What Do Men Prefer: Nice Girls Vs. Bitches?

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@clytaemnestra

Let us consider the question from the standpoint of courtship.

When a man and a woman do the courtship dance, they run tests on each other that increase in complexity as the courtship progresses.

Here's what it looks like:

Woman is beautiful, man is intriguing 

Woman is generous, man is masterful

Woman is challenging, man is triumphant

A "nice" girl is someone who is comfortable with step 2, but doesn't often progress to step 3 of the courtship. That is, she gives of herself freely, is warm and flirtatious, but doesn't challenge men very often and in so doing denies them the opportunity to pass her tests and "win her over" (hence "triumphant"). Taken to an extreme, you might say this person is a doormat. 

On the other hand, when a woman skips step 2 and goes straight to step 3, she is being challenging without giving of herself. This is what you might call a "bitch". This person would push a lot of men, including some really awesome men, away, because they haven't been shown enough of her good side to want to pass her tests. All effort for unknown reward. 

Best to have balance among all 3.