Tips to avoid spiritual bypassing

[Terell Kirby]

Spiritual bypass or spiritual bypassing is a "tendency to use spiritual ideas and practices to sidestep or avoid facing unresolved emotional issues, psychological wounds, and unfinished developmental tasks". 

How many of you have experienced this, and what did you do to avoid it?

[SeaMonster]

You have to simultaneously do psychotherapeutic work and spiritual work and not treat spiritual work as somehow superior (because it isn't.)  Spiritual seeking is fundamentally spiritual bypassing.  You can't be like "oh, getting enlightened will automatically solve all my problems." At best, it will make it easier to work on them.

Edited April 29, 2022 by SeaMonster

[SamC]

27 minutes ago, Terell Kirby said:

Spiritual bypass or spiritual bypassing is a "tendency to use spiritual ideas and practices to sidestep or avoid facing unresolved emotional issues, psychological wounds, and unfinished developmental tasks". 

How many of you have experienced this, and what did you do to avoid it?

I try to look inwards and see what I am seeking and desiring. For example, I want a lot of hot sex with a variety of girls + to experience a deep relationship with one. Therefor I let myself work towards that.

At the same time, I see clearly that I will trancend it and discover that it won't fullfill me really quickly.  Conciousness alone is curative. Do whatever you want to do.. sometimes it can be good to overindulge in stuff, if you do it consciously.

God's Love and highest wish is whatever you want to experience. Trust that your desire and direction will lead you home

[gettoefl]

soon good words here: https://www.reddit.com/r/nonduality/comments/uei7t4/using_intellectual_understanding_to_bypass/

[Terell Kirby]

40 minutes ago, SeaMonster said:

You can't be like "oh, getting enlightened will automatically solve all my problems."

Totally agree, I think many seekers fall into this trap. I believe it’s better to look at spirituality as one of many tools to enable a better life, not the sole tool. This was deep realization I had.

26 minutes ago, SamC said:

God's Love and highest wish is whatever you want to experience.

Yes.

26 minutes ago, Benton said:

I was really bad about it for a while. But if you are really into spirituality you will realize avoidance won’t get you anywhere.

Totally, for a while I was subconsciously hoping I could outsource all my issues to spirituality, only to find that my problems didn’t go away, it just made me more conscious of them lol.

27 minutes ago, gettoefl said:

soon good words here: https://www.reddit.com/r/nonduality/comments/uei7t4/using_intellectual_understanding_to_bypass/

thanks!

[puporing]

Being self-aware.. awareness of what you still want to experience/heal.

[nistake]

Being brutally honest with yourself is a great way to avoid it.

[Nivsch]

Always process the UNcomfortable thoughts and feeling you have. Nothing else can solve your problems from their root, no matter how many psychedelics you will do.

Edited April 29, 2022 by Nivsch

[Terell Kirby]

2 hours ago, puporing said:

Being self-aware.. awareness of what you still want to experience/heal.

+1

43 minutes ago, nistake said:

Being brutally honest with yourself is a great way to avoid it.

+1

23 minutes ago, Nivsch said:

Always process the UNcomfortable thoughts and feeling you have. Nothing else can solve your problems from their root, no matter how many psychedelics you will do.

Yes, from my understanding .. psychedelics allow the uncomfortable feelings to bubble up to the so that they can then be processed.

Edited April 29, 2022 by Terell Kirby

[WelcometoReality]

4 hours ago, Terell Kirby said:

Spiritual bypass or spiritual bypassing is a "tendency to use spiritual ideas and practices to sidestep or avoid facing unresolved emotional issues, psychological wounds, and unfinished developmental tasks". 

How many of you have experienced this, and what did you do to avoid it?

What I did was stop writing on this forum for about a year or two and grounded myself in direct experience. That really helped to create some distance from the mind and gain clarity.

[Terell Kirby]

10 minutes ago, WelcometoReality said:

What I did was stop writing on this forum for about a year or two and grounded myself in direct experience. That really helped to create some distance from the mind and gain clarity.

Thanks for sharing .. I should probably consider the same, for other social platforms as well

[Gesundheit2]

Return to the marketplace.

[BipolarGrowth]

9 hours ago, Terell Kirby said:

How many of you have experienced this, and what did you do to avoid it?

Looks like you’re falling into the trap of trying to bypass spiritual bypassing. 

[Preety_India]

10 hours ago, SeaMonster said:

You have to simultaneously do psychotherapeutic work and spiritual work and not treat spiritual work as somehow superior (because it isn't.)  Spiritual seeking is fundamentally spiritual bypassing.  You can't be like "oh, getting enlightened will automatically solve all my problems." At best, it will make it easier to work on them.

1000000 % Agree

 

[Terell Kirby]

32 minutes ago, BipolarGrowth said:

Looks like you’re falling into the trap of trying to bypass spiritual bypassing. 

Hmm .. maybe, but i dont think thats a bad thing?

It's not that we can completely avoid spiritual bypassing .. it happens. My goal is to be able to notice it, and its limitations.

[BipolarGrowth]

2 minutes ago, Terell Kirby said:

Hmm .. maybe, but i dont think thats a bad thing?

It's not that we can completely avoid spiritual bypassing .. it happens. My goal is to be able to notice it, and its limitations.

It was just a joke ?

[Gesundheit2]

4 minutes ago, Galyna said:

The whole of spirituality is designed to bypass   facing the truth, to avoid the discomfort of doing the real work.

Almost all of spiritual people are spiritual bypassers.

Why does spirituality exist?

[Carl-Richard]

10 hours ago, Terell Kirby said:

How many of you have experienced this, and what did you do to avoid it?

I kept doing it until it caused so much suffering that I couldn't take it anymore

[Gesundheit2]

1 minute ago, Galyna said:

It doesn’t matter

That's not an answer to my question. If you don't know, say I don't know. I won't beat you over the head for that, but maybe for this

[thisintegrated]

15 minutes ago, Gesundheit2 said:

Why does spirituality exist?

Why does self-realization exist.

Why does waking up exist.