Really bizarre interactions with a girl

[something_else]

I'm honestly not sure how to process this girl's messages over the past few days. Maybe someone here can give me some insight 

I met this girl at a club on Saturday night, she was there with her friend. I ended up making out with her pretty quick and we stuck around each other most of the night for several hours, making out and dancing, and trying to find her friend a guy.

Towards the end of the night I ended up losing her in the club, she went off to talk with a group of people in the smoking area and I went to the bathroom, when I came back she was talking to a big group of people, including a girl that I'd previously slept with and who just happened to be in the club again that night, WHAT ARE THE FUCKING CHANCES. Anyway, I did not want to deal with that, so I figured I'd come back and find her later when she'd moved away from that group.

Turns out that was a mistake because I couldn't find her later at all. Oh well... I had her snapchat, she snapped me when she was back home but I was already asleep by then. I replied in the morning, she totally blanked me. Oh well... whatever.

Then, then next day she sent me a snap with all the different pricing tiers for buying her nudes??? What in the fuck?? I think I replied 'Lmaooo, you can fuck right off, I'm not paying for something I can get plenty of for free, I'll stick to the real thing thanks' which she, as expected, totally blanked. Again, oh well.

At this point I was seriously questioning if she was a hooker and she was gonna try to get me to pay to fuck her on Saturday, and all the kissing etc. was totally fake.

But... then... today, she sent me a snap saying "Sorry, I just thought you were really cute and I kinda just wanted to get closer to you <3"... What, by getting me to buy your nudes??

What is this girl's game here? Is she actually interested in me, or is she trying to extract money from me?

[Roy]

6 minutes ago, something_else said:

What is this girl's game here? Is she actually interested in me, or is she trying to extract money from me?

You answered your own question in your post.

[something_else]

6 minutes ago, Roy said:

You answered your own question in your post.

I get that it seems really obvious, but she was super into me in-person. And I've made it perfectly clear she's getting no money whatsoever from me and yet she keeps messaging me. That's what confuses me

[Roy]

4 minutes ago, something_else said:

I get that it seems really obvious, but she was super into me in-person. And I've made it perfectly clear she's getting no money whatsoever from me and yet she keeps messaging me. That's what confuses me

Tell her your fuck is so good she should be paying you.

[something_else]

5 minutes ago, Roy said:

Tell her your fuck is so good she should be paying you.

Brilliant 

[Roy]

29 minutes ago, something_else said:

Brilliant 

I mean really just block/ignore/move on as there is nothing really to gain from this, she is a sex worker and just wanted to bait her next client.

If you want to practice persistence though your only real play here is to pull her leg and neg her into getting laid. I would advise just staying away though, probably has STDs or is crazy.

 

[Roy]

 

55 minutes ago, something_else said:

Is she actually interested in me

If she was really interested she would be hiding the fact she sells her body for money, until she brings it up in the relationship later. (Not a moral judgement btw if people want to do that they are free).

Her business strategy is to fake interest and prey on female adoration.

[something_else]

6 minutes ago, Roy said:

I mean really just block/ignore/move on as there is nothing really to gain from this, she is a sex worker and just wanted to bait her next client.

If you want to practice persistence though your only real play here is to pull her leg and neg her into getting laid. I would advise just staying away though, probably has STDs or is crazy.

This is roughly what I am thinking. I'm not going to neg or be toxic in that way, but I'm not gonna get super invested either. If she starts showing heavy interest, I'll play along and see what happens. I'm slightly curious now, more than anything.

She hits a lot of my attraction triggers looks wise, which doesn't help 

[Roy]

Yea you don't have to be outright toxic about it, but you can keep teasing her and see where it leads.

I did this a lot in online dating many years ago as I was trying to get experience. I would push every interaction as far as I possibly could to get practice and learn what works/what doesn't.

[Federico del pueblo]

@something_else This is something that happens a lot more in e.g. Latin American countries, where girls really need to make some money and if they have good looks they earn a little bit by baiting guys and then let them pay for sex.

It's kinda weird. Some of them seem really obviously like hookers but they are just dancing in some night club and you can chat then up.

Others are not so obvious.

And there are probably a lot of mixed cases where the girl might just have sex with a guy after having been picked up, but she also might then still ask for money and it's just kinda odd.

Maybe this girl would've fucked you, but as then some time passed she made up her mind and was like "maybe now I can squeeze some money out of him :)"

 

[something_else]

10 hours ago, Federico del pueblo said:

Maybe this girl would've fucked you, but as then some time passed she made up her mind and was like "maybe now I can squeeze some money out of him :)"

This was what I thought. But she's now telling me she really liked me and wants to get to know me. She lives kinda far away and she's saying she wants to come meet up again when she's next nearby.

But it doesn't make sense to me why she'd start with trying to get me to buy her nudes if that's the case, lol.

Maybe she was attracted to me telling her to get lost after she asked that? Lol. I remember @Leo Gura telling a similar story about a girl texting him to buy her jewellery and him telling her to get lost, next day she sent a message asking to go on a date

[integral]

Low quality women go to clubs, a detail Leo has left out.

[something_else]

1 minute ago, integral said:

Low quality women go to clubs, a detail Leo has left out.

