Is It Worth To Hire A Life Coach?

[Michael Sneg]

Hey folks.

I'm thinking about hiring a life coach, but really struggle on making this decision, so I ask for your advice.

First of all, hiring life coach feels like path of laziness - paying somebody to make emotional work for myself.
Secondly, is it really worth? I'm really into self development and made some significant progress on this journey, so there are some doubts about will it make any difference?
Thirdly, maybe some advice about how to choose one? Or any recommendations?

I know there are quite a few life coaches on this forum, so really hope for your answers. And, of course, @Leo Gura 's advice is much appreciated.

Thanks!

[Life Coach]

Not gonna lie, if you are into self development and you hang around here you can get all the advice for free and you can learn this stuff on your own. You can even become a life coach yourself. You realize a life coach just asks questions and you gotta figure it out yourself right? They rarely give advice. This site and all self-actualization stuff you will find is like a big life coach. If you are poor only hire a life coach if you are really struggling, because you will pay much cash for only short sessions like once a week. Here on this forum you can just post a question and get answers, you can get answers on youtube and everywhere on the internet. If you are rich, then you surely can try it out and see where it goes, no big deal for you.

Edit: Nothing against life coaches. I want to become one myself.

Edited January 30, 2017 by Old Soul

[eskwire]

@Michael Sneg My experience with a life coach was really just one of support. One thing I laugh about is, I remember her leading me through little mini meditations and asking me to describe the experience. She would always respond, "oooooooooo greeeeat awarenessssss." 

@Old Soul's advice is pretty solid.

How far along are you?

What are you hoping to get out of it?

Will you possibly be more insightful than your coach at this point?

I used it because, as expensive as it was, it was cheaper than therapy and I didn't want someone tossing pills at me. Like @Old Soul said, do it if you're really struggling or if you have the money no problem.

If I had the money, I would do it just to stay on track and have someone ask me questions so as not to live in my own echo chamber. 

[Martin123]

@eskwire Cheaper than therapy? May I ask where you're from?

[Arielle]

@Martin123 LOOL

 

@Michael Sneg And yes I agree with everyone, Life Coaching is alot of money, so if you can afford it, then go for it. If you don't, then just utilize the free tips and practices available for free online, via youtube, blogs and articles, forums like this!  I use to have depression, didn't have any money to see a therapist or psychiatrist, So it was thanks to discovering @Leo Gura and practicing the things he taught .That my depression is rid of And through him I discovered this entire personal development world!

[Martin123]

@Arielle wait wtf whats lol about it. I am genuinely asking =D.

 

[Arielle]

@Martin123 I was just in agreement with you lol. I was thinking the same thing when she said its cheaper then therapy lol.

[alyra]

3 hours ago, Michael Sneg said:

I'm thinking about hiring a life coach, but really struggle on making this decision, so I ask for your advice.

It is up to you to make any endeaver you do worth it. Personally I am interested in having a life coach - but to be honest I can't afford to pay a lot of professionals to assist me right now - so I'm focusing on other endeavors for now. But if you have the opportunity to try a coach out - then go for it. 

 

3 hours ago, Michael Sneg said:

hiring life coach feels like path of laziness

I very much am trying to be independent - to be reliant on my own efforts to accomplish things. but - the reality is that this is going to be true whether I'm working by myself or working with others. don't fool yourself into thinking asking for help makes you weak or useless - asking for help is only an opportunity to learn from others, or accomplish greater things. hmmmm think of it this way - if we want to move a stone we can sit there and push it until it moves an inch. or, we can find a lever, and use that lever to push it a mile. working with others is the same - we put forth important effort our own self, and so do they - and together we accomplish more than what could be done on our own. Relying on another is what is the trap - but even if you do need to rely on someone who isn't you - if you are mindful you will help them help you until you don't need to rely on them at all. 

Edited January 30, 2017 by aryberry

[Leo Gura]

Depends on your income level and your ambitions.

If you work at Starbucks and you have low ambitions for your life, then no.

If you make over $50,000/yr and have huge ambitions for your life and are looking for every advantage you can get, then yes.

I've hired coaches to coach me, I will probably continue to in the future. My biggest bottleneck with coaching is that I don't have the for time. I mean, I don't have time to get coached.

The key reason a coach is helpful is because it's very difficult sometimes to see your own problems objectively. You can know all the self-help theory, but that won't necessarily help you step outside yourself in the way a coach might do for you.

Of course finding a great coach is important too.

Keep in mind that all world-class performers in business or sports make use of coaches liberally. Because their job depends on it. Average people are lazy and unambitious, so coaching is lost on them.

To make best use of a coach, you should already know a good bit of self-help theory, so you can come to them and say: "Here's exactly what I need you to help me accomplish. Here are all my psychological problems."

You're never too good to get coached, because coaching is NOT about filling your mind with theory. Theory is 1% of this work. The other 99% is implementation, and that's where you need most help. Do not confuse my videos for coaching. I'm not a coach in the videos. I rant at you.

[eskwire]

@Arielle @Martin123 This was in San Diego in the US. I didn't have insurance at the time, so it would have been around $100 per session for therapy. I found a life coach who offered packages of 25 minute calls weekly. 

[Martin123]

@eskwire Damn. I am seriously considering starting a therapy practice in the US as a part of my career latet on. If only for the leaa stiffold american attitude. THe pay sounds beautiful holy moly lol. 

#SELLOUT

[Christian]

I got coaching and it did not have any huge impact on my life, really. I felt that I was ripping my patents of too because they were paying for it and it had little effect. 

But that was just my experience with just one coach. And I did not give her a clear specific problem to help me with. I just told her I was in emotional pain  in my body (which I was) and I was unaware why and she of course tried to help, but the advice was very wishy washy and it had no long term effects sadly. 

So if you are going to get coaching, my best advice would be to be clear about what you want out of the coaching sessions and give the coach something to work with. So if you want to loose weight for example, say that you want to have x type of body with x BMI and x procent body fat for instance. Make it specific if you can.

[eskwire]

@Martin123 I study Public Health and it's been shown that US healthcare costs more, controlling for other variables, just cuz it costs more. We charge more for everything in healthcare. Fast food is cheap tho. USA! USA! USA!

[Leo Gura]

From my experience, people under 25 years old are not mature enough to get value out of coaching. And getting coaching on someone else's dime is problematic. Part of the point it that you're willing to invest in yourself.

[Loreena]

Nothing against life coaches but you need to be rich for that kind of stuff. If you have the money, hire a good one who can really help. You should get your money's worth and real results or else....  .. results will depend on both the coach and your efforts to grow yourself.