is self criticism bad for us ?

[Max8]

i do criticize myself harshly when i make a mistake or fail 

i mean really harshly i feel very terrible and talk to myself in a very harsh way that you could hear me screaming 

and i enjoy it to be honest i dont know why 

i deeply feel like it's effective method to get my ass moving 

 

but lately i have been having great procrastination and fear of doing the work im assuming thats due to fear of failure and victimhood 

i dont know if there is other effective way to motivate myself 

and i dont know if i should keep this habit or not 

[Carl-Richard]

No. Excessive, compulsive and recursive self-criticism can be.

[Razard86]

29 minutes ago, Max8 said:

i do criticize myself harshly when i make a mistake or fail 

i mean really harshly i feel very terrible and talk to myself in a very harsh way that you could hear me screaming 

and i enjoy it to be honest i dont know why 

i deeply feel like it's effective method to get my ass moving 

 

but lately i have been having great procrastination and fear of doing the work im assuming thats due to fear of failure and victimhood 

i dont know if there is other effective way to motivate myself 

and i dont know if i should keep this habit or not 

You are a victim of perfectionism. You probably grew up in an environment that normalized this as being tough. Its a form of tough love, and it can serve a purpose....but in truth any judgment of yourself does damage. How you talk to yourself is also how you will talk to others ultimately and how you will view the world at large. 

You should be kinder to yourself, as a finite being you are going to make mistakes. To be human is to be imperfect, and that imperfection is actually perfection. In every moment of your life seek to become more aware of the different aspects of what you are....and then embrace it all. Allow your life to be a life-long session of love of yourself.

[VioletFlame]

As it's good to be your own best friend, sometimes you must also learn to be your own best critic. 

[Razard86]

37 minutes ago, VioletFlame said:

As it's good to be your own best friend, sometimes you must also learn to be your own best critic. 

If you are going to critique yourself be gentle.....you only need to kick yourself in the bum sometimes. Extend a hand of kindness only slap yourself out of stubborness lol.

 

3 hours ago, Max8 said:

i do criticize myself harshly when i make a mistake or fail 

i mean really harshly i feel very terrible and talk to myself in a very harsh way that you could hear me screaming 

and i enjoy it to be honest i dont know why 

i deeply feel like it's effective method to get my ass moving 

 

but lately i have been having great procrastination and fear of doing the work im assuming thats due to fear of failure and victimhood 

i dont know if there is other effective way to motivate myself 

and i dont know if i should keep this habit or not 

 

Watch this video by Leo. https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=uk2dvilKdRo

[Yarco]

You need some degree of self-criticism to be constantly improving. But too much and you become neurotic or suffer self-esteem issues.

[gettoefl]

be ten times as hard on yourself as you are on others, don't criticise yourself, just do the damn work no excuses

become master of your ship - and quick