Why do I feel like shit after fapping?

[Someone here]

It's something I never figured out .since my teenage years when I first discovered the pleasure that can be achieved through stroking my Penis ..I was always feeling down right after I ejaculate. I feel guilty. Lethargic and kinda depressed even. I don't understand why I feel like this after fapping. 

Anyone feels the same ? What could be the reason behind those emotions? 

[puporing]

Maybe it's a reminder of being a bit lonely? And also if you feel more ashamed of it as opposed to taking joy and pleasure. That's mostly conditioning. Also orgasms can in my experience induce an opening experience which can reveal the inner emotions/feelings that have been bottled up and away from your everyday consciousness - similar to some psychedelics in that. But it sounds like you are pointing mostly to guilt.

[Someone here]

21 minutes ago, puporing said:

Maybe it's a reminder of being a bit lonely? And also if you feel more ashamed of it as opposed to taking joy and pleasure. That's mostly conditioning. Also orgasms can in my experience induce an opening experience which can reveal the inner emotions/feelings that have been bottled up and away from your everyday consciousness - similar to some psychedelics in that. But it sounds like you are pointing mostly to guilt.

I heard that orgasms trigger a release of certain neurotransmitters that cause the mood to go down .is that correct? 

Edited April 1, 2022 by Someone here

[nistake]

Maybe you're repressing your sexuality and the way you're trying to handle it (i.e. fapping) is dysfunctional. Thus the lethargic emotions.

[Someone here]

6 minutes ago, nistake said:

Maybe you're repressing your sexuality and the way you're trying to handle it (i.e. fapping) is dysfunctional. Thus the lethargic emotions.

How so ?I'm not repressing my sexuality. I'm allowing myself to fap whenever I feel like it .and I watch whatever kind of porn that arouses me .

Do you think fapping and porn in general are healthy or not? 

[something_else]

They’re healthy but if you’re using them as a substitute for sex it will start to make you feel like shit

Dont stop fapping necessarily just make sure you’re still fulfilling the sexual relationship part of your life at the same time

[nistake]

@Someone here Well, if you're fully conscious of your sexuality, you shouldn't really feel depressed after fapping. On the contrary, in fact.

I don't mean that you allow yourself to fap or watch certain kinds of porn. I think there's a deeper issue at play. 

[Space]

1 hour ago, Someone here said:

It's something I never figured out .since my teenage years when I first discovered the pleasure that can be achieved through stroking my Penis ..I was always feeling down right after I ejaculate. I feel guilty. Lethargic and kinda depressed even. I don't understand why I feel like this after fapping. 

Anyone feels the same ? What could be the reason behind those emotions? 

If i'm honest I find it hard to relate to this. I nearly always feel very blissful, relaxed and peaceful after ejaculating. Why would I go against the natural feeling of wanting to masturbate? It's a natural part of the body built up over literally millions of years and guys in the no-fap community think it's not natural! hahaha! What is toxic is masturbating to over-saturated, unnatural looking porn. This might be why you're feeling the way you do?

Do you feel like you've built up some story or belief that ejaculating is a bad thing? The emotions you're having are a response to how you're interpreting the experience of ejaculating. So try to figure out how you're interpreting it. 

And be careful about watching really unnatural porn. This isn't healthy.

Are you trying to forcefully retain from masturbating? 

[Inliytened1]

2 hours ago, Someone here said:

It's something I never figured out .since my teenage years when I first discovered the pleasure that can be achieved through stroking my Penis ..I was always feeling down right after I ejaculate. I feel guilty. Lethargic and kinda depressed even. I don't understand why I feel like this after fapping. 

Anyone feels the same ? What could be the reason behind those emotions? 

Yeah it's because you are conscious of how animalistic we are as humans.  The body gets horny and then needs a release.   You really don't have any control over this physical aspect.  But it's OK.  Over time you will jerk off less frequently or stop altogether.  Here's a thought - get yourself a girlfriend and then you won't have to jerk off so much .

[Gesundheit2]

2 hours ago, Someone here said:

I feel guilty.

You don't feel guilty, you just think you're guilty for some reason that you can find and remove.

2 hours ago, Someone here said:

Lethargic

Semen is energy, so that's normal. Charge up on food and sleep and you'll feel normal again.

Extra tip: exercise to get an energy boost.

2 hours ago, Someone here said:

and kinda depressed even.

Same as guilty.

[Kshantivadin]

1 hour ago, Someone here said:

I heard that orgasms trigger a release of certain neurotransmitters that cause the mood to go down .is that correct? 

True. The French call orgasms le petit mort  (minor death). Many Eastern traditions believe that semen contains vital life-force.  From personal experience, abstaining from ejaculation is superior in every regard.

Porn is unhealthy. If you choose to masturbate, do it without porn.

Look into it. Listen to your body.

[Inliytened1]

8 minutes ago, Kshantivadin said:

True. The French call orgasms le petit mort  (minor death). Many Eastern traditions believe that semen contains vital life-force.  From personal experience, abstaining from ejaculation is superior in every regard.

Porn is unhealthy. If you choose to masturbate, do it without porn.

Look into it. Listen to your body.

Why do you think poirn is unhealthy? Can you expand on the reasons behind that?

[Raze]

Are you low testosterone?

Tey doing it without porn or imagination and just focusing on the feelings

 

3 hours ago, Kshantivadin said:

True. The French call orgasms le petit mort  (minor death). Many Eastern traditions believe that semen contains vital life-force.  From personal experience, abstaining from ejaculation is superior in every regard.

Porn is unhealthy. If you choose to masturbate, do it without porn.

Look into it. Listen to your body.

That’s not what the French saying means, it is referring to women briefly losing consciousness during intense orgasm 

[StarStruck]

There is an instinctual aspect and a mental aspect of it. Your instincts just want you to spread your genes. Once you have done that your body to chillax. Obviously you are deceiving your instincts when watching porn and you should not do it or keep it to a minimal (or in proportion). And the mental part of it could be more complex, it really depends on your programming.

[gettoefl]

we are given a few breaths here ... did we incarnate in this body to spill our life seed like a monkey? ... are we satisfied to die tonight?

as for me i give my all in putting in a good shift today and then if my dream ends i am more than happy with game over

[vizual]

@Knowledge Hoarder I think people usually fap either out of boredom, or escapism.

If you are constantly bored make sure you have productive things to do. If you are trying to escape your problems, it would be wise to try and face your problems.

If you are constantly engaged with life, and you are happy you don’t even feel the urge to fap. You would rather do real things.

[Raptorsin7]

Ejaculation drains life force energy.

Do a mini experiment. Go a few days without masterbatung and notice your drive and energy. Then masterbate every day for a few days and notice the difference in your energy and motivation 

[Username]

This is because you aren't controlling energy flow. You have to control your arousal so you are able to stop before it's to late. The longer you can stop yourself from ejaculating the better. Ideally you wouldn't ejaculate at all.

[something_else]

52 minutes ago, Raptorsin7 said:

Do a mini experiment. Go a few days without masterbatung and notice your drive and energy. Then masterbate every day for a few days and notice the difference in your energy and motivation 

The problem with this experiment is that there's no way to tell it isn't just placebo

I feel like I get a minor energy boost but I also get horny as fuck, which counteracts that energy boost

Edited April 1, 2022 by something_else

[Raptorsin7]

30 minutes ago, something_else said:

The problem with this experiment is that there's no way to tell it isn't just placebo

I feel like I get a minor energy boost but I also get horny as fuck, which counteracts that energy boost

Lol. What's the longest you've gone without masterbating?