Fighting Comfort

[Steph1988]

Hello everyone my first post here,

 

My life is kinda comfortable, almost too much at the moment as was most of my life .Let me describe the situation

- 28 years old

- Recently moved back with my parents

- Lots of free time i work an average of 3 days a week for a reasoneble full time salary and i saved up lots of money 

- having a slight YouTube and video game addiction 

- social situation is good tho i have good friends and a loving relaxed family

- dating life is nonexistent at the moment

- i am never bored and i have lots of interests and hobby's but they keep me inside the house 

So this situation doesn't look too bad on paper but i am a little worried because it does not really go anywhere, i have my interests but i have no intention too monetize any of them,I work as a cook in a restaurant and i like cooking but i do it with little passion and i enjoy fooling around with my colleagues more, it feels like a chore. 

I don't feel any passion for the jobs i come across and even tho i work well i almost always do them with indifference.

I successfully started working out tho which i do almost every day so that's a start. I failed at a meditation habit which i might try again ( that for me is infinity harder then going to the gym ) I am also interested in writing down my thoughts and this might be a good place to start.

But overall i am fighting comfort which drags me back time and time again. 

I do not feel like complaining too much tho but i wonder how many other people are in similar situations ( comfortable but without exitement )

While i see a lot of lives around me which are lived without any soul, i am conscious of it. 

Anyway whats your thoughts?

 

 

 

 

 

 

[Christian]

Well, as you are describing your situation, you say you have a loving family, good friends and a job at a restaurant. That is good, but you say your dating life is non-existant which I can imagine is frustrering. 

According to Maslow's hierachy of needs, it seems like you have your basic needs for food, shelter, friendships and security covered. That means you lack intimate relationships and self actualization and you say your biggest sticking point is comfort, but on the other hand you have lots of free time since you only work 3-days per week. 

This is good because you have a lot of free time to build your life. But that free time will be wasted if not used wisely. And you need to tackle this issue of comfort. 

I think really that you really have to be kind of serious here. Take a serious attitude toward your life and when you want to make a change, but a thought strikes that wants you to go back to comfort, you have to exert will power. The deciding factor in your life is the moment inbetween stimulus and response. Be the captain of your own ship and steer your life with self discipline and consistency every day. I hope you can see what I mean on an emotional level here -- this issue is centralized around your emotions so pay close attention to them. 

Good luck  

 

[Life Coach]

Looks pretty solid, the only thing I would change is the job. I would try to monitize my passion. But other than that, I'd keep my comfort and my hobbies. Hell I'd game every day for 12 hours if I could. Listen...do what you want and what you feel is right. Don't let others shame or belittle you or tell you what the fuck to do. If someone comes along and says shit like "You live with your parents, whats wrong with you?" or "you don't date and have no gf? what a fucking loser, only plays videogames all day." Then your only answer is "Fuck you lady, I do what I want and how I want. I live my life as it pleases me, and if you have a problem, you can solve this by getting the fuck out of here."

[Steph1988]

Thanks for the reactions.

I have gotten more interested in self improvement the last 2 years i follow this forum for a while now and somehow felt the urge to share this.

 

[Trond]

Become aware who you're fighting against. It's you! You are the one creating blocks for yourself. The good thing is, you have the power to change that.

Yes, you should absolutely do what makes you happy. Try to come up with ideas of how you can maybe make some money with that. 

If you feel that you are down in the dump, there's only one way to go, and that's up! 

Continue your workout habit, that is very good. Give yourself credit for those things that you manage to do. Realise that YOU are the one motivating yourself to do that, so why would you not be able to start a meditation habit, or anything else? You can :-) 

Try to see the good things that you ARE doing and build on that. That will gradually manifest in other aspects of your life as well. 

 

[Nahm]

@Steph1988 Clean up your mental connotations of meditation. Your initial exposure must have given you the impression it is work or something. It a letting go practice. A me time. Relax and be with the universe time. It is where your answers will come from.  The desires you want to focus more into your life will come from thin air in the middle of the day, if you meditate every morning.