I got laid for the first time, but it kinda sucked. Any resources for amazing Sex?

[Hardkill]

18 minutes ago, Leo Gura said:

What are you smoking?

Of course they haven't. Pornstar sex is super shallow.

You're not gonna enjoy sex as a pornstar because you're gonna be too busy dealing with the logistics of the shoot. You would probably be too nervous to get hard. Don't envy pornstars. Their ability to enjoy sex is probably very low.

Sex feels amazing to the extent that it is rare. As soon as you make it common place it loses most of its appeal. It's like eating a bag of sugar. That's not the best way to enjoy food.

I thought so.

So, then how do people with high sex drives enjoy sex a lot?

Edited April 10, 2022 by Hardkill

[SamC]

3 hours ago, Vincent S said:

@SamC Congrats buddy. ✨

I wrote an insight I got a few months ago, maybe that can help you.

 

Thanks brother!☯️?❤ your insights are invalueble.

[Vincent S]

3 minutes ago, SamC said:

Thanks brother!☯️?❤ your insights are invalueble.

❤️

[SamC]

8 minutes ago, Hardkill said:

Congrats! Well done. 

My first lay wasn't so orgasmic either even though she went down on me balls deep in an empty park at night and then we had sex in my car for what seemed to be almost an hour long. I couldn't even blow my load even though she told me to nut in her mouth by the end of the session.

A lot of why it didn't go so great was because of how nervous I was and because I didn't realize that the sex didn't even feel as great as I thought it would be. I also didn't realize before that watching a lot of porn and also being on anti-depressant desensitized me a lot below the waist. 

Having sex really can be different than jerking off. That's why I think it takes practice and trial and error to figure out what makes you feel really good in bed with a girl.

Thanks for the insights man!

[Rokazulu]

9 hours ago, SamC said:

I wasn't nervous, it was just that I wasn't that turned on by her. I am sure exsessive porn consumption is one of the reasons..

For sure many of us have adapted to that gratification.
If you are just into some rather vanilla stuff (doesn't matter how weird/gross it gets) you can indeed limit yourself and become more meditative and realize how much better it is.

As for someone like me, haha. Almost no hope of that.

 

[Leo Gura]

53 minutes ago, Hardkill said:

I thought so.

So, then how do people with high sex drives enjoy sex a lot?

Such people usually have sex with lots of new partners.

And also I'd question how much they really "enjoy" it.

I know a lot of guys who sleep with a lot of new girls, but I don't think they really enjoy sex at a deep level because their sex seems rather shallow. Just like eating a bunch of different fast food isn't really the best way to enjoy food. It's a low consciousness kind of enjoyment.

[universe]

10 hours ago, SamC said:

It was like the illusion broke. 

I just had it - and it didn't fullfill me, and it couldn't.

Perfect. Now you know, sex doesn't fullfill you, money doesn't fullfill you, power doesn't fullfill you.

It's all an illusion.

 

On the other hand, don't expect to be a master after the first time. It's like with cooking. Maybe your first time the food won't blow you away. That doesn't mean you can't still improve over time and cook something really nice.

You might got disappointed because you have been only eating at that nice italian restaurant down the block. And you expected something which tastes better than theirs. But it's not solely about the taste, it's about getting creative cooking and having fun while doing it.

[RendHeaven]

Maybe practice with your homies? ?

Edited April 10, 2022 by RendHeaven

[RendHeaven]

Nah in all seriousness though:

5 hours ago, Leo Gura said:

Don't get bummed out. Find hotter girls and keep trying. You'll have some amazing experiences at some point. Also, some girls are way better at sex than others. Many girls aren't good at it.

This is the way ;]

Love u bro

[Hardkill]

32 minutes ago, Leo Gura said:

Such people usually have sex with lots of new partners.

And also I'd question how much they really "enjoy" it.

I know a lot of guys who sleep with a lot of new girls, but I don't think they really enjoy sex at a deep level because their sex seems rather shallow. Just like eating a bunch of different fast food isn't really the best way to enjoy food. It's a low consciousness kind of enjoyment.

Oh yeah, I get what you're saying know. 

It goes back to the idea of how constantly trying to acquire more and more material success of any kind will never make you truly satisfied with what you get.

[vladorion]

I think the first time kinda sucks for most people.

[SamC]

9 hours ago, RendHeaven said:

Nah in all seriousness though:

This is the way ;]

Love u bro

[mmKay]

14 hours ago, Leo Gura said:

The reality is that most one nights stands are pretty lame. The sex isn't good because it feels awkward with a stranger and it can be hard to relax and enjoy it. Plus condoms.

But the biggest problem is when you pull a girl you're not attracted to. The lesson for you here is: pull hotter girls who actually turn you on. And then have sex with her multiple times.

At what point do you consider going raw?