I relapsed to porn

[Someone here]

So I was planning on doing nofap for the whole year of 2022. But I relapsed yesterday to porn .I didn't masturbate .just looked at some porn .it took me three hours. And I downloaded some of the videos to replace my old collection that I deleted  .it turns out that this stuff is not as easy as it sounds in the beginning of the year .I don't feel guilty or anything  .i actually enjoyed myself and it was overall a positive experience. Maybe porn Is not that bad after all. It kinda depends on how you use it and how you relate to it .addiction is a problem for sure .but I'm not sure if should classify myself as an addict or not .anyways just sharing with you guys and being honest about my journey. I'm continuing my nofap journey for the rest of the year .only porn is allowed. Masturbation is not allowed. At least that's the rules for now. And we'll see how it goes .

Edited March 5, 2022 by Someone here

[Someone here]

9 minutes ago, Medhansh said:

Delete the downloaded videos. You're kidding yourself if you think you can watch porn without fapping. 

Even if you go brute force against fapping, watching porn will make you get wet dreams or something. Just watching porn with enough arousal and involvement can lead you halfway to an orgasm.

I can't delete them. I can't do it . I'm so attached to it .I think I can control this thing and not let it spiral out of sight. No fap is still intact. Just watching a little porn here and there is no big deal, right ?

I have no problem with wet dreams .if they happen I don't consider it a relapse .

[Terell Kirby]

why are you doing this again? Hopefully you’re not suppressing natural urges with guilt and shame. 

[Javfly33]

Expected.

Dude, expecting to quit porn in this era with a normie current development it´s not realistic.

I suggest you to work on yourself, in all the areas related with porn, and automatically you will stop using porn.

 

[Someone here]

The funny and ironic thing is I don't feel bad about it. I actually enjoyed myself and I'm happy afterwards. 

I begin to think that fapping is the unhealthy part .i don't expect any damage from just watching  naked peeps fucking each other. 

[Someone here]

I have come to the conclusion that fapping is the worst part .not porn .I can watch porn every now and then without any problems. Only the fapping is what creates the problem. 

[Leo Gura]

You guys and this no fap stuff.

Sigh....

[StarStruck]

For me it is too hard to stop fully. I did it once a week. Then once every 2 weeks and soon I will dail it down to once per month and then once a year. Don’t shock your system. Just do it gradually. That is what worked for me. 

Also if you say I’m never going to watch porn again. It will be a hard hit on your inner animal. It won’t like it. But if you say I will do it once a month, it is easier to accept for your inner animal. 

[Juan]

11 hours ago, Someone here said:

But I relapsed yesterday to porn .I didn't masturbate .just looked at some porn .it took me three hours.

I don’t know how I could lie to myself for that long brother without having you know, a boner so, blue balls aren’t a happy place to be hehe. I’m not saying that you are lying to yourself perse but, if it happened to me, I know that is not gonna fly too long hehe.

11 hours ago, Someone here said:

I'm continuing my nofap journey for the rest of the year .only porn is allowed. Masturbation is not allowed. At least that's the rules for now. And we'll see how it goes .

This is like tease you with some food when you’re starving to death, but hey man is your life so, enjoy it and do your best.??
 

3 hours ago, Leo Gura said:

You guys and this no fap stuff.

Sigh....

Leo’s next Sunday video: A Rant Against the No Fap Community - Part 1 of 69, loljk.

I think you have to consider what is going on on the other side aside of your view. I was in a similar if not same place some time ago but like Leo sayed in the past it could be a lack of experience with connecting with women or/and men (for a long time I was feeling sexually frustrated and/or unsatisfied at times so I can later on in my life to discover that I am actually bisexual). Some people seems to be against fapping wich I can agree I find it weird and necessary to do and natural from us humans, but I can see also how porn itself can become like a hardcore  crutch addiction, there are multiple ways to tackle that issue. The question would be, how often do you do it? Daily? Once or twice a month?

My current view is that there is nothing good or bad about watching porn but what are the intentions, are you doing it because well, you’re horny and that’s it? Ok fine do whatever you gotta do or are you trying to runaway from something that you actually supposed to be doing? Or fear of emptiness? Is it affecting your life overall? How good or bad you can perform on your daily day basis with vs without porn. 

Edited March 5, 2022 by Juan

[Leo Gura]

1 hour ago, Juan said:

Leo’s next Sunday video: A Rant Against the No Fap Community - Part 1 of 69, loljk.

It would just be a 2hr video of me jerking off

[Hello from Russia]

10 minutes ago, Leo Gura said:

It would just be a 2hr video of me jerking off

[Juan]

12 minutes ago, Leo Gura said:

It would just be a 2hr video of me jerking off

You gotta go LIVE*.  Then unlisted or private. 

[Leo Gura]

[Someone here]

?

[Juan]

10 minutes ago, Leo Gura said:

This is NOT helping OP lol. Be brave brother!??

Edited March 5, 2022 by Juan

[Leo Gura]

21 minutes ago, Juan said:

This is NOT helping OP lol. Be brave brother!??

If that goose makes him horny, I'm sorry but he is beyond help.

[Javfly33]

3 hours ago, Knowledge Hoarder said:

?

People are spending way too much energy on this stuff. Guys, focus on DOING, not "not doing" something.

☝️???

[Juan]

1 hour ago, Leo Gura said:

If that goose makes him horny, I'm sorry but he is beyond help.

Not the goose Leo , but the act of the animation itself. Nvm really, he survived 3 hours of looking at porn lol, I couldn’t. 

[Lyubov]

The only personal problem I have with porn is my obvious double standard. I love porn, but would I date or marry a woman that did porn. Probably not. So I feel this inner contradiction. I’ll continue to watch though. I have other stuff to think about. 

[Yarco]

@Someone here You're lying to us and to yourself. This isn't your first relapse this year. You made a post saying that you looked at pictures of naked people on Feb 22. I'm not gonna let you use whatever fucked up justification you have for thinking that isn't porn. How many other times have you relapsed so far that didn't count?

Pictures of naked people are porn.

Tasteful, artistic nudes are still porn

Underage girls twerking on TikTok are porn

Bikini haul try-on videos on Youtube are porn

If you get so desperate that you're looking at medieval paintings of naked chicks, that's porn.

You don't have to be looking at a woman getting penetrated to fuck up your brain chemistry.

 

Watching porn and trying not to coom is like messing around with a loaded gun. Sooner or later you're gonna shoot yourself.

You can't just "watch porn". First you downgrade from nofap/noporn to just nofap. Next thing you know, you're moving the goalpost further. Maybe I can just rub the outside of my pants. Maybe I can just edge a little bit without cooming. Maybe I can try to get as close as possible to cooming but then stop and it'll still count.

IMO the only real benefit of doing nofap is to develop willpower and if you're already making excuses and lowering the difficulty then what's the point.

When you watch porn you're literally cucking yourself, because you're watching another man take a woman that you find desirable.

Every time you want to watch porn, ask yourself, do you want to be a cuck?

(For the record, it's only been 3 or 4 days since I last COOMED so who am I to listen to anyway? A hypocritical cuck, that's who. But I'm trying to do nofap/noporn [among other things] for Lent from March 2 - April 14 so we'll see how that goes. I'm gonna use your weakness as motivation when things get tough.)

Edited March 6, 2022 by Yarco