Connecting with Girls is Fun.

[Realms of Wonder]

Standing in line at a coffeeshop, I noticed a cute brunette in front of me that had eyed me as I walked up, so I asked what she was getting and we talked for a few moments.

 

after we got our coffees, she walked up and asked if I knew of any other great coffee shops, with a smile I responded telling her about an Awesome one my sister and I like to go to for early morning talks. We talked longer, she lives in Canada, visiting with her friends who are also nurses. We laughed and really connected.

 

Growing up “liking girls” or talk to girls, was considered taboo, and wrong, so I built up this story in my head that girls are not fun to talk to or good for me to be around.

But.. experience tells me differently

it was a short interaction, and I chose not to ask for her number, cuz she lives in Canada, and I’m focused on my music right now, but it was really enjoyable to make such deep eye contact, and be connected to the pleasure of emotion in the conversation.

[JonasVE12]

Nice man! I really resonate with that. Enjoying her and taking her in is what it should be about and it's great that you have had that experience. 

[Leo Gura]

Should have gotten her number and done an instant date and pulled to your house.

[petar8p]

I think Leo is right. "Focusing on my music right now" sounds like an excuse. It's great that he made a step to even approach her, but it's better being completely honest with yourself knowing you wouldn't mind having a chill night with a cute brunette ?

[Realms of Wonder]

18 hours ago, Leo Gura said:

Should have gotten her number and done an instant date and pulled to your house.

Would've had to be fast.. I was on my way to California for vacation.  On reflection, even if I had no intention of dating her, still should have gotten the number.

7 hours ago, petar8p said:

"Focusing on my music right now" sounds like an excuse. It's great that he made a step to even approach her, but it's better being completely honest with yourself knowing you wouldn't mind having a chill night with a cute brunette ?

"Focusing on music" is more than an excuse, its the heart of of my life, and is more important than chilling with a cute brunette. Dating is not a priority right now. Its just not. More important to me is building experience with music, developing my skills, building my life, and keeping my eye on the ball.

 

Thanks for the perspective!

 

 

 

 

[Realms of Wonder]

18 hours ago, Leo Gura said:

Should have gotten her number and done an instant date and pulled to your house.

What is your perspective on dating while building life purpose?

 

I am still in the "rocky" period, 2-3 years in, building skills and a deep understanding of how to play Music. 

[LordFall]

1 hour ago, Realms of Wonder said:

Would've had to be fast.. I was on my way to California for vacation.  On reflection, even if I had no intention of dating her, still should have gotten the number.

"Focusing on music" is more than an excuse, its the heart of of my life, and is more important than chilling with a cute brunette. Dating is not a priority right now. Its just not. More important to me is building experience with music, developing my skills, building my life, and keeping my eye on the ball.

 

Thanks for the perspective!

 

 

 

 

Ideally never go for numbers, that's what Instagram is for. Especially for times like this where you don't have to build rapport.

As a young guy building a creative purpose, social media should be your best friend both for business/creative purposes but also dating ones.