If people are being mean to you in their journal, please block them.

[Preety_India]

5 minutes ago, Loba said:

Carl, I have a question - do you keep report history available?  Because that chick was goaded me and the other dude into an argument nearly the whole day.  I had reported those before asking my question here, and they were removed by either the girl or a mod, but I am not sure by who.  This chick isn't some innocent bystander or anything like that, she surmised I was talking with someone by following them, and me around on this website and then started freaking out about it.

I wasn't paranoid about you. You were gossiping about me. So I wasn't off the mark. Maybe mods need to check your pms. Or you have deleted those pms. I was  freaking out for the right reasons because you gossip about people and then come around and attack them in their journals. How about admitting your pathetic gossiping behaviour on others personal lives. Gossip hurts. Others life is none of your business Madam

[Michael569]

@Knowledge Hoarder let's keep this conversation clear of toxic attacks, shall we. I'm deleting your comment and consider this a warning. Thanks!

[Loba]

@Knowledge Hoarder My life is honestly fantastic, thank you.  

Where is your talent?  I genuinely don't see it.  You sound like someone with a bug up their butt.

As for my "traumas"; I don't care one way or the other what people think of them.  You see you have to understand, I really... really don't care about your opinion of me.  It genuinely means nothing.  So feel free to air out your grievances, I'll go about my day, doing what I love each and every day.  Cheers.

The thing is, you are so low on my radar, I don't even have the care nor the energy to "feel" anything by your pithy little outcry.  You wasted your time, kid, on disliking someone who feels not dislike nor like towards you, but just a complete and general blank.  You're literally not on the radar.

Edited June 6, 2022 by Loba

[Preety_India]

6 minutes ago, Knowledge Hoarder said:

Noones gonna ban me, cause guess what: I mostly provide actual value in my posts, unlike you, and when I have a beef with someone, I adress the person directly. Not gossip like a coward. And even if they ban me, or give me warning points, I could give 3 shits, honestly.

Exactly she gossips like a coward behind people's back. Acts innocent on the front. Starts shit of her own accord. Attacks everyone on their journals but cannot take it when she is attacked. Says everything contradictory. Says she doesn't want drama in her journals and that she is so busy with her life. 

So she is so busy that she finds time for gossip? And gossip is such a trash activity tbh. This is not like some low level neighborhood. This stuff happens in trailer park lol

This is what she wrote in her journal. 

 

 

So she purposely throws herself directly into people's conflicts, writes in big bold letters. Completely demonizes a person's character and sense of self worth, parades that person around the forum, harasses them non stop and when she is called out on her endless non stop bitchiness, she acts high and mighty and goes back to her journal, and then says how she doesn't want drama and how she is busy and valuable are her contributions blah blah blah blah... She is the reason why I did not talk on the forum for 2 full years. Because she threatened me so badly. I was severely traumatized by this woman's attacks. 

She has harassed me on this forum for almost 4 years now. 

Someone who is accusing me of stalking should probably look in the mirror. 

She harassed the user Modmyth for almost a full year. And Modmyth talked about it to me. We even approached Nahm about it. 

This woman had an account called @Keyhole on this forum. Before that she had the account @Annetta which was banned/removed. 

She told me that she had close to 17 warming points on her @Keyhole account. She had been accumulating warning points for harassing people. Then she didn't want to be banned. 

Then she approached the guy Gesundheit (who was also previously banned and this is his second account) and he helped her to create the account Loba. She herself told me all this. 

Because of her a user left the forum multiple times, I won't take their name, but she used to harass him in the journals. 

She has the longest history of harassing people and then going quietly into her journals and starts victim narrative. 

Nobody told her to do this. She herself engaged in gossip, decided to jump right into the conflict, the guy did not even want any action, she did this all on her own. 

But when called out, she will pretend she was never interested. 

 

 

[Loba]

If you're literally so soft that one person's opinion on your "writing" is enough for you to sit around feeling waves of resentment, while they're off living their life without you in mind in one, tiny bit - then you are way too soft and the world is going to eat you alive.  Writers are a dime a dozen, you have to actually stand out from the crowd in that regard.  That's the cold truth for your soft underbelly.

If your mentality only goes so far as what other people think of you, you're not going to lead a good life, no matter how much work you put into it.

If someone told me they didn't like my art, or my writing, I wouldn't care - it's mostly for me.  I literally would give it maybe a second thought to see if they have something better - but I wouldn't say "so and so has nothing to contribute at all" based on my "feelings" about how they view my craft.  So you, basically, just want people to stroke your ego - and you look down on people that you don't view as living the life you are.

