What is the future you would want to avoid?

[somegirl]

What are you scared you will manifest, as a result of letting your laziness/indecisivness and bad habits take over your life, or as a result of failing to define and pursue your goals?

Can you vividly imagine that miserable and painful life you're running away from, the absolute worst case scenario? 

Or maybe you know about few people who have made bad decisions/lack thereof who have made their life an absolute hell on earth. Share a story if you know of such cases.

[Rishabh R]

I am scared of how the interactions of mine with my collage mates go when I meet them. Obviously the solution is to face my fear and go through it . I am also scared that the girl whom I proposed( said I love you) online rejected me badly and whose friend called to threaten me how will the girl react when she will meet me .So I have to go through it.

[Javfly33]

Being 40 years old Lonely depressed at my home doing drugs or spending hundreds on porn to numb the emotional Pain of my inability to control and master my emotions. Feel i wasted my Life and NY youth and theres no coming back and i have 20 years more of intense suffering.

On the Absolute level though, everything is fine, i am God, Absolute and Im not going anywhere. The ego fears are a dream-twisted illusion, everything is fine. 

@somegirl I found this post interesting! Thanks for creating It!

[Random witch]

I'm afraid of loosing my interest in spiritual work, fall into ego traps, wasting my time on a false work.

I'm afraid to develop a mental illness, not having enough income to sustain myself, to be dependent on the wrong people.

I'm afraid to lose a common ground with my family and loved ones because I do the work and they don't, it's already painful and it's a suffer for me to be a new person that they can't relate to anymore. I'm at a grief of the old me and the old relationship I had with my family and people in my life, it never be the same anymore, I'm afraid that it will be even harder in future.

 

Edited March 6, 2022 by Random witch

[Yarco]

 

This is actually a question that Jordan Peterson asks in his Future Authoring Program. Here's my answer I wrote there:

Overweight, diabetic. In physical pain standing or walking. Lots of drama. Smoking, drinking, drugs. Sickness. Lack of progress. No agency. Unhappy / depressed. Dirty shitty house. Being a bad father who takes out his frustration on children.
House in a bad neighbourhood and risk of getting broken into. Having to work a part-time job I hate with a long bus commute or office job. Relationship problems. Having an ugly wife cheating on me or alone living back with parents. Jail.

To contrast, here's my ideal future, which I think you should consider and spend at least 10-15 minutes journaling about as well. Although this was written about 5 years ago so some of my priorities have changed since then:

I want to be constantly relaxed and at peace. Deadlines and problems in the news won't stress me out. I can smile and be happy regardless of what's going on around me.

I'm in great shape and enjoy physical activity that helps maintain it. I've overcome addiction to sugary and fatty food and carbs and eat clean and enjoy it.

I make money easily and have a variety of writing clients, as well as passive income from writing fiction that I love like Creepypasta. I also stream on Twitch/Youtube and have a fancy studio with a top-of-the-line GPU/computer and greenscreen, mic on shock mounts and all the best gear. Whenever I go live, at least X people watch

X Twitch subscribers, 100k Youtube followers, thousands in book sales per month.

A nice house. Maybe not a cabin, but clean and tidy and feels like home with fresh air and smells nice. Feels secure and safe even at night.

I want to feel happy and relaxed and never have to worry about money. Create enough to make a living just from my passion and interests, stuff I would be doing anyway.

If I am looking after kids then I can probably only put in 20 hours per week into making an income, but I can scale up from 20 hours a week to 40 or even 60 if you include "hobby" projects like streaming/videos and writing.

A successful business person. In shape. Well dressed. Positive and charismatic. No stress about money. Happy home life. Internet marketer. Nice expensive clean house.

Edited March 6, 2022 by Yarco

[somegirl]

4 hours ago, Knowledge Hoarder said:

I'm scared of being as close minded and deluded as most of my family members are - that's the fate I'm trying to avoid first and foremost. Because with close mindedness, you are literaly closing/shutting the possibilities of life.

The fact that you're making effort to be open-minded tells me that you most likely won't end up in that situation. But of course, you have to be self-conscious enough to see your own biases, bad habits, arrogancy etc. 
 

4 hours ago, Knowledge Hoarder said:

Basically looking back at my life, and being dissapointed with myself, because I achieved nothing, didn't contribute anything meaningfull to the world.

What is the dealine you are giving yourself to achieve what you want?
 

4 hours ago, Knowledge Hoarder said:

Never being able to break my fears/insecurities/laziness/bad habits. Being just like any other schmuck, basically.

Good motivation
 

4 hours ago, Knowledge Hoarder said:

To be honest, I like to look forward to things I'd like to achieve, rather than being driven by being constantly scared of something. Positive motivation works better longterm, than negative one.

