So I did pickup for the first time

[kieranperez]

So I joined a local group of guys that I met thanks to @Leo Gura’s Link to find wings in San Francisco, which is where I live.

I put it off for such a long time but decided to go out with a guys that have heeen doing this for awhile and it was honestly a lot of fun. I don’t really get the incredible pressure we put into this. I didn’t find I had to be manipulative at all and control perspectives to just cold approach girls and have a good time. Even the connection with other guys was fun. It just seemed like a group that wanted to better themselves (though they seemed kinda caught in their own little belief system as well as the biased perspective of the world space they liked and enjoyed - but so what?).

Didn’t take anyone home but I don’t care. I just went out to have a good time and I had a much better time than I thought in would. I didn’t really go in with this expectation of taking girls home.

I look forward to going out again with some of these guys again. 
 

P.S. if you’re into all this Red pill and incel garbage please throw that away. You don’t need to be some alpha male to get with or even just have fun with girls. I’m a 6’2” skinny dude with the wrists that look like they belong to a 90 year grandmother and fingers that resemble the talons of a crow. Though I will say I’m fairly good looking, I’m not some cliche alpha male guy. I’m an incredibly sensitive dude and I can promise you, it doesn’t really matter wtf you say when you go up to a girl and just shoot shit. You don’t even need to be all that manipulative or inauthentic or violate your integrity. Which, to me is a pleasant relief.

[NoSelfSelf]

Good job! Authentic expression is the key!...many guys including me have problems putting it out there because you get stiffled...amazing that you can do it first time ?

[something_else]

I think learning to have a great time while you’re out is a great starting point. Learn to just chill while you’re in social environments, learn to approach girls as it feels right, you’ll make good progress 

[Leo Gura]

Going out and approaching consistently is like 80% of what pickup is. The rest is fine-tuning.

It can be a lot of fun if you're doing it with friends.

Solo tends to be really hard tough.

[Terell Kirby]

2 hours ago, Leo Gura said:

Solo tends to be really hard tough.

What are the challenges of doing it solo, and how to overcome? Pick up buddies may not be readily available for some folks here .. at least for the time being.

[Leo Gura]

@Terell Kirby Try it and see.

The solution is to push through it and approach anyway.

You cannot always rely on having wings. Some nights none of your wings will come through.