Nightgame Logs

[Illusory Self]

Starting up this journal to log my nightgame approaches & to analayse my nights out so I can improve my game.

My plan is to go out Tuesday, Friday & Saturday nights ideally doing 20 approaches a night.

I feel really anxious because this is so far out of my comfort zone but in order to grow I must go into what I am most afraid of. 

[Zeroguy]

Why afraid just have fun.It's numbers game.Enjoy.

[Illusory Self]

07/06/2022  - Tuesday

 

Total approaches: 10

Changing the approaches to 10 a night for probably the first 1-2 months as 20 is overwhelming when starting off. 

Approaches: 10

               

 

What went well?

• I did 10 approaches
• Less nervous towards the second half of approaches (slowed my speech down)
• Spoke to a few guys
• Woman I previously went on a date with thought I was drunk when I was not 

 

 

What went bad?

• Approaches were not as strong as I would of liked
• Didn't know what to say at all after I approached (resorted to boring logical questions)
• No physicality or man to woman frame (to afraid)
• Way to tense & anxious with the approach 
• Didn't seem to enjoy the process of the social interaction 
• Every girl eventually blew me out
• Took to long between approaches
• Don't think it was the best venue choice

 

What will I do better next time?

• Be more dominant & assertive in my approaches
• Try to come up with statements instead of resorting to boring how is your night lines
• Approach quicker

 

 

Summary of the night

• Went out to a bar in my city to simply practice my ability to go up to a stranger & strike up a conversation but ever single set eventually blew me out because I radiated nervous & anxious energy. I did not know what to say at all after the approach. I did however succeed in pushing my comfort zone & I feel better for doing it, challenging myself. Saw a girl who ghosted on me that I went on a date with, I made her laugh a lot just coming out with funny spontaneous lines. She even thought I was drunk when I did not have anything to drink. I did get her number again because I deleted it ages ago. I was feeling tired during the night which probably did not help me at all & was waiting to long between approaches. Mind coming up with all these bs excuses.

Edited June 7, 2022 by Illusory Self

[Illusory Self]

11/06/2022  - Friday

 

Total approaches: 27

Changing the approaches to 10 a night for probably the first 1-2 months as 20 is overwhelming when starting off. 

Approaches: 17

               

 

What went well?

• I approached more women than ever before
• I felt so relaxed in my body like no one was judging
• I almost felt in a drunk state sober
• Got into state super easily
• Managed to get 3 numbers
• Pulled one girl who was grinding on me for a lot of the night (seems down for date)
• Went straight in for the approach even though I did not know what to say
• Hooked at least 5-6 girls just based on my height
• Rejection did not bother me

 

 

What went bad?

• Approaches seemed very forced on the open
• My mind went a lot of the time as I didn't know what to say
• Found it hard to hook the girls attention
• Left club early (2)
• Got very burnt out and tired from talking to all the girls (sore voice)
• Was afraid to physically escalate on a lot of sets
• I often resorted to boring questions because of blank mind
• Body language was tense & stiff on a lot of sets
• Took a while to do warm up sets for state building
• Gave across a nervous vibe/energy sometimes
• Did not lead the convos enough (afraid of leading)
• Girls could not here me in the club

 

 

What will I do better next time?

• Try to do smoother approaches (less forced opens)
• Quickly do warm up sets to get into state
• Learn game on the dance floor without talking
• Spit out whatever thought comes into your head, with no filter
• Lead better

 

 

Summary of the night

Well, I really outdid myself on this night. I had an epiphiney moment to the realization on how much mental filters I put up in my mind. I was learning to let loose and spit out whatever thought came up in my head. I felt free for the first time in social situations, no fear of being judged. Just being myself. I am really happy that I went out tonight & forced myself to just go in and approach, no matter what. Every approach I grow somewhat, just learn from reference experiences. I used to say to myself in my own mind that the approach needs to be perfect but it does not. Just go in and say hi! it is better than not doing anything. Consciousness is so awesome when you reach a state of not caring what other people think and can dance freely. I have a long way to go still but tonight has really shown me glimpses into what is possible. 

