Is beauty really a matter of perception?

[Karmadhi]

11 hours ago, Leo Gura said:

Because they just assume a hot guy is confident. They don't understand what it takes for a guy to develop confidence nor do they care. They will just unconsciously screen out meek, unconfident guys.

And if you ask them, of course they will admit they like confidence.

"I want to sleep with an insecure, meek, unconfident man", said no woman ever.

Something that bothers me sometimes though is that when i am out and about i see usually on the streets or on social media, physically attractive girls with physically attractive guys. It is often the same attractivness level (give or take). It is rare for me to see an unattractive guy with an attractive girls.

I am talking here about proper couples, not stuff that happens in clubs. So proper girlfriend basically.

I know it is a limiting belief but it makes me feel a bit bad ngl.

[gettoefl]

On 11/03/2022 at 6:06 AM, Leo Gura said:

 

You need to learn how attraction works and you need to become proactive about attracting women. You don't wait for them to like you. It shouldn't even matter to you if they like you. You approach the ones you like and you do your thing. Some will hook. Most will not. It's like fishing. You don't sit around wondering if a fish likes you. You just cast your bait over and over again until something hooks. And you make the bait as juicy as possible.

the only master baiting you need

[RMQualtrough]

1 hour ago, Karmadhi said:

Something that bothers me sometimes though is that when i am out and about i see usually on the streets or on social media, physically attractive girls with physically attractive guys. It is often the same attractivness level (give or take). It is rare for me to see an unattractive guy with an attractive girls.

I am talking here about proper couples, not stuff that happens in clubs. So proper girlfriend basically.

I know it is a limiting belief but it makes me feel a bit bad ngl.

Why would you set the bar of your standards to be way above your league? If you're going to do that, you have to accept it makes sense that you might stay single.

If you aimed within your own league you could be in a relationship within seconds, like all normal people...

You know who seeks "pickup" advice? It's like, short bald Indians who want to date Kendall Jenner. That's why they need "tricks".

[Leo Gura]

3 hours ago, Karmadhi said:

Something that bothers me sometimes though is that when i am out and about i see usually on the streets or on social media, physically attractive girls with physically attractive guys. It is often the same attractivness level (give or take). It is rare for me to see an unattractive guy with an attractive girls.

I am talking here about proper couples, not stuff that happens in clubs. So proper girlfriend basically.

I know it is a limiting belief but it makes me feel a bit bad ngl.

I have seen attractive girls with lame looking guys.

But of course generally people of similar attractiveness levels match. Buy attractiveness in a guy is not just about looks.

Most normal guys don't have much game nor much value to offer, they just coast on whatever they got. In which case they can't bat out of their league much.

Batting out of your laegue requires bringing the value.

[Yali]

@Leo Gura People seem to value physical attraction over personality compatibility. At least in the initial stages of the relationship.

 

Edited March 12, 2022 by Yali