How many girls have you spoken to in clubs in your entire life?

[Federico del pueblo]

4 hours ago, something_else said:

I remember @Leo Gura telling a similar story about a girl texting him to buy her jewellery and him telling her to get lost

Sorry for my bad English but I'm not quite sure what "to get lost" means in this context?! Like to fuck off?

[something_else]

31 minutes ago, Federico del pueblo said:

Sorry for my bad English but I'm not quite sure what "to get lost" means in this context?! Like to fuck off?

Yes, exactly  

[somegirl]

20 hours ago, something_else said:

But... then... today, she sent me a snap saying "Sorry, I just thought you were really cute and I kinda just wanted to get closer to you <3"... What, by getting me to buy your nudes??

Welp, it's obvious to me, might not be to you because you seem to like her, but this "I just wanted to get closer to you" is a bs.

If she really wanted something serious with you and had noble intentions, she wouldn't have sent what she sent. 

20 hours ago, something_else said:

I think I replied 'Lmaooo, you can fuck right off, I'm not paying for something I can get plenty of for free, I'll stick to the real thing thanks' which she, as expected, totally blanked. Again, oh well.

I really like your reply here. You go man! 

Don't let anyone treat you like that. 

What's sad is that this probably has worked out for her so far. I think some guys are really willing to pay her or do anything she asks. And then guys get disappointed why they are not respected sigh.

[zurew]

20 hours ago, something_else said:

I get that it seems really obvious, but she was super into me in-person.

I think she was pretending to be into you in person. Hookers and bitches can play like that .  First try to make you horny and try to play it like they are into you and then they can use the buy my nudes card or to fuck me for money card or to get a bj for money card. Also girls can pretend to be into you , just to get drinks for free.

 

19 hours ago, Roy said:

If she was really interested she would be hiding the fact she sells her body for money, until she brings it up in the relationship later. (Not a moral judgement btw if people want to do that they are free).

Her business strategy is to fake interest and prey on female adoration.

100% agree.

[something_else]

28 minutes ago, somegirl said:

Welp, it's obvious to me, might not be to you because you seem to like her, but this "I just wanted to get closer to you" is a bs.

If she really wanted something serious with you and had noble intentions, she wouldn't have sent what she sent. 

It still doesn't completely add up though, even though I've made it perfectly clear she's getting no money whatsoever (twice), she keeps messaging me.

I like how she looks, and part of me definitely gets off on the idea that I could get a girl that other guys are paying money wishing they had. I'm not sure how healthy that is, but the thought has entered my mind and it makes me feel good.

The way I see it there's no harm in continuing to message her and see where it goes. I'm not fussed if it goes nowhere, but may as well see what happens.

35 minutes ago, somegirl said:

I really like your reply here. You go man! 

Don't let anyone treat you like that. 

What's sad is that this probably has worked out for her so far. I think some guys are really willing to pay her or do anything she asks. And then guys get disappointed why they are not respected sigh.

I honestly cannot get into the mind of a human male who would pay a girl for nudes. If anything, go buy a hooker. The idea of parting with my money to see nudes of a girl is so far out of the realm of consciousness for me that I actually can't empathise with guys who do it. It makes no sense to me.

26 minutes ago, zurew said:

I think she was pretending to be into you in person. Hookers and bitches can play like that .  First try to make you horny and try to play it like they are into you and then they can use the buy my nudes card or to fuck me for money card or to get a bj for money card. Also girls can pretend to be into you , just to get drinks for free.

Idk man, she seems quite invested. If she was really a hooker she would not need to spend so much time on one guy on a night out, she'd move around

She's sent that one thing asking for money, but she's said/sent about 10 different "I'm interested in you" messages. She said she was worried I was a fuck boy and that I'd just use her, lol.

So what makes this so weird is that there's essentially one "pay me for nudes" message in amongst tons of other actions/comments that scream genuine interest

[zurew]

47 minutes ago, something_else said:

Idk man, she seems quite invested. If she was really a hooker she would not need to spend so much time on one guy on a night out, she'd move around

She's sent that one thing asking for money, but she's said/sent about 10 different "I'm interested in you" messages. She said she was worried I was a fuck boy and that I'd just use her, lol.

So what makes this so weird is that there's essentially one "pay me for nudes" message in amongst tons of other actions/comments that scream genuine interest

that "pay me for my nudes" is really strange if she is interested in you for real.  She could be a desperate hooker or idk lmao. But i mean, you can test her and that will tell which assumption is true.

If you really want to, you can keep on chatting with her and see where it goes. If she is not interested in you, she will stop chatting with you, if she is interested, she will stay around more, but who knows.

 

Or it might be the case ,that she really is a hooker, but she is interested in you, and testing you if it would be okay if she was a hooker. But of course this is just speculation.

Edited June 9, 2022 by zurew

[Federico del pueblo]

1 hour ago, somegirl said:

What's sad is that this probably has worked out for her so far. I think some guys are really willing to pay her or do anything she asks. And then guys get disappointed why they are not respected sigh.

Yep, this says a lot about the level many guys are at ?

Btw, if you reply to this you'll 1000 posts ?