Does Enlightenment Free You From Attraction?

[100rockets]

I mean stupid attraction where youre attracted to someone that you know is bad for you.

[Emerald]

30 minutes ago, 100rockets said:

I mean stupid attraction where youre attracted to someone that you know is bad for you.

Well, the attraction would still likely be there. But you wouldn't be able to lie to yourself about not wanting to be in the situation. I was in a relationship with this guy, Jeff, for four years. I was with him from age 16 to age 20. I had this idea in my mind that I wanted to marry him, have kids with him, stay together for life, and that I loved him more than anything. But life with him was difficult. He was manipulative and had anger issues and smoked weed all the time. He was always getting arrested and I was constantly stressed out. But the degree to which I was capable of convincing myself that I was happier with him than I had ever been, was profound. I wasn't able to see how much he took advantage of my loyalty to him. I couldn't bare the thought of letting him go. Then I tried an entheogen, which catalyzed my first experience of ego transcendence. I was musing about how beautiful everything was, and he came up and held me and told me he loved me. I sensed a disingenuous air to his "I love you" that was suddenly super clear to me and I realized that my response of "I love you" was just as disingenuous. And I realized in that moment that I had been sacrificing all of my happiness for the relationship and that I was lying to myself and enslaving myself to the idea of 'forever.' I was just afraid of breaking up. I didn't want to be near him. There was a part of me that hated him. I never knew any of this before. It took an enlightenment experience, to see through my own bullshit. So, you might (or might not) still be attracted, but you won't be able to bullshit yourself into staying in a bad situation. 

[Consept]

What ive noticed just from being more aware, is that things like looks are really not that important and actually serve just to validate your 'self'. Once you take validation out of the equation who youre attracted to changes. 

That being said you can still be attracted to people for shallow reasons but youre just aware of why that is and then it becomes a choice of what you want to do. There does tend to be a bias where we think attractive people are more interesting, important etc and i think with a bit of awareness its quite easy to see through it. By the same token you realise that if you are sociatally attractive that youll need more than just your looks and if youre not your looks are not that important. 

Most answers to questions like this is just that you see through bullshit, i think deep down you probably knew it already but covered it up because of fear or whatever else 

[100rockets]

@Emerald Wilkins  I see through my bullshit I'm just still stuck in the matrix at the same time I understand what you mean though