Why her friend threatened me ?

[Rishabh R]

In my 1st year of collage I proposed a girl by saying -I love you on a chat(Initially she blocked me on WhatsApp as I didn't know that she was in the hospital recovering from covid -19).After proposing her on chat she said -I will slap will slap you on the face.And the next day her friend from a different engineering branch of the same collage threatened me and said that study and don't do all these things.This event occurred almost an year ago- I don't know that why I am not able to forget it even though I go out a lot and got a few girls attracted to me. 

How is my understanding not sufficient enough about the situation?

How am I not understanding the guy who threatened me ?

Also guys and @LeoGura  can you all recommend good epistemology books for me ?By the way I have recently downloaded the book an Introduction to contemporary epistemology

[NoSelfSelf]

You are doing uncalibrated things that makes you come off creepy...

Saying i love you to a girl you dont know that well is first...

[something_else]

12 minutes ago, NoSelfSelf said:

Saying i love you to a girl you dont know that well is first...

I had a convo with @Preety_India about this recently, apparently saying I love you super early on is the norm in Indian culture and is expected of guys

So it might not be as uncalibrated as it seems

 

[NoSelfSelf]

@something_else Thats interesting,how long from knowing a girl? Thats put extra pressure on guys and putting them in disadvantage hmm...

[something_else]

31 minutes ago, NoSelfSelf said:

@something_else Thats interesting,how long from knowing a girl? Thats put extra pressure on guys and putting them in disadvantage hmm...

I think she said she’d expect it in the first month or something, don’t remember exactly

[puporing]

Prob she just didn't feel that way about you and felt creeped out by it. I'm sorry you had to go through that. I'm not sure about your situation but some women feel really unsafe too and that could be a factor. There was a time when a guy was semi-stalking me and it made me feel really unsafe even if from his perspective it was maybe 'loving' but it was clearly not reciprocated and he kept doing it (stalking and saying suggestive stuff). I don't know the details but sounds like best to move on.. 

[Rishabh R]

@puporing yeah thanks it is good to move on but the scars remain ??

[NoSelfSelf]

@something_else i can understand that if you date for a month but here what i got is they are talking casually(not intent of dating) and he suddenly said that she loves her ?

[puporing]

1 hour ago, Rishabh R said:

@puporing yeah thanks it is good to move on but the scars remain ??

This tells me it could be a sign of a deeper issue to look into as well...

Without spoiling too much it could be childhood-related which can make us pin a lot of hope in romantic prospects - and thus when they don't work out it can be soul-crushing rather than just move on and continue our exploration/adventure. We may be hoping to meet some kind of unmet need for love/validation/to be seen. This is something you can work out through spirituality/self-therapy and/or with healers. I've been there (it's still not easy) and know what it's like to be on a 'hamster wheel'. Just thought I'd add this you can ignore it if it doesn't seem to apply .

[Arcangelo]

When I was 23 my girlfriend pressured me to say it. I said it several times, but she knew I didn't mean it. I made it clear.

I just said it to please her.

She fell for me SO hard. I bet she's still in love with me. I was never in love with her.

I hope someday another woman falls in love with me the same way. I really do, and that I will love her back fr.

So I can close my silly pick up thread.