What's there to even like or even really..."anything"... with a person with that mentality, you're literally just feeding me your insecurities for me to spit back out into truth.  You don't stand out.  All that energy wasted on resentfulness on someone who doesn't really care much one way or the other - that is a pitiful position to be in.

You should write for yourself in such a way that it relinquishes these issues, magnum opus, but you haven't even really chipped away at that ego.  You should, ideally, be realizing we have life as a gift, and to gift yourself your own talents, to see where your soul takes you, but instead you pay grievance to the peanut gallery.   

If I cared about what people thought of my art, I wouldn't do it.  I do it for myself in order to transcend. 

Edited June 6, 2022 by Loba

[Zeroguy]

https://m.youtube.com/watch?v=Wxv6LOF61r0&t=1008s

 

[Carl-Richard]

@Loba @Preety_India

Anybody fancy some coerced mutual blocking? Pros and cons?

[Loba]

@Carl-Richard I have her on block and have been ignoring her.  Literally the moment I said I would I did and never looked back.  It's great.  I love it.

 

[Loba]

So you wanna be a writer?  You don't have it in you, to write, you have to be on the edge of your soul, no barriers held, you mentioned reddit - because they didn't give you the accolades for your trolling you felt you deserved.  Instead they saw it for what it was, voted you down and you brought that here - also by putting down people you think are below you.  Yes, I do indeed don't think you are cut out for what you think you can do.  But by all means, bring it to a school, bring it to professionals and see what they have to say.

If you're not on the edge of some form of death - don't bring the arts into your vision, you're not ready.

[Preety_India]

Just now, Loba said:

@Carl-Richard I have her on block and have been ignoring her.  Literally the moment I said I would I did and never looked back.  It's great.  I love it.

 

If you have me on block then it's disingenuous to continue to talk about stalking which is basically directed at me. Blocking does not mean that you get to block a person and still get to talk about them. That's not the objective of blocking. 

I think blocking should also include no gossip about the person who is blocked. Or do you still get to talk to the whole forum demonizing me and then say I am blocked. Huh????? 

@Carl-Richard

 

 

[Preety_India]

@Carl-Richard explain me this thing that shouldn't blocking mean that the person no longer talks about you? 

Or they keep running their mouth forever and then admit that they have blocked. 

This is looking funny. 

Can you explain me the objective of blocking here? 

 

[Preety_India]

@Knowledge Hoarder the mod is telling us that there should be mutual blocking. Don't you think that it's absurd that someone says that they have blocked but they continue to talk about you 

So what was the point of blocking then, why did they block?

[Michael Jackson]

@Preety_India

Everyone here knows that @Loba is a bit strange... She has a drinking problem and this transfers to her behaviour on the forum. Treat her with care, but don't take her seriously.

Peace.

[Michael569]

This thread has spiralled downhill quickly today. Guys, please just focus on your work and stop bickering about who did what and who said what. As you can see, nobody is benefiting from that and you're wasting your precious time. Closing this thread for a few days to give everyone an opportunity to focus on what matters. 

Thanks! 

[Carl-Richard]

@Michael569 I considered locking the thread earlier, but you beat me to it  

 

7 hours ago, Preety_India said:

the mod is telling us that there should be mutual blocking. Don't you think that it's absurd that someone says that they have blocked but they continue to talk about you 

So what was the point of blocking then, why did they block?

It doesn't work as well when you're not also blocking her (it's not mutual blocking), but again, it's not an effective solution. It's about pragmatics: making people less likely to get into conflict. It doesn't stop people talking about you, but it stops people talking to you. It might seem stupid right now, but I think if we tried it out, it would have more positive effects over time. However, I'm not sure how to know for certain when somebody is blocking somebody or not 

[Michael569]

Thread reopened, let's be nice to each other this time   

[Loba]

So, I have this person blocked, but every time I check the user's online list - I like to see if someone is on a more interesting page than what I can find, which isn't often - this person is scouring this list "checking up" on people i.e. stalking them - which is what started this whole mess - because they were stalking who I was talking to and flipping out in their journal at me and the other party -  and this is the third time I have caught them going through my journal, and that's just from me happening to be on the same page.

So how is this mutual blocking supposed to work when the person in question can't listen to a basic request?

I don't want anything to do with this person, they manipulate, lie, bait and switch and stalk.
Stay away from my work - focus on yourself.  Completely.

Edited June 12, 2022 by Loba

[Preety_India]

@Michael569 I don't think reading someone's journal is stalking. 

[Zeroguy]

I agree with @Loba.Wondered how this user is not permanently banned by now.You missed that she enjoys creating drama.Real narcissist.

[Preety_India]

@Zeroguy by that definition, you read my journal all the time. Then according to you and @Loba you must be stalking me too.