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Is sex the most important aspect of life ?

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4 hours ago, Someone here said:

@something_else @Danioover9000 @Federico del pueblo this post is directed to the three of you because you three have quoted the same post of mine..

First of all like I said it varies from person to person. It depends on your age ,your diet ,your genetics,your lifestyle etc 

But just a couple of points:

1.So let’s get into the guts of it . on a cellular level.. When you ejaculate, you lose nutrients from your body. Most of the nutrients are lost in trace amounts, but zinc, selenium, and copper are significant and cause significant issues.

2.watching porn and fappping to it does rewire the brain to be responsive to porn and masturbation rather than real sex .check out the site  www.yourbrainonporn.com

https://www.google.com/url?sa=t&source=web&rct=j&url=https://www.yourbrainonporn.com/relevant-research-and-articles-about-the-studies/dopamine-and-addiction/&ved=2ahUKEwir3N3F7pH4AhU5gv0HHUv8CoYQFnoECAcQAQ&usg=AOvVaw1SJHKHZ3W7FiS9ECU-ms6U

3.yes you can use a light grip or hump a pillow .but most people actually do it the way monkey does it .they beat the shit out of their dick .because another side effect of chronic masturbation is desensitisation of the penis .you start feel less pleasure down there If you've been fapping for years .so you must use a fast tight grip. Or what's called "death grip". And otherwise you cannot reach an orgasm from gentle light strokes .

4.And don’t forget when you ejaculate, the good hormones and chemicals in your body are DECREASED - Serotonin (happy drug), Oxytocin (love drug), and Dopamine (euphoria drug). These hormones  are produced in high levels when you watch porn and ejaculate. But what goes up, must come down. So these chemicals and hormones are decreased, but that then causes Prolactin to increase. An increase in Prolactin can mean poor moods, tiredness, and difficulty getting an erection.

5. There is no question about it .masturbation and porn are an addiction. Sexual orgasm is the single most potent activity that triggers release of dopamine in your brain. Most teenagers are addicted to it .because they want to stop but they can't. 

 

   Dude, I was mostly agree with your points, only adding some differences from my experiences man.:D

1. I agree.

2.I agree

3. I agree, but for me I can also go off on gentle strokes or humping. Just saying. Mostly never found myself death gripping, unless I'm like fapping with the beats to the musicxD

4. I agree, endocrine system must calibrate to decreases or drastic decreases in certain hormones.

5. I agree, if you can't survive without porn for a few days or a week, you have, what I'd call, a compulsive addiction.

 

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Personally I don’t care much for it. It’s nice and all but there are other things in life I find more enjoyable.

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Romance is the most important thing in a relationship.

Sex is secondary.

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5 minutes ago, eTorro said:

Romance is the most important thing in a relationship.

Sex is secondary.

I agree. All the sex I've had without romance is basically just masturbating using another persons body.

Casual sex is highly overrated, even when it's good.


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On 02/06/2022 at 11:37 PM, Someone here said:

as expected tons of rejections

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I know for a fact I won't have sex in less than 5 years because I have a university degree to finish

Why are you expecting tons of rejections?

Why are you holding a belief that you won't succeed at what you are trying to do by talking to these girls?

I can only assume that your mindset is working against you.

The built-in excuse to fail, we all have that mechanism.

Goes like this:

- I'm talking to girls, so I can say that I'm trying, but then also I hold this belief that I don't have time for sex because of university, and I expect to get rejected a ton, so that when I do, it will soften the blow.

I did the same thing for a long time, but I find it important to catch that.

Here's why: the reason you are getting rejected, is because you expect to.

If you go up to someone with the idea in your mind that they will probably reject you, they WILL (some of them will be friendly, but none of them will want to date) - exactly because that energy can be felt. It's the energy of not fully going for it. You can be sure of it that women can always feel it from you that you expect rejection, and will then automatically comply with that expectation.

Another way to say it is: you're not willing to get hurt. You can't win if you're not willing to lose.

Probably if someone would watch you talk to women, they would spot all kinds of obvious self-sabotaging patterns, that are just there to keep you consistent with your belief that you won't succeed TODAY, or in less than 5 years.

I'm saying this because I was the same, in a bad way.

I'd literally preframe my proposals with "you probably gonna say no, but would you like to have coffee sometime", that's how obvious it was in my case. I still cringe writing this. And of course it came with all these shifty looks, not holding eye contact, tension, nervous speaking, et cetera.

If you decide with your full being that you get laid this week, you will.

But maybe you find that you don't really want to - maybe you're not ready, maybe there's something scary about it.

Maybe it's really not a priority for you right now. And that's okay too.

But in that case, you can skip the talking to a girl a day practice - for if you're not fully trying, fully wanting to succeed, fully willing to get hurt and humiliated, all you're doing is teaching yourself how to fail with women. So you can also quit that, and spend more time on your degree.

Either choice is valid. But as long as you have this inner conflict, women will feel that you're not really in, and not really out, and it will make them unattracted.


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