What do you desire and fear the most? Why?

[PurpleTree]

desire: oneness, happiness, love, abundance

fear: fear itself, division, the opposite of happiness, scarcity

Edited March 23, 2022 by PurpleTree

[Razard86]

15 hours ago, r0ckyreed said:

What I mean by a true potential is to give it your all and not have any regrets. Live life to the fullest and have the highest level of mastery that you can possibly have on your deathbed.

1. There is nothing to achieve in life. This is the first illusion and one that is purported by society so they can make USE of you. Every achievement you make will give you a brief dopamine hit and then you will ask "That was great but now what's next?" If you continue this way in the hopes that you will somehow reach some new level of happiness....you won't. You cannot attach your happiness to anything outside of you. I learned this early on in life by studying the most successful people throughout history and they all learned this lesson. 

2. Regret is an expression of your beliefs. You CHOOSE to regret. If you CHOOSE to regret you create the emotion of GUILT. You feel GUILT because you are JUDGING yourself. When you do that you create a "SHADOW" or parts of yourself you hide from yourself to escape your judgment and walk around with REPRESSED GUILT. 

3. Live your life with no regrets. Understand that you were TAUGHT to regret. As a toddler you didn't regret anything because you were too busy exploring the world and that regret was taught to you so that your caregivers and teachers could CONTROL you and curtail potentially any disruptive/dangerous behavior they assumed you might engage in. Its a necessary evil to some extent but then as Adults we have to transcend that part of our conditioning or suffer the consequences.

[ZenSwift]

I desire to work hard and I fear losing myself to hard work. 

[r0ckyreed]

5 hours ago, Razard86 said:

1. There is nothing to achieve in life. This is the first illusion and one that is purported by society so they can make USE of you. Every achievement you make will give you a brief dopamine hit and then you will ask "That was great but now what's next?" If you continue this way in the hopes that you will somehow reach some new level of happiness....you won't. You cannot attach your happiness to anything outside of you. I learned this early on in life by studying the most successful people throughout history and they all learned this lesson. 

2. Regret is an expression of your beliefs. You CHOOSE to regret. If you CHOOSE to regret you create the emotion of GUILT. You feel GUILT because you are JUDGING yourself. When you do that you create a "SHADOW" or parts of yourself you hide from yourself to escape your judgment and walk around with REPRESSED GUILT. 

3. Live your life with no regrets. Understand that you were TAUGHT to regret. As a toddler you didn't regret anything because you were too busy exploring the world and that regret was taught to you so that your caregivers and teachers could CONTROL you and curtail potentially any disruptive/dangerous behavior they assumed you might engage in. Its a necessary evil to some extent but then as Adults we have to transcend that part of our conditioning or suffer the consequences.

I appreciate your perspective.  For me, true potential is not about achievement, but more about being all that I can be.  We all have unique gifts, skills, and talents.  True potential is using gifts, skills, and talents in my life and to follow my heart.  

As with regret, if I did not follow my heart and dreams, if I lived my entire life the way I did not want to live it, then I would experience regret.  One of my biggest fears is being too scared to take risks and follow my heart.  Another fear is to also lose my comforts that I have now and to suffer.  So, I am kind of in a bind lol.

I do not really regret anything in my life so far because I still believe that I have time because I am still young (25).  But I have dreams to travel to national parks this summer, and I would be mad at the opportunities I let slip by.  I believe that regret can be a choice and a matter of perspective, but I also think that it is an emotion that happens to us in association with us seeing the opportunities we missed in life.  To a certain degree, it is a choice, but on another level, it does not seem to be if one lives their entire life realizing that they were climbing up the wrong latter.  All emotions are valid, it is just what we do with them that matters.  I see regret as a sign that I am capable of more than I realize, and I let myself and opportunities pass away.

5 hours ago, ZenSwift said:

I desire to work hard and I fear losing myself to hard work. 

I resonate with this.

[Etherial Cat]

On 22/03/2022 at 0:40 AM, r0ckyreed said:

What do you desire the most?

Trust, Peace, Love, Joy

On 22/03/2022 at 0:40 AM, r0ckyreed said:

What do you fear the most?

Fear

[r0ckyreed]

8 hours ago, Etherial Cat said:

Fear

I never understood this answer.  Fearing fear is fearing to feel.  There is nothing wrong with the emotion of fear, it is how we use it.  Fear is one of the most powerful emotions we have that can motivate us and enhance us to succeed, if used in a conscious manner.  The pit scene from the Dark Knight Rises (Batman Movie) is a great example of how useful the emotion of fear is.  

[Etherial Cat]

6 hours ago, r0ckyreed said:

I never understood this answer.  Fearing fear is fearing to feel.  There is nothing wrong with the emotion of fear, it is how we use it.  Fear is one of the most powerful emotions we have that can motivate us and enhance us to succeed, if used in a conscious manner.  The pit scene from the Dark Knight Rises (Batman Movie) is a great example of how useful the emotion of fear is.  

Well, you asked me what I fear most.

The answer is: everything that leads me to being afraid.

Fear is always about refusing an experience. It is a rejection, a resistance of the present moment. I dislike indeed that rejection per se.

If fear is not there, there is acceptance.

Of course, the emotion of fear is useful to a certain degree. But to know I don't need to put my hand on a hot stove, I don't need to fear it. Fear is useful as long as you aren't mature enough to know whether an experience is dangerous or not.

[kag101]

i want my life to be in stabilized and evolving positively

one fear i have is the economy breaking down big time

[Realms of Wonder]

What do you desire the most?

- To know the Truth of what I am, my highest Self, intimately, fully, completely, light and dark, in and out, EVERYTHING.

What do you fear the most?

- Facing my dark side, my insecurities, need of love and approval, my repressed sexual drives/desires, my prejudices, biases, beliefs, fantasies, and so on.

- Being 100% authentic.

Why? Be specific!

- I am afraid that my mental idea of who I am will be shattered when I realize what I actually am.

- I am afraid that I will be reject able, unlovable, weird, outcast, alienated, spit on, killed, for being me. I haven't thought deeply enough about what it all boils down to, I have heard that the root of all fear is fear of death.. Maybe that's it, 

What do you desire and what do you fear at the most fundamental level and why? 

Desire: To be complete, whole, and integrated. Ultimately, Self Love.

Fear: Being rejected, hated, or killed, for being ME. 

Why? Because I have been fragmented, dis-integrated and self hating, and it was literal hell. Because I intuit that if I live authentically, whatever that means, I will have lived the Good life, for me.

Why? Because I have been rejected, hated, and even threatened to be murdered for who I am. I am afraid of that repeating.

Edited April 6, 2022 by Realms of Wonder
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[Rokazulu]

I desire renown, money, good organic food, sexual dreams, connections from the astral, more love for humanity and whatever Enlightenment may self-realize.

I would like to say I only desire Enlightenment, and love but it wouldn't be so accurate from my perspective. If I did, I would be sitting in meditation every waking moment and think of nothing else.

Fear definitely exists, as well. Though, often the only time I feel fear is within some kind of void or elder god within my dream state. It is actually good when it happens, because it means I am integrating with a far larger aspect of myself.

I would like to imagine that if faced with death in the waking world, I would not fear it, but my dreams indicate that this is mostly not the case for the personality I am, in this moment. Maybe someday or in some future life.

 

Edited April 6, 2022 by Rokazulu