Preety_India

How to practice love?

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List

List. 

 

  1. Attention awareness 
  2. Physical proximity. 
  3. Connection - core of love. Love is connection. Connecting with the person. Physical, emotional, intellectual, spiritual connection
  4. Taking good care. Care for its needs. Creates an attachment. Love is biased
  5. Having its back. Loyal. 
  6. Taking on its agenda as your own 
  7. Making its agenda an extension of yours
  8. Treating others as well as you'd like to be treated yourself 
  9. Celebrating their success. 
  10. Wanting for it what it wants for itself 
  11. Sacrificing for them 
  12. Supporting, nurturing, encouraging 
  13. It's equally sovereign to you. Respect sovereignty 
  14. Total acceptance of it 
  15. Appreciation
  16. See its intrinsic beauty 
  17. Not needing anything from them
  18. Respecting their pov
  19. Listening and caring to their interests
  20. Togetherness and company. Collaboration 
  21. Being there when they are at their lowest 
  22. Helping the other not to feel lonely 
  23. Validating feelings... How are you feeling 
  24. Share emotions 
  25. Empathize with them
  26. Meeting the other where they are at 
  27. Understanding and forgiveness 
  28. Being patient 
  29. Seeing the God and the good in them 
  30. Recognition of its uniqueness
  31. Generosity and kindness
  32. Verbal approval and praise 
  33. Keeping promises 
  34. Peace. Maintaining peace 
  35. Telling the truth 
  36. Safety and trust... Don't break the trust 
  37. Seeing the other's realness.. Seeing it as it is, not in some improved way 
  38. Deep appreciation 
  39. Accepting its selfishness 

 

What breaks love 

  1. Violence 
  2. Abuse
  3. Hate
  4. Anger
  5. Judgement 
  6. Criticism 
  7. Fear
  8. Lying
  9. Exploitation 
  10. Cheating 
  11. Stealing
  12. Neglect 
  13. Not Making time for 
  14. Not listening 
  15. Control 
  16. Domination 
  17. Manipulation 
  18. Demonization 
  19. Moralization 
  20. Blame 
  21. Disrespect
  22. Ridicule
  23. Breaking promises 
  24. Projection 
  25. Gaslighting 
  26. Not caring for other's suffering 
  27. Punishment especially punishing for other's mistakes 
  28. Revenge 
  29. Closed mindedness 
  30. Trying to change the other to fit a fantasy 
  31. Selfishness

 

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In the Vast Expanse everything that arises is Lively Awakened Awareness.

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@Arthogaan another song that makes me feel love. 

My heart is like an open highway.... 

 

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On 2022-05-22 at 6:44 AM, Preety_India said:What breaks love 

 

  1. Violence 
  2. Abuse
  3. Hate
  4. Anger
  5. Judgement 
  6. Criticism 
  7. Fear
  8. Lying
  9. Exploitation 
  10. Cheating 
  11. Stealing
  12. Neglect 
  13. Not Making time for 
  14. Not listening 
  15. Control 
  16. Domination 
  17. Manipulation 
  18. Demonization 
  19. Moralization 
  20. Blame 
  21. Disrespect
  22. Ridicule
  23. Breaking promises 
  24. Projection 
  25. Gaslighting 
  26. Not caring for other's suffering 
  27. Punishment especially punishing for other's mistakes 
  28. Revenge 
  29. Closed mindedness 
  30. Trying to change the other to fit a fantasy 
  31. Selfishness

If you let go of all this you'll probably end up in love.

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@WelcometoReality how do you even know that im engaging in all that? 

Your own assumption and projection??? 

You don't even know me. 

 

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Just now, Preety_India said:

@WelcometoReality not easy for an abuse survivor. 

Not easy for anyone ? but yeah especially if you have trauma. It's not like you have to let go of everything at once. Just that which you're willing to let go of now.

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1 minute ago, Preety_India said:

@WelcometoReality how do you even know that im engaging in all that? 

Your own assumption and projection??? 

You don't even know me. 

 

I don't know that. If you're not engaging in some of it then you don't need to let it go. 

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2 minutes ago, WelcometoReality said:

I don't know that. If you're not engaging in some of it then you don't need to let it go. 

How about stop assuming bullshit? 

I spent majority of my life in abusive relationships not knowing what love meant. Or what respect meant. 

