"Flow state" how to devellop this connection to life ?

[Gabith]

I had a near approach to what a "flow state" feels like 

I smoked weed and I was composing music with my guitar (improvisation). Everytime when I do that, I'm thinking about the neighbours that hear my music (negatives thinking like they're bothered by it, or positive thinking like to hear me playing sometimes, in a nutshell, I am thinking about past or future, I am thinking/worrying to something that doesn't exist while playing the guitar) 
This time, I had a taste of what's it like to just be present with what is (me playing the guitar, hearing the sound), all the rest was just worrying and was keeping me from being more creative and relax. 

I've created the most beautiful songs when I was in this state and I really enjoyed myself more than before. Because I wasn't too much (almost not) thinking about my neighbours or anything else, I could let myself playing freely and create something more emotional, more natural. 
 

It helped me to realize that, that is what I want, I want this more than anything else. I need to spend more time alone, with myself, to connect more with myself instead of thinking of others or having a girlfriend/sex whatever. I want to create this connection in my everyday because I know it leads to more peacefulness and happiness. 

How do you guys creates more "flow states" in your life ?
How do you do for example, in public transport to be in your "bubble" when you only feel you and you're not worrying or thinking about others ?

 

I know I sound like a newbie, I'm annoyed that I didn't realized this before. 

[Chrisd]

I share your aspiration, I suppose we have the intention and then we apply a method, such as feeling. Can you type and feel flow at the same time? Maybe if we combine feeling flow with our activities we incrementally increase the time we spend there.

I like to listen to a talk when in public transport.

 

Edited April 29, 2022 by Chrisd

[JonasVE12]

4 hours ago, Gabith said:

How do you do for example, in public transport to be in your "bubble" when you only feel you and you're not worrying or thinking about others ?

There is no bubble. And you don't create flow state through contracting in your own world. Try to expand your consciousness to include everything, all the noises, the surroundings, the people, the looks, and the feelings. Let it go through you, and don't try to push the world away. Your body should be light, full of energy and letting things go through you, ground into the earth, touch your heart, but never holding on to anything. In a state of expansion you find flow naturally. You just have not learned to take the world in, and haven't learned opening your body fully to all the things surrounding you, especially the things that make you feel heavy. Maybe you are fearful and have some suppressed feelings you are not willing to become vulnerable to, and that's why you want a more bubble like experience, to feel safer and more comfortable. You have to surrender into feelings in your body that is causing the uneasiness, and releasing your aversions towards feeling those sensations. The bubble you are after is probably just the feeling of peacefulness and joy, not being bothered by anything. No loud thoughts, irritations, anxiety... Just being peaceful and joyful. You can create it through your body. By literally breaking your energetic barriers between you and which you identify with, not mentally, but energetically in your body. 

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when you only feel you and you're not worrying or thinking about others ?

You always only feel you. Those people are reflecting the uneasiness you have in yourself. The tightness in your body. 

You need to learn to use the uncomfortable feelings that prevent you to be in a flow. You need to learn to take them in, and go deeper and deeper with every feeling. You just let go, deeper and deeper, every thought, feeling, you use to go deeper into the experience of just being. 

Play your guitar at home, and when you notice this anxiety and distortion coming up, use it to go deeper, to expand more until you become one with the world and there is no future or past, just the sensations of the present, the sounds of your guitar, the joy in the heart. 

As well as in public transport, you need to feel in your body where the contraction is. Seek it. Go into it. And learn to expand from the contraction to include it and ultimately let it go. 

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It helped me to realize that, that is what I want, I want this more than anything else. I need to spend more time alone, with myself, to connect more with myself instead of thinking of others or having a girlfriend/sex whatever.

Even the girlfriend/sex thing, see, there is always some things in your body going to be triggered depending on the aversions you have. We all have these unique desires that we want to fulfill and whenever we are feeling an emotional block between the desires and ourself, there is always now and then going to be anxiety and negative thoughts going to rise to the surface. These unfulfilled desires can create aversion towards the present moment as well. Which you notice clearly.

If you want your life to be a 100% flow all the time, you need to fulfill these desires, such as having a purpose, financial freedom, social freedom, health, the freedom to date who you want, travel whenever you want, to have the experiences you want. 

To start creating this, you need to learn to flow with uncomfortable feelings, accept them, and using them as guidance to create order in every single area of life so ultimately you are fully free, happy and confident that you can do what you want, with who you want, whenever you want.

It's also very normal to have uneasiness in your life, especially between 20-50 y/o, and most people carry this uneasiness all their life. Then you have these 50-60 year olds which are so relaxed, peaceful and just enjoy the heck out of life because they went on to fulfill their desires earlier so now they experienced what they wanted, and they go on to experience more of life without limitations.

You can create these deep flow states at younger ages. Rarely do people get there between 20-30, but you can if you go deep into creating what you want and take full responsibility for it. 

You know, all those thoughts, the anxiety, that you're trying to push away. Embrace it. Pushing things away doesn't work. Use it as guidance and gain curiosity towards it. Ultimately, it is there because you are not yet grounded into who you are, what you are meant to do here in this life, your personal mission, and your relationship to other people. 

Those thoughts of girls and sex coming up when you are trying to enjoy the present is just the universe telling you that they are part of the path you need to walk. The universe rarely wants to give you full flow and presence. You have to learn to create it yourself and then the universe will support you and reward you for your effort. 

Treat all thoughts as guidance that you are not yet where you need to be.

The peacefulness of being in public transport, and having full enjoyment comes after you slay your dragons. Maybe you share some smiles here and there, you talk to that cute girl sitting next to you, or you just sit in stillness, fully enjoying the moment. You can even feel this tingly joy in your body and bring it up at will. 

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Love.

[KoryKat]

7 hours ago, Gabith said:

I had a near approach to what a "flow state" feels like 

I smoked weed and I was composing music with my guitar (improvisation). Everytime when I do that, I'm thinking about the neighbours that hear my music (negatives thinking like they're bothered by it, or positive thinking like to hear me playing sometimes, in a nutshell, I am thinking about past or future, I am thinking/worrying to something that doesn't exist while playing the guitar) 
This time, I had a taste of what's it like to just be present with what is (me playing the guitar, hearing the sound), all the rest was just worrying and was keeping me from being more creative and relax. 

I've created the most beautiful songs when I was in this state and I really enjoyed myself more than before. Because I wasn't too much (almost not) thinking about my neighbours or anything else, I could let myself playing freely and create something more emotional, more natural. 
 

It helped me to realize that, that is what I want, I want this more than anything else. I need to spend more time alone, with myself, to connect more with myself instead of thinking of others or having a girlfriend/sex whatever. I want to create this connection in my everyday because I know it leads to more peacefulness and happiness. 

How do you guys creates more "flow states" in your life ?
How do you do for example, in public transport to be in your "bubble" when you only feel you and you're not worrying or thinking about others ?

 

I know I sound like a newbie, I'm annoyed that I didn't realized this before. 

Weed fucks up flow states for me.

4-7-8 breathing works for me, with gratitude mindset , and "this is effortless" mindset

 

Flow and Psychology of Optimal Happiness was hella good book, combined with Dave Aspreys tips on EmWave2 biofeedback tech i use. 

Much love

-Kory

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