 

Notes from when I was out (going to start journaling when I am out so see where I can improve)

10th approach I should of number closedand was hard to talk to her because of the music - maybe do more physical game on the dance floor

It feels easier to approach in the dance floor without even talking, just physicality, 

14th approach seemed into my but my mind went blank, unsure of what to say 

Edited June 11, 2022 by Illusory Self

[Illusory Self]

11/06/2022  - Saturday

 

Total approaches: 47

 

Approaches: 20 ( estimate, was not counting that much) spoke to a lot of guys also but I was just talking to anyone I see for the experience

               

 

What went well?

• Made out with first girl I approached (fit dutch girl)
• I did manage to do some leading, moving around venue
• Approached a lot of girls very quickly
• Some of the night I got into flow state
• Got better at dance game (dancing with girl in club)
• Spoke to basically everyone
• Better body language
• Got 2-3 phone numbers

 

 

What went bad?

• Need more sleep from night before (very tired)
• To much interview style questions
• Did not ask for the first girls number earlier enough
• A lot of neediness/blank mind
• Left club early
• Could of approached more
• Could of been more phsyical 
• To much time talking to guys
• Approaches were not as strong as I would like
• Did not know what to do after she hooked (felt confused)
• Was just aimlessly dancing with the girl after I hooked her (should of tried to build rapport)

 

 

What will I do better next time?

• Have more of a game plan
• Stronger approaches
• Audit my thoughts & be less in my head
• Sleep better
• Try to come up with better conversational topics

 

 

Summary of the night

I am happy that I went out to do 20 approaches tonight, I must repeat this whole process again next week (yawn). Some of the social interactions were fun and some were a bloody chore. I think I am slowly getting more of a confidence boost, like a lot of the girls I was speaking to seemed really into but were not exactly my type (maybe I need to lower my standards). I guess all of this is just reference experience. I did leave early as my throat was bloody sore, probably need to recover for a while now. I am happy I got with the first girl I approached even though she left me later on because I was an aimless AFC..... I did make some girls laugh but to my own expense.. One day I will enjoy socialising, I am sure...... just a lot of the childhood trauma to deal with so gota love myself because none of it is my fault. All of this was done sober 

[Illusory Self]

15/06/2022  - Tuesday

 

Total approaches: 52

 

Approaches: 5

               

 

What went well?

• third girl i approached was attracted to me instantly
• Did some approaches
• Was being physical
• Getting better at jumping different conversational threads

 

 

What went bad?

• Very logical
• Mind went blank a lot
• Did not know how to phsycially escalate and move things forward with girl who was attracted to me
• Could of done more approaches to build state
• Did not know how to sexualize

 

 

What will I do better next time?

• Approach immediatly and hit on loads of girls to build state
• Approach more
• Focus on being in my body relaxed and not trying to manipulate the environment
• Try to have mindset of assuming attraction before approach
• Get less out of my logical mind

 

Summary of the night

I did have some learning experiences tonight but I did leave the place early and did not do many approaches. I find the longer I leave it, the worse I feel inside of my own mind about approaching a woman. I got instant attraction from this 1 cute girl from switzerland but it was hard to talk to her and I had no idea how to escalate. The conversation was very boring I felt and was putting a lot of internal pressure on what to do next. I could of fucked her if I had better game. Kept on getting a lot of voices inside my mind of unworthiness ect when I was speaking to her. One of my wings told me to reopen her again but I probs DLVED myself because there was a lot of silence in the interaction. She said she wil text me but I highly doubt it. 

[Illusory Self]

25/06/2022  - Friday

 

Total Approaches: 62

 

Approaches: 10

               

 

What went well?

• Made a lot of girls laugh
• Approached quite a bit to begin with
• Girls were attracted to me
• Making a lot of statements

 

 

What went bad?

• Could not lead (afraid of leading)
• Mind went blank a lot - did not know what to say
• Left club early and was not doing any approaches at the end of the night (was tired) 
• Approaches were not that direct and strong (mediocre)
• Cringed one girl out who was into my by saying something cringy

 

 

What will I do better next time?

