Why do I feel like shit after fapping?

[LSD-Rumi]

15 hours ago, bambi said:

It takes years of abstinence from porn to fully recover. What does it being a recognized medical illness got to do with anything?

Jesus! I didnt't know watching porn causes cancer

 

15 hours ago, bambi said:

Do you never stop and think for a second why every single theological and spiritual tradition that have been created in the history of humanity

Because religion teaches repression not expression. I believe in expression and transcendance not repression. All animals practice sexuality freely with no problems, why should it be different for humans? Humans are highly sexual creatures and we should embrace that.

 

15 hours ago, bambi said:

You think they were all just stupid low conscious people like the Buddha, he just got it wrong

You are not the Buddha, are you? The Buddha transcendes and includes.

[Phil777]

20 hours ago, Leo Gura said:

I feel great every time. Improves my mood and focus.

Really? For how long does this focus stay? Didn't you have problems with your focus and ability to uphold a high level of productivity? You simply assumed it's not due to your sexual habits and that it's related to your autoimmune issues and diet.

Sexual energy if channeled properly is very invigorating and increases mood and focus sustainably over a long time, constantly.

Nothing wrong with cumming. Especially with a woman. Rate and amount is up to debate. I prefer to come through whole body, non ejaculatory orgasms. That shit is gooood. Cumming is for special occasions hehe.

[Inliytened1]

16 hours ago, Username said:

I think that you should shot an episode about fapping 

 

Might be too much for the average guy to handle and he will end up pulling it down ?

[voxun]

On 4/2/2022 at 6:06 PM, Someone here said:

Maybe. But perhaps it's designed to be shot out inside a vagina not into the toilet 

Use tissues rather then aiming for the toilet. Thank me later.

[The0Self]

Could be all in your head from hearing of all the supposed benefits of no-fap. Or you could be among those who actually feel worse from fapping — maybe no-fap works for some, but all the shit about how shooting semen drains your life force... completely imaginary bs. I’ve tried all kinds of things for mental clarity, etc, and ime no-fap had zero positive effects. I was expecting at least something, but no — and my senses were very acute at the time because of all the meditation I was doing, so I would have definitely been able to differentiate positive effects if they were present. So that was that. Now, whenever I have a gf I’m pretty much doing no-fap, at least for some periods, but still nutting daily.

Death to no-fap! ? 

[bambi]

1 hour ago, The0Self said:

Could be all in your head from hearing of all the supposed benefits of no-fap. Or you could be among those who actually feel worse from fapping — maybe no-fap works for some, but all the shit about how shooting semen drains your life force... completely imaginary bs. I’ve tried all kinds of things for mental clarity, etc, and ime no-fap had zero positive effects. I was expecting at least something, but no — and my senses were very acute at the time because of all the meditation I was doing, so I would have definitely been able to differentiate positive effects if they were present. So that was that. Now, whenever I have a gf I’m pretty much doing no-fap, at least for some periods, but still nutting daily.

Death to no-fap! ? 

Out of curiosity, how often do you normally masturbate and watch porn per week? And for how long did you do nofap?

[QandC]

If you feel shitty after doing it, then don't do it.

But I don't think there's anything bad about fapping and releasing semen. Most people who are into the whole NoFap thing (me for example) don't understand that it's mostly a belief. You expect to feel shitty after, and so you do. You expect to feel good if you don't and so you feel good when you don't do it. If you're in that cycle of belief then either you change your belief, or you stay in the cycle. What's mostly worth while for you? I've already accepted that I'm so invested into the belief so I just don't fap, and I it doesn't bother me at all. If my body needs to release semen it will through wet dreams, or I just have sex.

Porn however is a different story. 

Edited April 4, 2022 by QandC

[Realms of Wonder]

On 4/1/2022 at 3:14 AM, Someone here said:

It's something I never figured out .since my teenage years when I first discovered the pleasure that can be achieved through stroking my Penis ..I was always feeling down right after I ejaculate. I feel guilty. Lethargic and kinda depressed even. I don't understand why I feel like this after fapping. 

Anyone feels the same ? What could be the reason behind those emotions? 

did you grow up Christian or religious?

[mojsterr]

On 03/04/2022 at 0:43 PM, Phil777 said:

I prefer to come through whole body, non ejaculatory orgasms. That shit is gooood.

So, how do you achieve this?

[RareGodzilla]

Playing with yourself is completely natural and healthy. Try to enjoy it, it's a great part of life. 

Personally I have tried to significantly reduce the amount of porn I consume and I think it's a good thing to do so. Playing just with yourself and not staring into a screen can often bring a much more rewarding orgasm. 

[Michal__]

I think POIS has a lot to do with subconscious guilt (law of attraction).

I grew up in a Christian household. When I was younger I tried nofap (for more than a month). I did experience POIS probably even before my nofap experiment. 

But now (past year or two) my mental clarity, energy etc. are at an all time high and I don't do nofap at all. I've removed a shit ton of limiting beliefs though. I never experience POIS anymore.

[ZenAlex]

At the end of the day no one on here is an expert neuroscientist/biologist/doctor, that's gonna have all the answers.

I personally feel more depressed/anxious for days after fapping, so i can relate to OP.

