Balancing career and pickup

[Ulax]

Hey guys, and particularly Leo,

At the moment, my attention is not on pick up. However, I'm considering restarting my pickup journey in the next 1-2 years, when around 24/ 25.

I'd want to move to a big city and commit to investing a considerable amount of time on it. However, I'm worried about my ability to commit to my life purpose.

At that age, is it wise to make pickup the priority in my life. Is it worth getting a very social job instead of a specifically life purpose job for the period i commit to pick up? Can one reasonably balance the two? I'd like to hear people's personal experiences regarding this.

Thanks in advance.

[puporing]

Depends on what your priority is. Periods where I focused alot more on work stuff (at the expense of social life), started to make me feel depressed. These days I consider forming connections as much of a "life purpose" as anything else. So search your feelings and see what kind of balance works best for you. 

[omartheman]

I would say move to the big city, and at least focus part time on pickup. Maybe work on the life purpose during the weekdays, but have 1 or 2 days on the weekend where you work on pickup. Also, you can spend some periods of time (weeks, months, etc) focusing only on one or the other. Tyler said in Foundations that it doesn't matter how much you do it, as long as you commit to a certain amount of time per week. 

I moved to New Orleans to work on pickup, and now moving to NYC because I think it will be better over there. I want to focus on life purpose as well, but have been making pickup my priority for the past 6 months. For me, life is very difficult to enjoy when I feel like I have no success and options with women, and I've spent my whole life in college, waiting to get out so I could work on pickup. So I'm not about to spend several years more focusing on my life purpose before I get my issues with women fixed. 

Both are valuable to pursue, but I feel that you can't only focus on life purpose when you have issues of lacking contact with women in your life.

[RendHeaven]

What's your LP?

[Ulax]

@RendHeaven Not too sure as yet. Still in the follow your bliss part of it.

[Leo Gura]

Many of the guys I know who game also have day jobs.

One of my wings is a doctor. But he still goes hard Fri & Sat.

Really depends on how much energy you have.

You should be able to manage an LP and still go out twice a week, or do some day game on the weekend.

Most important thing is that you move to a good city.

[Tudo]

56 minutes ago, Leo Gura said:

 

You should be able to manage an LP and still go out twice a week, or do some day game on the weekend.

Most important thing is that you move to a good city.

Really good advice.

[something_else]

I’ve done alright just going out Fri/Sat.

Then I work the rest of the week and do hobbies on week nights.

It’s quite a nice balance and I’m happy with it.

I’m talking to new people almost every day despite not meeting anyone through my job, as it’s completely remote.

Balance is usually a good thing. I feel like if the only thing I was doing was going out and partying I would not be very fulfilled and I’d get burnt out quickly.

IMO you want to have two or three things that you dedicate most of your time to at any given point in your life or you’ll likely get burnt out

 

[StarStruck]

Doing game 2 days per week is ok once you crossed a certain threshold in PUA skills. In the beginning, like first 2-3 weeks of your journey, you should go balls deep to shell shock your system and afterwards dialing it back to 2 days per week is ok. You want to jump in the pool, not only put your toe in the water and come back again next week and do the same. 

Edited June 13, 2022 by StarStruck

[Raptorsin7]

First we get the money, then we get the power, then we get the woman.

 

[flowboy]

On 10/06/2022 at 10:12 AM, Ulax said:

At that age, is it wise to make pickup the priority in my life.

No.

On 10/06/2022 at 10:12 AM, Ulax said:

Is it worth getting a very social job instead of a specifically life purpose job for the period i commit to pick up?

That would be procrastinating on your life purpose.

How much sex do you really need?

You can literally go for a walk during lunch break at work and talk to a few people, get a couple phone numbers.

Costs you no extra time. Do that 5 work days a week, your weekend and next week's evenings will be full of dates.