So the top list is helping me to understand healthy forms of love. 

 

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5 minutes ago, Preety_India said:

How about stop assuming bullshit? 

I spent majority of my life in abusive relationships not knowing what love meant. Or what respect meant. 

So the top list is helping me to understand healthy forms of love. 

 

I'm actually not assuming anything about you.

Yeah understanding the top list is good then.

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59 minutes ago, Preety_India said:

@WelcometoReality how do you even know that im engaging in all that? 

Your own assumption and projection??? 

You don't even know me. 

I've definitely been guilty of many on the lower list.

 

The top list is extensive and good imo. 

The ones that I resonated with most is nr 14 and 17. 

What does nr 26 mean to you?

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On 5/22/2022 at 0:44 AM, Preety_India said:

List

List. 

 

  1. Attention awareness 
  2. Physical proximity. 
  3. Connection - core of love. Love is connection. Connecting with the person. Physical, emotional, intellectual, spiritual connection
  4. Taking good care. Care for its needs. Creates an attachment. Love is biased
  5. Having its back. Loyal. 
  6. Taking on its agenda as your own 
  7. Making its agenda an extension of yours
  8. Treating others as well as you'd like to be treated yourself 
  9. Celebrating their success. 
  10. Wanting for it what it wants for itself 
  11. Sacrificing for them 
  12. Supporting, nurturing, encouraging 
  13. It's equally sovereign to you. Respect sovereignty 
  14. Total acceptance of it 
  15. Appreciation
  16. See its intrinsic beauty 
  17. Not needing anything from them
  18. Respecting their pov
  19. Listening and caring to their interests
  20. Togetherness and company. Collaboration 
  21. Being there when they are at their lowest 
  22. Helping the other not to feel lonely 
  23. Validating feelings... How are you feeling 
  24. Share emotions 
  25. Empathize with them
  26. Meeting the other where they are at 
  27. Understanding and forgiveness 
  28. Being patient 
  29. Seeing the God and the good in them 
  30. Recognition of its uniqueness
  31. Generosity and kindness
  32. Verbal approval and praise 
  33. Keeping promises 
  34. Peace. Maintaining peace 
  35. Telling the truth 
  36. Safety and trust... Don't break the trust 
  37. Seeing the other's realness.. Seeing it as it is, not in some improved way 
  38. Deep appreciation 
  39. Accepting its selfishness 

 

What breaks love 

  1. Violence 
  2. Abuse
  3. Hate
  4. Anger
  5. Judgement 
  6. Criticism 
  7. Fear
  8. Lying
  9. Exploitation 
  10. Cheating 
  11. Stealing
  12. Neglect 
  13. Not Making time for 
  14. Not listening 
  15. Control 
  16. Domination 
  17. Manipulation 
  18. Demonization 
  19. Moralization 
  20. Blame 
  21. Disrespect
  22. Ridicule
  23. Breaking promises 
  24. Projection 
  25. Gaslighting 
  26. Not caring for other's suffering 
  27. Punishment especially punishing for other's mistakes 
  28. Revenge 
  29. Closed mindedness 
  30. Trying to change the other to fit a fantasy 
  31. Selfishness

 

I agree with everything except Love is biased....a bias is judgment. But other than that GREAT POST. This post should be studied and used as a reference tool. GREAT POST!!!!

You are a selfless LACK OF APPEARANCE, that CONSTRUCTS AN APPEARANCE. But that appearance can disappear and reappear and we call that change, we call it time, we call it space, we call it distance, we call distinctness, we call it other. But notice...this appearance, is a SELF. A SELF IS A CONSTRUCTION!!! 

So if you want to know the TRUTH OF THE CONSTRUCTION. Just deconstruct the construction!!!! No point in playing these mind games!!! No point in creating needless complexity!!! The truth of what you are is a BLANK!!!! A selfless awareness....then that means there is NO OTHER, and everything you have ever perceived was JUST AN APPEARANCE, A MIRAGE, AN ILLUSION, IMAGINARY. 

Everything that appears....appears out of a lack of appearance/void/no-thing, non-sense (can't be sensed because there is nothing to sense). That is what you are, and what arises...is made of that. So nonexistence, arises/creates existence. And thus everything is solved.

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Didn't Leo have an episode on 'How to Practice Love' recently?

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@hyruga yea it's taken from it. 

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