Homework answers for conflict episode -1 ?Are they correct

[Rishabh R]

@Leo Gura and guys how are you all? After contemplating conflicts (which I have to do even more in future) I came to following conclusions.

Conflict arises when

-One party or person unknowingly threatens the survival of other person or party/group

-One doesn't take into account that that person didn't have the same survival demands as himself/herself 

-Not admitting that I don't know

-Not exploring someone else's perspective

-Not understanding the other side

and many more causes are there which I can discover. Any more that you all can add ?

 

 

Edited March 24, 2022 by Rishabh R
Forgot to include a line

[PepperBlossoms]

-physically harming the other person

-bullying, picking on one's character or anything

-taking everything too personally, getting too emotional, being too sensitive to continue/interact, making oneself the victim, getting triggered by the subject, feeling touchy about the subject

-poor reasoning/epistemology; thinking too simple; not enough nuance

-being too scared to speak your mind, feeling like an asshole and preventing oneself from just being real to themselves, feeling uncomfortable

-lying, deceptive, inauthentic, unreliable

-a clash of personality types, someone who has a hard time interacting with certain people of certain personalities/backgrounds/mindsets/etc.

-not sticking with the conversation long enough for both sides to understand each other and come to some sort of consensus (ex: switching subjects too fast, one person hogging all the speaking time and talking over the other person, not listening, not responding, seeing the other person as an idiot, repeating the same phrases over and over again and the conversation going no where, not having enough similar experience to be able to understand, using logical fallacies, not engaging (derping), not understanding the references and there needing so much time to explain stuff to just be able to keep the conversation going, being really bad at working with others)

-having such different value systems/goals

-having a different opinion on what conversations/interactions are supposed to look like and what the point/goal of the conversation/interaction it is supposed to be

-misunderstanding, confusion, poor translation, loss of data by telephone game

-censorship of information, not being allowed to speak, propaganda, blasting of one perspective and quieting of any dissenting perspectives

-not seeing self's own shortcomings and only seeing the shortcomings of the other person; seeing the other person as delusional. unaware of one's own delusions;

-unable to go deep/broad enough, not creative enough, not curious/patient enough, not enough communication skills/experience

-personal bias, survival bias

-benefit to have the outcome be a certain way, one's survival depends on the failure/exploitation of the other

-unwilling to drop one's own perspective, unwilling to see it any other way

-attention span is too short, one really isn't interested in the topic/activity, one is focused on something else and isn't really being present with the interaction

-selfishness, low scope of concern

Edited March 24, 2022 by PepperBlossoms

[Rishabh R]

@PepperBlossoms wow

[PepperBlossoms]

haha my life is a rollercoaster so yeah.  I live in conflict..

here are some more

-mental illness

-huge ego; thinking of self as so much better than everyone else (intellectually, discipline-wise, skills, etc.) and one becomes absolutely ridiculous to deal with (out of control ego/asshole)

-wanting to be "morally good" so badly that one sees the bad in everyone else but self and logically reasons with self that self can do what self is doing even if it is bad stuff; obsession with being "respectable/perfect/morally just" (example - one wants to kill the killers as a way to rid evil but then becomes a killer in doing so); one justifies one actions because one was hurt by other but yet the actions are going to cause hurt too

-defending one's stance/team/actions because of tribalism; "us vs. them"; using social norms, current ethics laws, religion, etc. to reason one's actions even if they are hurtful

-when there is no punishment, people may start to steal/kill because they can get away with it and benefit from it; when one group has so much power imbalance advantage that no one can really do anything to stop them that the power corrupts them (wealthy; large militaries; large corporations)

-when there is too much punishment/strictness, people may start to resent authority/rules and see authority/rules as bad and themselves as good even if they are causing conflict for the group/others

-poor sleep/diet can cause anger

-the natural conflict that exists where stuff has to eat/take from/consume to survive

-the natural conflict that exists when: you start making land, property, resources, food, water, information, etc. private and put a money value on labor/goods and the owner gets more value from the work than the laborer does; when people are forced to work;  when jobs do not get the same pay or even people within the same company not getting the same pay; when there is an imbalance in natural skills, aptitudes, abilities, interests, values, experience, resources; when people have different values to where they cannot agree on what the outcome/goal should be; when one refuses to admit wrongdoing for anything or when one takes the blame for everything; when people do things to benefit themselves at the expense of the group's suffering or vice versa; having a different experience and so different understanding/views

.... lots of ways for conflict.......

[Rishabh R]

@PepperBlossoms by the way it is a good list and by looking at the list I am sure that you have contemplated the topic a lot ??.