How to attract a man/men?

[Preety_India]

This is something that I desperately desperately wanted to know. 

 

 

[Preety_India]

Okay I need to work on being a good woman if I really need to be able to keep a man. 

With my bpd issues, it might be impossible but not everything is lost. 

I can still work hard on this. 

It's worth doing it 

This is a good one for it. 

https://www.actualized.org/forum/topic/79985-how-to-attract-a-manmen/

 

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[Preety_India]

I have realized that a man is very important to me. 

 

[Preety_India]

I'm generally attracted to the following zodiac signs

Aries 

Taurus 

Pisces (glitch in the matrix, couldn't you find someone better, I'm a Pisces after all) 

Taurus is a big attraction for me.

Cancer (sometimes) 

Scorpio (this one knows me too much for me to not be able to spy on them ya know) 

Virgo (perfect because they are so gentle with me) 

Capricorn (okayish, I never really met a capricorn) 

Sagittarius (no way, cross it and take them off the list, bad match) 

Aquarius (they might make me insecure) 

Leo (Leo is super boring to me) 

 

 

 

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[Preety_India]

Anyway. 

I need to dress up nice.. Do makeup 

 

Those are just the general stuff 

I want to connect with a man both sexually and mentally. 

I want to be a better woman for him. 

 

[Preety_India]

 isn't this just sexual attraction

A relationship is all about sex?????? 

 

I don't think so. 

 

I want to attract a man emotionally, morally and mentally. That's the main focus. 

 

Sex is obvious and I don't particularly lack in that department. 

 

Lots of men are attracted to me sexually. That's why I'm not looking for sexual attraction. 

 

But mental and emotional attraction. 

 

I want to be able to attract and keep a man mentally and emotionally. 

 

Most men want sex with me (I mean the men who are interested in me, but I'm looking for more) 

 

Sex alone is not satisfying to me. 

I might be sexually attracted to a man. But at the end of the day, if I can't mentally and emotionally attract him, then what's the point really. 

 

[Preety_India]

So yea.... my main goal is to mentally and emotionally attract a man and keep him

I want to be his ideal woman.. I want to satisfy him. 

I want to experience this deep deep intimacy with a man. 

 

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[Preety_India]

I want to be the best woman for him. 

He drives me crazy. 

I can live with him forever. 

 

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[Preety_India]

He is just perfect for me. 

But I want to be able to love him. 

I want to make him feel loved. 

I need to improve my behavior. 

I need to learn from my past relationship mistakes 

I just want to be a good girlfriend 

I. Don't want to piss him off. 

I don't want him to ever feel bad about me. 

This is serious and if I want a man to really bond with me then I need to be nice to him and stop with my idiot behavior. 

I always have this fear that my bpd will always drive my man away. 

I'm so damn attracted. Everything feels surreal. 

 

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[Preety_India]

Well this time around I have a good chance to improve myself as a woman and not fuck up again. 

I have terribly low self Esteem.

I've been living in terrible guilt for a long time for not acting right with a man.. 

I have hated men before I have made mistakes. 

I have felt punished.. 

Now I don't think that way about men.

I want to be positive. 

It's possible for me to be a proper girl to a guy without making it fussy.

Sometimes I feel like no guy will really like me since I got so many problems. 

But I'll need to work on myself. 

There is no option. 

 

Edited April 15, 2022 by Preety_India

[Ninja_pig]

Might be different for other guys, but for me, the time a girl can really get me under her spell is when I believe she is a help and not a hinderance to my other goals in life. If a girl can see in me my dreams, and aspirations and gets excited about them, I want to just have them around all the time. Sexual attractiveness is important, but if your man is dating you at all, that means he is already attracted to you son don't worry about that.

Other than that, be sweet, be kind, but also have clearly defined boundaries and don't let him walk all over to you. Be submissive but make him work for it a little. If it's too easy it is sometimes boring. Also be aware that guys are sensitive on the inside no matter how little they may show it. Words really do affect guys and what you say can affect him.

Lastly, and probably most importantly, remember that not everything that goes wrong in a relationship is not necessarily your fault. It is indeed very important to take responsibility in a relationship, but there are some things you just can't control. Counterintuitively, the best mindset in general in a relationship is to not be in need of a relationship. Learn to be content on your own and don't need your guy. Love like you have never been hurt, but be able and willing to let go of him when that is the only option. Love yourself no matter what. Don't let your man's opinion of you change the only opinion that truly matters: your own. This will be the most attractive to any guy.

Self love videos (please watch these, it's literally the key to a happy life. THE key)

 

[Preety_India]

@Ninja_pig please comment wherever but not in my journal. I like to be left alone in journals 

Just a request. 

You can pm me any suggestions. 

 

[Preety_India]

12 minutes ago, Ninja_pig said:

Might be different for other guys, but for me, the time a girl can really get me under her spell is when I believe she is a help and not a hinderance to my other goals in life. If a girl can see in me my dreams, and aspirations and gets excited about them, I want to just have them around all the time. Sexual attractiveness is important, but if your man is dating you at all, that means he is already attracted to you son don't worry about that.

