Infinity of God's-does it mean?

[Preety_India]

Infinity of God's.... Does it mean at a certain level I can love my abuser? 

 

[Leo Gura]

You don't need an infinity of Gods for that. You can access love for your abuser at a much lower level of consciousness.

Obviously you understand that your abuser was acting out of ignorance and selfishness, the same dynamic that runs all finite beings, including yourself.

[Preety_India]

18 minutes ago, Leo Gura said:

You don't need an infinity of Gods for that. You can access love for your abuser at a much lower level of consciousness.

Obviously you understand that your abuser was acting out of ignorance and selfishness, the same dynamic that runs all finite beings, including yourself.

How would you differentiate between love for an abuser and Stockholm Syndrome?

Because I suffer from Stockholm Syndrome and that's why I'm not able to tell if I'm really loving my abuser. 

 

[The0Self]

1 minute ago, Preety_India said:

How would you differentiate between love for an abuser and Stockholm Syndrome?

Because I suffer from Stockholm Syndrome and that's why I'm not able to tell if I'm really loving my abuser. 

 

Imagine being in love with Brad Pitt, even when he's playing the role of Hitler (or "bad person" / whomever).

[yetineti]

@Preety_India

3 minutes ago, Preety_India said:

How would you differentiate between love for an abuser and Stockholm Syndrome?

Because I suffer from Stockholm Syndrome and that's why I'm not able to tell if I'm really loving my abuser. 

 

The reasons. 
 

Most likely, the general, nonspecific, forgiving reason are not the real ones in this scenario.

If you’re thinking things like ‘they’re a person too, that’s why they did it, selfishness, etc’

Thats a good starting place but not good enough to forgive them in a way that isn’t Stockholm syndrome.

For that you’d need to suffer a little, controllably, and figure out really  why?

[puporing]

1 minute ago, Preety_India said:

How would you differentiate between love for an abuser and Stockholm Syndrome?

Because I suffer from Stockholm Syndrome and that's why I'm not able to tell if I'm really loving my abuser. 

 

"Stockholm Syndrome" to me means you are less conscious of what happened and haven't worked fully through the healing process "apart" from them, and you still have to defend them perhaps in part because of survival needs (which includes emotional/social/approval etc). Here any "love" you have is probably less stable and there's still a desire for wanting them to change.

Whereas the love that comes after is fully acknowledging and accepting the way they are/were after you've gone through the self-healing journey. 

[Leo Gura]

1 hour ago, Preety_India said:

How would you differentiate between love for an abuser and Stockholm Syndrome?

Because I suffer from Stockholm Syndrome and that's why I'm not able to tell if I'm really loving my abuser.

For you specifically, I wouldn't worry about loving your abuser. That was advice intended for the highest levels of consciousness and development. You are dealing with a much lesser issue. You need to learn to enforce boundaries, to say No, and to be independent of others.

[Preety_India]

19 hours ago, Leo Gura said:

For you specifically, I wouldn't worry about loving your abuser. That was advice intended for the highest levels of consciousness and development. You are dealing with a much lesser issue. You need to learn to enforce boundaries, to say No, and to be independent of others.

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