How to quit social media in an "actualized" way..(if that makes any sense..)

[ertopolice]

Well after being around on instagram for about 5 years and due to my non typical instagram-like profile use for the general population /followers' interest i decided to quit.

I kept it till now to follow sportspeople i like, bands, some authors and writers..and so on. I got some random followers and people from town..but there's something about it i dislike and it's the noneseness of it all for my social goals. I tried to show a bit of my interests through it, but also, i lightly shows bit of my sports/fitness background without being the random instagram chick. It's showed my interests, my values, my principles...and some people supported them but apart from that..there nothing to write home about it.

I met 2-3 guys on real life via instagram, and yeah, they initially dated me with some other goals apart from plain friendship and when i stay strong on my principles..they got scared and lost interest in any other contact.

Instagram seems to be a dating site so no use on keeping it as an intellectual resource. 

Apart from that, have to say i've been talking random stuff/ chit chat with a regarded trainer and sportsperson from my country, and from time to time he told me of meeting in person. It pissed me off that i agreed twice and never heard of him afterwards! perhaps this anger it has to do with my quitting. Too many options for too many lost people.

 

Any tips on leaving all this in an smart way? 

thanks!!

Edited May 16, 2022 by ertopolice

[somegirl]

11 minutes ago, ertopolice said:

Instagram seems to be a dating site so no use on keeping it as an intellectual resource. 

I mean, you can even find "intellectual" stuff in there too. You can find profiles that only post stuff you are interested in.

But it has become dating site, yeah. It's super superficial. 

But that's how it is. You have to choose if you're okay with that. I don't even think the dating part is a negative. It's just how things have developed over time, whereas before people only had possibility to meet others face to face and didn't even have ability to see people outside their country. 

So this is an amazing new stuff we are able to do.

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I didn't really understand your last paragraph and what happened there, but whatever happened, I don't believe it has anything to do with Instagram.

[ertopolice]

22 hours ago, somegirl said:

I mean, you can even find "intellectual" stuff in there too. You can find profiles that only post stuff you are interested in.

But it has become dating site, yeah. It's super superficial. 

But that's how it is. You have to choose if you're okay with that. I don't even think the dating part is a negative. It's just how things have developed over time, whereas before people only had possibility to meet others face to face and didn't even have ability to see people outside their country. 

So this is an amazing new stuff we are able to do.

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I didn't really understand your last paragraph and what happened there, but whatever happened, I don't believe it has anything to do with Instagram.

Yes, i assume this network has nothing to do with it. Seems to be my lack of options the cause of my anger. I exhancehed several texts with a guy via this site, and he intended to come to visit and meet me since we started talking. i never took it seirouly because he got 120k followers due to his sports profile and business so i assumed  i he was also tiling and meeting 1000x more women like me.... (and yes, that might be all).

Last week i explained him it was ok for me to meet each other, but that we might not be in the very same situation right now because in spite of i appreciate and feel attracted to his mind (ok..serious problem with minds hahaha) i was more into long term things..

have not heard of him since

[michaelcycle00]

Just press your finger on the app for a few seconds and then press delete. Idk what you mean quit social media in an actualized way lmao, there's probably no such thing.

[Eph75]

@ertopolice

Make a last post on each social media platform, just stating your intention to quit social media and let people know that if they want to reach you they can find you out there in the real world. 

It raises the expectation you place onto yourself not to post nor like or comment others posts. 

Others will know that you failed your intention if you do interact again. 

It also allows others to understand why you stopped interacting and prevent or minimize any strange thoughts happening with them, as people tend to think everything is about them, and any bad blood from coming back onto you.

That I would consider being a "consciously clean break" with social media without burning any bridges, other than the social media one. 

Of course as already said, uninstall apps/delete links. 

Getting accounts erased would be an even stronger gesture, especially if you do find yourself checking back too often, or having relapses. 

I've done this exact thing myself but I do still have my account and I do check it out once in a while, but it's like with everything else, once you've cut the addiction to keep up with everything, and continuously scrolling/refreshing, it turned uninteresting and meaningless, and an obvious waste of time. 

LinkedIn is more problematic as the networking aspect of that platform has a purpose that can pay off in work life and success, and that's good, but a lot of the content these days seem to be Facebook like material. 

Edited May 18, 2022 by Eph75

[ertopolice]

17 hours ago, Eph75 said:

@ertopolice

Make a last post on each social media platform, just stating your intention to quit social media and let people know that if they want to reach you they can find you out there in the real world. 

 

Thought of doing something like that as a test to know wether some contacts would say "hey..so if you leave this...i would like to hear from you any other way" but most probably no one will care if i leave.

I will consider as a tool to expose myself more to the real world and get out this time waster thing

[flyingguitarist]

Delete the app and use instagram in a browser for some days  , gradually you will feel its hard to use ,to login ,to view the content,you'll get frustrated  ,then you can delete your a/c and quit completely