Other than that, be sweet, be kind, but also have clearly defined boundaries and don't let him walk all over to you. Be submissive but make him work for it a little. If it's too easy it is sometimes boring. Also be aware that guys are sensitive on the inside no matter how little they may show it. Words really do affect guys and what you say can affect him.

Lastly, and probably most importantly, remember that not everything that goes wrong in a relationship is not necessarily your fault. It is indeed very important to take responsibility in a relationship, but there are some things you just can't control. Counterintuitively, the best mindset in general in a relationship is to not be in need of a relationship. Learn to be content on your own and don't need your guy. Love like you have never been hurt, but be able and willing to let go of him when that is the only option. Love yourself no matter what. Don't let your man's opinion of you change the only opinion that truly matters: your own. This will be the most attractive to any guy.

Self love videos (please watch these, it's literally the key to a happy life. THE key)

 

I accept 

[Preety_India]

I think the first time I got this very weird feeling was March 21st.

I was called miss psychic radar. That was the slip. I wrote in my diary - wtf!!!! 

I didn't expect that really. 

And I felt something I can't describe.. 

I think even before that I was called a vampire. 

I guess Leo is right, right on the money, he told me once that if a guy called me a pig, that's the guy I should look at. 

I mean there was some attraction in that. 

I was slowly giving into those feelings. Yea. 

I was constantly feeling something. 

Like......... Umm.......... 

 

I swear this happened almost every time. It was strange. 

I was noticing it. 

There was this psychic connection, I could feel drawn..... 

 

[Preety_India]

A guy wants to be genuinely appreciated, especially. Acknowledge him for his  care and concern for you, and you'll make him the happiest guy on the planet. Luckily, "Thank you" rolls off the tongue pretty easily if you love reminding people that you care. Look out for any and all opportunities to show your man that you're grateful for him.

Thank him for big acts of service: "I can’t believe you made me dinner! You knew I had a hard week. Thank you so much. This means the world, honestly."

Appreciate his smaller gestures, too: "Thanks for holding the door. That’s so sweet of you!"

Look out for signs if he's pacing around or maybe sweating. Engage in a little light banter, throw an arm over his shoulder, or offer some words of reassurance to help ease his tension. He’ll love you for helping him take a load off

Offer him a quick massage. While you work, engage in lighthearted conversation topics, like fantasy football or a movie.

If you’re out with friends and you sense he’s stressed, find an excuse to touch him. Put an arm over his shoulder, press your knee to his, or pat his leg.

 have a gift for thoughtful pep talks: "I know you’re stressed, but you’re amazing. Look at all you’ve accomplished so far!"

 

Your man  needs order in his life, so they might often feel stressed in disorganized spaces. If the two of you are hanging out, take a minute to clean up after yourself. Put your shoes by the door, throw your trash away, and avoid leaving food out. This'll read as a thoughtful gesture to your man and it'll definitely be an attractive habit to him.

How to be as nice as possible to your guy that you are in love with. 

At your house, consider completing a quick clean before he stops by. He’ll love that you cared enough to make him feel comfortable.

 cleanliness might not always be your strong suit. When you're at his place, try setting a recurring alarm reminding you to do a quick clean.

 

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[Preety_India]

Your man  craves authentic, kind words from the people around them. Be genuine and empathetic. When you two talk, speak in a gentle, affectionate tone. Ask thoughtful questions, offer genuine compliments, and challenge your his self-criticism

If he mentions feeling stressed, show an interest in that: "Do you know what brought that feeling on?"

Ask for details about his work and projects: "Wow, your bathroom turned out great. You really put up this wallpaper yourself?"

Use a gentle tone to push back against his negative self-talk: "I think you’re being too hard on yourself. You’re one of the smartest people I know."

Try to get him relaxed and feeling good. 

boost his spirits without minimizing his feelings. Your man might deal with big, overwhelming stress on the day-to-day—so take his feelings seriously to avoid rubbing him the wrong way. Simply empathize with him, and he'll be thrilled.

"Wow, that does sound so stressful. How are you feeling now?"

"Yes, I can totally see why you feel that way. I would, too."

"Those feelings make a ton of sense. Do you want to talk more about that?"

To impress  you'll need to prove that he can depend on you.  you may struggle just a bit to show up on time and remember important dates, but a he needs someone who can be there when it really counts. To prove that that's you, rise to the occasion and focus on being reliable. Treat his time with respect and plan your schedule around him.

Be mindful of his big events. Make sure you always offer good luck and congratulations. If you grab him treats to celebrate when he finishes, that’s even better.

When the two of you have plans, always assume that they’re a big deal to him. Don’t cancel unless you have a great excuse.

 

Edited April 15, 2022 by Preety_India

[Preety_India]

I have decided that I am not going to be talking to anyone. It only leads to more trouble. 

Yes I always needed clear communication.