How do hardcore solipsists handle breakups?

[thisintegrated]

Broke up with gf, and all I can think is it's fascinating.  Like taking a drug.  So many emotions.  Should I manifest another gf or should I manifest preferring to be alone?  idk what I want.  I'm just bored.

I manifested this one, but, while I love her, she's an ESFJ?

Maybe I should've specified what personality she should have??

 

 

Edited April 17, 2022 by thisintegrated

[SamC]

Become the person you seek

[thisintegrated]

2 hours ago, SamC said:

Become the person you seek

I think I already am.  But it's nice to have someone to share ideas with, and I can't do that with myself as I know all my responses.

[Terell Kirby]

Solipsism, God realization… whatever, won’t stop the experience of the heartbreak that follows a breakup of a relationship. This work is not about escaping suffering, but accepting it as a necessary component of human existence..and embracing with Love.

That being said, focus on the part you played in the breakdown of your relationship, use it it to better yourself in future relationships.

Edited April 17, 2022 by Terell Kirby

[thisintegrated]

Just now, Terell Kirby said:

focus on the part you played in the breakdown of your relationship, use it it to better yourself in future relationships.

I kind of pushed her to breaking up by spending all my time here, rather than with her.  She just had no intellectual interests, being an ESFJ, so on some level I probably wanted to break up.  I could've easily maintained the relationship, but the lack of intellectual connection made it kind of shallow, despite all the deep love.

[puporing]

The love can still be there. Uhh it's gonna sound controversial again but you can still love someone when they're not nearby. 

[thisintegrated]

1 minute ago, puporing said:

The love can still be there. Uhh it's gonna sound controversial again but you can still love someone when they're not nearby. 

Sure, I still love her, but that's not enough.

[puporing]

8 minutes ago, thisintegrated said:

Sure, I still love her, but that's not enough.

So what are you trying to "deal with" exactly?

I was just referring to how I would see/deal with the "loss" of someone through whatever means this "loss" happened. 

Edited April 18, 2022 by puporing

[thisintegrated]

Just now, puporing said:

So what are you trying to "deal with" exactly?

Just wondering how solipsists handle break ups, and if trying to find the perfect person is even worth it on the solipsist's path.

Nothing external will ever satisfy, and people are imaginary anyway.  Yet Leo, a hardcore solipsist, spends ~70% of his time here on the dating sub-forum.  I just want others' views on the value of these things.

[puporing]

I see. Well.. I guess for me it doesn't change the love that's there, even knowing they're ultimately "part of myself", I feel like it only increases it for me. And I can appreciate any form of interaction be it in a 'relationship' or not in one. There's also a playfulness to any seeking of an interaction/experience. Everyone is perfection, but you may resonate more with some than others. 

[Realms of Wonder]

34 minutes ago, puporing said:

I see. Well.. I guess for me it doesn't change the love that's there, even knowing they're ultimately "part of myself", I feel like it only increases it for me. And I can appreciate any form of interaction be it in a 'relationship' or not in one. There's also a playfulness to any seeking of an interaction/experience. Everyone is perfection, but you may resonate more with some than others. 

I could be wrong but it really sounds like you have identified your "self" with a belief about solipsism. Be careful

[puporing]

1 minute ago, Realms of Wonder said:

I could be wrong but it really sounds like you have identified your "self" with a belief about solipsism. Be careful

It's not a belief, I don't care about the word solipsism either .

@thisintegrated this is the problem about talking about this stuff on here .

Edited April 18, 2022 by puporing

[Realms of Wonder]

16 minutes ago, puporing said:

It's not a belief, I don't care about the word solipsism either .

@thisintegrated this is the problem about talking about this stuff on here .