Yes, though it can also be helpful to imagine what would happen if you don't take action towards goals you want. Yes, it's negative motivation, but some people work better under pressure lol
 

[somegirl]

3 hours ago, Javfly33 said:

Feel i wasted my Life and NY youth and theres no coming back and i have 20 years more of intense suffering.

How would you waste your youth? What would you consider a wasted time?
 

[Javfly33]

Just now, somegirl said:

How would you waste your youth? What would you consider a wasted time?
 

Not socializing/having sex/healing my trauma/shame/not raising my vibrational energy/ending Up like a creepy loser spending racks on online twisted porn.

Yeah i think even ending Up using heroin would be even more Happy ending than that

[somegirl]

3 hours ago, Random witch said:

to be dependent on the wrong people.

Oof, this hit home, lol. 
I don't know if you meant it in this way, but I kinda fear merrying the wrong person and then having kids with someone very bad and then being tied down by them for the rest of my life.
I mean, yes, there are coparents and that works, but you have to be very careful who you're deciding to have children with. Or it can make your life a hell (I'm just now remembering some stories regarding this).
 

3 hours ago, Random witch said:

I'm afraid to lose a common ground with my family and loved ones because I do the work and they don't, it's already painful and it's a suffer for me to be a new person that they can't relate to anymore. I'm at a grief of the old me and the old relationship I had with my family and people in my life, it never be the same anymore, I'm afraid that it will be even harder in future.

Same. This is why I don't dive too deep into spirituality. I can do maybe some stuff, but I don't know if I want to go too deep. At least now I'm not ready. It can be dangerious. Maybe in the furture.
For now it's good that we focus on taking care of material stuff first.

[somegirl]

2 minutes ago, Javfly33 said:

Not socializing

Agree. I have two friends that do not go out often (almost never) and just spend time hiding in their house and avoid any social events, especially when there are new people there, and it kinda makes me sad that they've literally wasting their time away. It's like they have already turned 50.
 

2 minutes ago, Javfly33 said:

having sex

Also agree. But what you if you genuengly cannot find someone for that, even though you want to and are socializing?

I was also thinking about that and I'm slighly irritated that I'm unable to get attracted to just anyone, I'm very specific in that sense. I need to be very comfortable with a person and to find them physically appealing, which doesn't happen often. 

Do you have the same problem?

 

[somegirl]

2 hours ago, Yarco said:

Overweight, diabetic. In physical pain standing or walking. Lots of drama. Smoking, drinking, drugs. Sickness. Lack of progress. No agency. Unhappy / depressed. Dirty shitty house. Being a bad father who takes out his frustration on children.
House in a bad neighbourhood and risk of getting broken into. Having to work a part-time job I hate with a long bus commute or office job. Relationship problems. Having an ugly wife cheating on me or alone living back with parents. Jail.

Sounds pretty terrible. But since you're conscious what you don't want, based on this you can focus your energy on avoiding this at all costs and towards the path you want to be on.

[Random witch]

4 hours ago, somegirl said:

Oof, this hit home, lol. 
I don't know if you meant it in this way, but I kinda fear merrying the wrong person and then having kids with someone very bad and then being tied down by them for the rest of my life.
I mean, yes, there are coparents and that works, but you have to be very careful who you're deciding to have children with. Or it can make your life a hell (I'm just now remembering some stories regarding this).
 

I meant to anyone in life who might be not reliable, misleading, even canny including what you described. I can relate to your fear and unfortunately I also saw and heard some sad stories regarding this.

[Loba]

I've imagined the greatest fear, homelessness, and then went through it and had an awakening to Love.
Go through your fears and you will find Love on the other side! <3

As it is, I don't worry anymore for my future.  I will do my best to handle it.  I'll follow whatever God has planned for me.

[Javfly33]

8 hours ago, somegirl said:

 

Also agree. But what you if you genuengly cannot find someone for that, even though you want to and are socializing?

I was also thinking about that and I'm slighly irritated that I'm unable to get attracted to just anyone, I'm very specific in that sense. I need to be very comfortable with a person and to find them physically appealing, which doesn't happen often. 

Do you have the same problem?

 

8 hours ago, somegirl said:

 

I think its the opposite. I find lots of Girls attractive due probably to my neediness and attachment to her validation.

On the weekends i enter a loop of thoughts of anxiety-overwhelment in regards with going out so even though i know plenty of people to hang out with i Dont because i know Im not going to be comfortable.

It sucks but something Tells me always being suffering is no way to reach the goals neither. There must be a way i can feel good and at the same time socialize too.