Loneliness

[itachi uchiha]

I am suffering extreme loneliness .some one  help me.someone give me a solution.witnessing against my emotion is going on but it will take months and years before i tame my loneliness.but i have a lot of suffering going on right now.i do not wanna date.i cannot go out and meet people as i will be working 13 hours.i tried everything.

Edited March 5, 2022 by itachi uchiha

[Preety_India]

Stop thinking that you're lonely. And it will go away. 

You are attached to this feeling/thought.

If socializing and video gaming (that was my go-to option when I felt lonely) doesn't cure your loneliness then it's not normal. It could be depression. 

Judging by the nature of your post, the problem seems to be deeper than loneliness. 

You're mentally attached to the idea of loneliness. Don't dwell on it. 

 

[itachi uchiha]

@Preety_India i am ambivert.not an introvert not an extrovert but in the middle.i do not wanna talk to people but i am getting withdrawal symptoms from not talking to people.i wanna read and practice something full time.but this withdrawal is a bitch and hanging in my throat

[Raptorsin7]

@itachi uchiha Find friends online to speak to. You can Skype, zoom etc.

Its not the same as in person, but it's a good alternative and theres less resistance

[itachi uchiha]

@Raptorsin7 yeah.

but do u know any self help community like that in discord or reddit. leo will not let this community go to discord becuase this forum will go extinct if he do that and he would lose $$$$

i found 1 community online  but there people are toxic. i went out of depression for 2 years now. toxicity /negetive state is like a disease . and if i interact with a toxic person for some period of time i will get toxic state installed into my mind and my depression will return. i do not wanna do that. i would rather stay  as loney than getting my depression back

[Raptorsin7]

4 hours ago, itachi uchiha said:

@Raptorsin7 yeah.

but do u know any self help community like that in discord or reddit. leo will not let this community go to discord becuase this forum will go extinct if he do that and he would lose $$$$

i found 1 community online  but there people are toxic. i went out of depression for 2 years now. toxicity /negetive state is like a disease . and if i interact with a toxic person for some period of time i will get toxic state installed into my mind and my depression will return. i do not wanna do that. i would rather stay  as loney than getting my depression back

What's the issue with your loneliness  if it's not causing depression?

I have talked with a few friends from this forum, I just pmed them or we had some other interaction from dm. I think Leo is okay with conversations outside the forum, as long as they aren't leading to formation of new communities outside the forum. But forming friendships isn't a big deal I don't think

Edited March 5, 2022 by Raptorsin7

[itachi uchiha]

@Raptorsin7 @Raptorsin7 

 

I want withdrawal symptoms , impulses to talking,etc to end.i am now using witnessing to reduce it .but it will take a lot of time.i broke my soul sucking crippiling cigerett addiction using witnessing meditation.using witnessing to cure talking to people impulses  take years to work

 

Do u know any other way to tame this impulse of talking to people .is there  a meditation or yogic technique on it

[Raptorsin7]

1 minute ago, itachi uchiha said:

@Raptorsin7 @Raptorsin7 

 

I want withdrawal symptoms , impulses to talking,etc to end.i am now using witnessing to reduce it .but it will take a lot of time.i broke my soul sucking crippiling cigerett addiction using witnessing meditation.using witnessing to cure talking to people impulses  take years to work

 

Do u know any other way to tame this impulse of talking to people .is there  a meditation or yogic technique on it

I have no idea how to tame that impulse. The witnessing can work if you just witness the raw sensation of the impulse and develop equanimity with the sensation, but idk how long it would take to reach that level of proficiency.

Why not just accept the impulse and form a friendship? I think it's healthy to have some human interaction, especially if you can develop some intimacy with another human being.

You can try doing PC clenches and bring into energy into your root chakra. Maybe if you feel more energized and grounded you will be less controlled by your compulsions.

 

[StarStruck]

Loneliness is the result (effect), not the cause.

If you want to solve this problem you will have to go to the cause.

But looking at your story, you need to get more productive with your team, so you will have more free time to do fun stuff to meet people.

This is not easy.

[itachi uchiha]

@Raptorsin7 @Raptorsin7 @Raptorsin7 

 

 

 

 I have 6 hours of free time. I have to spend 4 hours on islam ,1 hour on learning self help and 0.5 hour on exercise.so that leaves not time

 

[itachi uchiha]

@StarStruck arent u the one who recommended to me to do witnessing meditation.thanks for that

 

I have no time .out of 6 hours , i use 5.5 hours for different activities.do u know any other way which is more efficient than witnessing meditation

[Cathal]

@itachi uchiha loneliness!!!!!!!!! is!!!!!!! communicating to you, that, you haven't found your tribe/companions yet. in my experience anyways.

the question is, are you being authentic enough around people to allow yourself to be accepted as you are... to feel accepted as you are? that is the medicine to loneliness

but if you have no social interaction i mean, there has to be a change in your lifestyle. it's work man, it's work, it's really about putting the effort in even when you don't want to, trying to be genuinely curious about people and really allowing yourself to be, it is a deep scar for me. there is absolutely nothing you can to bypass this, as all forms of escape just return you back to the same point, it is an evolutionary need you will have to fulfill by finding people to fulfill it with! 

[itachi uchiha]

@catcat69123 so without interacting to people , i will not cure loneliness

[Cathal]

@itachi uchiha that's been my experience but i have heard stories, i think finding a sangha/spiritual group or just finding in general like minded people is the best solution that you can work on now. just trying to find them, putting the effort in to search and meetup and all that. i am sure with your intuition you will figure it out yourself

[Spiral]

Go out and talk to strangers. Just do it.

However if you are in a consciousness state you don’t have this problem either.

Edited March 6, 2022 by Spiral