How to not be a victim/loser

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This is the biggest question dominating my mind. 

 

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My search for true love in a man sadly comes to an end. 

I have realized through personal experiences and struggles that true love sadly does not exist between a man and a woman. Sadly humanity has raised too many barriers for such love to even develop. 

True love exists but it exists like a concept, like a poetry, like a vibe. In reality it is too rare to hold. 

If someone loved/loves  you truly, cherish it while it lasts (technically true love should last forever but this is idealistic). 

True love exists on its own like humanity or goodwill or courage. You can find glimpses of it but it won't come to you in a materialized form (like any other divine quality). This realization for a spiritual Seeker is important so that they don't get disillusioned in the quest of true love. 

The love that you seek is here around you, it always existed but you never noticed it. It was there. 

Did your mother love you truly? 

It doesn't matter even if she didn't. She didn't abandon you. 

True love, like a divine attribute doesn't forsake. Doesn't let you down, doesn't let you fall. Is always by your side like courage and loyalty, like a true comrade always with you no matter what. 

The lyrics of my favorite song Ave Maria demonstrate this point. 

She was lost in so many different ways
Out in the darkness with no guide
I know the cost of a losing hand
But for the grace of God go I

I found Heaven on earth
You are my last, my first
And then I hear this voice inside
Ave Maria

I've been alone
When I'm surrounded by friends
How could the silence be so loud?
But I still go home
Knowing that I've got you
There's only us when the lights go down

You are my Heaven on earth
You are my hunger, my thirst
I always hear this voice inside
Singing Ave Maria

Sometimes love can come and pass you by

While you're busy making plans

Suddenly hits you and then you realize

It's out of your hands

Baby, you got to understand

 

You are my Heaven on earth

You are my last, my first

And then I hear this voice inside

Ave Maria

 

Ave Maria

Ave Maria

 

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Sometimes true love can come and pass you by and you never realize that it was there for you all along. 

 

It never went anywhere. But you failed to notice it. 

 

It's not charming or fantastic or attractive like a package with a bow, it's just pure simple deep harmonizing and beautiful, Empathetic and liberating. 

It understands what you feel and it knows what's right for you. It doesn't want you to suffer. It wants you to grow and heal. And keep healing. 

It's like an ocean, it's too big and strong. It will never let you go. 

It will always want the best for you. 

It won't be conditional or limited by barriers and expectations. It's not ruled by any doctrine. It binds you because you are a part of it not away from it. It does not divide or separate or look down on you. It does not pretend. True love is like truth. It stands there like a mirror like a river always flowing and always nourishing and always guiding and always giving. Like an endless river. It's never going to be dry. 

Sadly human beings don't have a capacity for this, so you will unfortunately always be unfulfilled in relationships no matter how hard you try. 

Relationships are governed by principles of attraction which can easily fade and turn away on a dime. You'll try for better and better relationships yet they will somehow always end in trouble because of expectations, fights, greed, cheating, insecurity, fear, dissonance and all other human maladies that will eventually plague even the best relationships. There is no loyalty. There is no fulfillment. You'll always be restless. 

Some relationships can mimic true love and you would be very fortunate to have created or found one. This is not for everyone though, just a few lucky bunch. So don't hinge on to someone else's experience and think you would have it. Maybe not. In the absence of such an experience, you create your own. 

At the end of the day, everyone deserves love, fat, ugly, strong, weak, young, old, beautiful, dumb, nobody is too bad for true love. The most hurting deserve it even more, just like the most hungry deserve food. 

But the laws of the world are designed in such a way that the rich get richer and the hungry ones are left to perish. The world gives it to those who didn't even earn it or might not even need, yet the ones who truly need are neglected. Because it's a stage Orange unempathetic world that has designed rules that serve  survival of the fittest. In this dog eat dog world you can't find it. 

You'll always be wandering aimlessly like a disembodied voice in this world that is not suited for you, this world is not for me, not for you. 

Jesus Christ put it correctly, "it is easier for a camel to go through the eye of a needle than for a rich man to enter the kingdom of God"This world is based on survival. It does not fulfill deeper needs. That's why the deeper self is at conflict with this world. 

The world cannot be spiritual because then it won't aid survival It's about the absolute versus the relative. They don't meet. They are at odds. 

The whole kumbaya thing only happens in dreams. 

The divine self needs another divine self. The divine value needs another divine value. The divine heart needs another divine heart. The divine world needs another divine world, not this materialistic world. This world is an antithesis to Divinity, the sooner you realize this, the better.. That's why you feel neglected, poached and roughed up and judged. 

 

Your needs would be met immediately if you were living in a divine world that seeks the virtues of the soul rather than the body. Now if you walked into a temple and said these things, they would mock you, because this language of the soul they do not understand. They can't relate.

 

Edited March 23, 2022 by Preety_India

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The divine self will not only seek the divine self but also give the divine self. 

The world is an antithesis to the divine self 

I will call the divine values deeper self values and the world values as outer values or egoic values. 

As a result the deeper self values are constantly in clash with outer values 

As a result the deeper self is never satisfied or fulfilled and sometimes poached. 

 

[Preety_India]

The biggest question is how to not be a victim. 

How to not be a loser/sucker

 

 

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The divine self as a measure of protection against toxicity or bad forces has only one solution to keep itself protected. 

Is psychic and divine intelligence. 

This is the ultimate answer for the deeper self and the deeper souls on this planet. 

The psychic intelligence will act as a buffer, shield and aura of protection and guide the deeper self's life and journey through the world whereas knowledge will fortify it in general. 

For the deeper self there are only 2 solutions 

Psychic intelligence 

And God's love 

True love. 

True love and psychic intelligence. 

True love will renew and empower 

Psychic intelligence will guide and protect 

And gifts 

Gifts and Acts 

 

 

Edited March 23, 2022 by Preety_India