I feel better when I don't fap. There may be some desire to do it for a bit after, but after a while I go through a nice flat line and don't really think much about sex. 

Some people report feeling better, some people report feeling worse, everyone's body is different. 

To OP - Doesn't matter what anyone else says, do what works for you. 

Anyone critical of nofap should try it for a while and see what happens. 

For some people it's just cope and bullshit, but for me - It makes me feel better if I don't fap regularly, that's I'm gonna say.

It's not a self-esteem thing, It's not about feeling like a loser, I just feel mentally and emotionally worse after fapping. I feel better, less anxious, less emotionally numb and less irritable when I don't fap.

Edited April 5, 2022 by ZenAlex

[The0Self]

On 4/4/2022 at 1:57 PM, bambi said:

Out of curiosity, how often do you normally masturbate and watch porn per week? And for how long did you do nofap?

Not every day, but generally at least twice a week (most weeks) on the porn + masturbation. Probably 2-3 days in a row, occasionally. Sometimes I forget about it for a week or so if I'm busy but that's rare. Did no-fap for probably 3-4 weeks a few years back. It wasn't a struggle. Did it a few more times organically when I noticed I'd gone a week or so without, and just kept the momentum going for shits and giggles for about another week. I don't feel like either daily fap or no fap is better than the other, but they can and do have different qualities -- can't really specify or clearly remember those details but they certainly can have a different feel to them. I'd imagine that if one feels guilty or shameful about fap/porn, that could massively contribute to a large portion of any negative effects of shooting loads. If it didn't take me so long to cum (it really does take me an unusually long time; nothing to really complain about lol) then I'd very likely do it every day.

[LSD-Rumi]

21 hours ago, Michal__ said:

ut now (past year or two) my mental clarity, energy etc. are at an all time high and I don't do nofap at all. I've removed a shit ton of limiting beliefs though. I never experience POIS anymore.

I noticed I get POIS symptoms when I am masturbating in a low consciousness manner, and I get none when I do it in a deep, full body orgasm manner. Some member here  proposed that POIS depends on how you ejaculate, you get symptoms if you do it in a bad manner.

[LordFall]

On 4/2/2022 at 0:06 PM, Someone here said:

Maybe. But perhaps it's designed to be shot out inside a vagina not into the toilet 

If that's what you believe then that's the cause of your being drained after watching porn by yourself. If you authentically don't want to be doing that and you really want to find a girl to cum into but you're too lazy/scared to do it then that is the shame/guilt, nothing to do with the act of masturbating itself.

I feel pretty good and inspired after I watch porn because I know that my main goal is to figure out my purpose/cash flow right now and running after girls doesn't do too much for me in the immediate future. If anything I feel inspired because I know that I'm on track to getting my version of the wild sex I'm seeing on screen. 

[SgtPepper]

I feel/felt guilty or unhappy with it because it's a waste of time, its degenerate, and contributes nothing.

@Someone here What do you spend your time doing instead?

Edited April 7, 2022 by SgtPepper

[TheSelf]

On 4/1/2022 at 2:44 PM, Someone here said:

Anyone feels the same ? What could be the reason behind those emotions? 

Study Mantak Chia's methods for becoming multi orgasmic (he git multiple books regarding this subject), I've felt the same in before, but after put in practice and get the ability to preserve my semen  and sexual energy, all those negative feelings and the fatigue that comes after fapping all gone! Now I feel great and there's no loss of energy.

[Truth-Seeker]

On 2022-04-02 at 11:53 AM, Leo Gura said:

Bro, semen is literally designed to be shot out. What are you thinking?

Leo, I believed the same thing, but your radical open-mindedness video and "Assumption is the Mother of All Fuckups" made me think "maybe this is an assumption." 

I went on No-Fap and it honestly changed my life. As the OP @Someone here mentions, I feel like shit after fapping. I don't want to do anything with my life after I nut. This is ESPECIALLY true if the fapping is to porn. The way it drains my dopamine system is insane. 

To others reading this and wondering, yes I grew up in a stage blue society but moved to Canada while still young and I am very sexually open and don't have any stage blue religious thinking and don't practice any religion. 

So to answer you @Someone here, I am with you. In fact, I went on a super long streak of over 500 days of NoFap and NoPorn. Went back to Porn and then lost all motivation in life. Quit porn again and now I am achieving and "GO GO GO" all the time. 

I am reading what @Leo Gura and @LordFall have said and I am looking at the experiences of my friends and it seems to me that this toxic reaction to porn is EITHER:

1. Something that occurs to particular individuals 
2. Or those who enjoy porn are not conscious of how much it limits their potential to achieve in life. Meaning, if those who like porn can open their mind to NoFap and truly practice transmutation, MAYBE they can do better and more in their life. 

Leo, MANY of the things you mentioned on your Detox video (for example about how you sleep less and have more energy)...MAN THAT WAS WHAT HAPPENED TO ME AND MANY NOFAPPERS  (we are talking 1000s of testimonies) when we quit porn, I got these amazing benefits. 

Again, I GENUINELY don't know if it is a matter of just some men being too sensitive with their dopamine system getting fried too quickly by porn and experience all these adverse effects (like myself and @Someone here and many NoFap success stories) or all men are like this but some just don't have enough open mindedness to TRY and see how they can jack up their results!