• Approach immediatly, even when I leave the house to get into state 
• Incorporate the 3s rule
• Lead the interaction/conversation
• Be more physical (man:woman frame)

 

Summary of the night

Happy with the night as I definitely feel like I have somewhat improved on my socialisation skills. I spoke to some guys/girls and I know what went wrong. I should of approached more consistently however as a lot of the time I was not in the right mindstate or headspace to. Approaches are not very strong at all, very mediocre because I feel a sense of shame/anxiety by stating my true intentions to a woman. Honestly like 90% of the women I spoke to seemed to be attracted to me/hooked and I felt like I good of fucked them if my game was better. My social skills and fear of leading the sets is what is holding me back. Going to go out tonight and try to have a freedome from outcome/detatchment mindset. Learning to enjoy the art of the conversation process. I will just get in there even if they don't like me. Assume that they do. Also I heavily need to work on dance floor game as most of the time was spent in the smoking area. 

[Illusory Self]

26/06/2022  - Saturday

 

Total Approaches: 72

 

Approaches: 10

               

 

What went well?

• Good vibe most of the time
• Fucked a girl
• Got out of logical mind
• Approaches were more smooth
• Enjoying the convo process most of the time
• Hooked a girl hard
• Lead the girl to my place rather smoothly
• Was making a lot of statements

 

 

 

What went bad?

• Afraid to lead/sexualise on most sets
• Jumped out of sets to quickly as I wanted them to be perfect
• Didn't approach as much as I could of
• Was not the best in the bedroom
• Girl I fucked was not the most attractive

 

What will I do better next time?

• Open more sets
• Learn to completely get out of logical mind and speak with no filter 
• Figure out a method to deal with girls friends
• More emotional less logical
• Just get in there
• Set a more man-woman frame

 

Summary of the night

Managed to get a lay with this rather quite petite french girl (bordeline-average face). It was a good fuck and she left because she wanted to see her friend as she is only in my town for the night. Happy with myself for completely taking ownership and leading the interaction. I felt it was a rather smooth process. She even thought I was an extrovert. I did around 10 or so approaches before that which went okay. Honestly most girls give me signals that they want to fuck me but the main obstacle that I seem to be encountering is there friends. I felt a very loose vibe and freedom from outcome. Girls pick up in the sub-comms and vibe behind a person. I lowered my standards to fuck this girl, simply for a reference experience. Something to analyze. 

[Illusory Self]

02/07/2022  - Friday

 

Total Approaches: 92

 

Approaches: 10

               

 

What went well?

• Girl asked me to come back to hers but I declined
• Good vibe towards the end
• Most girls seemed attracted to me
• Felt more masculine at the end

 

 

 

What went bad?

• Mind went blank on a neutral set so jumped out to quickly without ploughing
• Not enough approaches
• Didn't approach the really hot girls (to nervous)
• Took a long time to get into state because of the lack of approaches
• Meek approaches (not strong enough)
• Wasted a lot of time in sets that where going nowhere
• Guy was being semi aggresive with me

 

What will I do better next time?

• Do a stronger open
• More approaches
• Get into state faster
• Be more efficient with my time
• Hold more of a masculine frame

 

[Illusory Self]

09/07/2022  - Friday

 

Total Approaches: 102

 

Approaches: 10

               

 

What went well?

• Got 4 phone numbers
• Most girls seemed attracted to me
• Good masculine body language
• Girls I approached were down to talk

 

 

 

What went bad?

• Not enough approaches
• Took a long time to get into good state
• Very awkward at the beginning
• Afraid of sexualizing (played it safe by getting the number)
• I often did not know what to talk about
• Quite a few silences in the interactions
• Afraid of being physical with the girl

 

 

What will I do better next time?

• Approach more
• Good eye contact
• Commanding vocal tonality
• Flirt and sexualize with the girl

[assx95]

Wow Man! Nice to see the progress !