWoods]

On 6/10/2022 at 9:36 PM, Zion said:

Is favoritism necessary for a peaceful society?

Yes. In order to have a peaceful society you need to be biased towards peace.

On 6/10/2022 at 9:36 PM, Zion said:

What would a world without favoritism look like?

Chaos.

[Zion]

19 hours ago, GreenWoods said:

Yes. In order to have a peaceful society you need to be biased towards peace.

Right, let's say that's the case. Within this collective bias towards peace, would personal favoritism be needed to accomplish it? If so, to what degree? How much is too much & how would it be done?

I'm realizing more & more the gravity of what I'm asking myself & others to contemplate here. Its basically like asking what is the perfect system that allows for selfishness & selflessness to coincide with one another? What are the ideal ways they should both be practiced to accomplish a balanced system of peace & tranquillity?