If you want a gf

[Preety_India]

If you want a gf, the club is not the only place where you can find an interested girl. There are many places. 

For example I don't like to go to clubs because I'm just not the club type of person. There are so many guys who don't like clubbing and girls too. 

Especially if you're looking for a real girlfriend rather than just casual sex. 

A lot of guys are encouraged to go to clubs. 

Just dropping a suggestion, not starting a fight or anything. 

My suggestion is that you can find women in parks, grocery stores, cafeterias, coffee houses, yoga and dance classes, fitness clubs,libraries, house parties, ice rink, hiking, restaurants and basketball matches etc. 

I mean you get the idea. 

Another suggestion is to widen your social network and social circle. 

I met my my last boyfriend at a grocery store. 

Was just dropping a suggestion, nothing more. 

Have a nice day! 

 

Edited March 2, 2022 by Preety_India

[Preety_India]

Just now, Knowledge Hoarder said:

You can meet potential gf anywhere - even in the club - that's not the issue. The question is, are you able to attract her?

I was just pointing out that sometimes a lot of people aren't interested in going to clubs. Clubs can be loud. 

Some people don't feel very nice in a club environment. 

Especially introverted people like me. 

 

[patricknotstar]

6 minutes ago, Preety_India said:

If you want a gf, the club is not the only place where you can find an interested girl. There are many places. 

For example I don't like to go to clubs because I'm just not the club type of person. There are so many guys who don't like clubbing and girls too. 

Especially if you're looking for a real girlfriend rather than just casual sex. 

A lot of guys are encouraged to go to clubs. 

Just dropping a suggestion, not starting a fight or anything. 

My suggestion is that you can find women in parks, grocery stores, cafeterias, coffee houses, yoga and dance classes, fitness clubs,libraries, house parties, ice rink, hiking, restaurants and basketball matches etc. 

I mean you get the idea. 

Another suggestion is to widen your social network and social circle. 

I met my my last boyfriend at a grocery store. 

Was just dropping a suggestion, nothing more. 

Have a nice day! 

 

bars are a nice middle ground because people come there intending to socialize more so  than a grocery store but yeah there's potential anywhere

[Spence94]

@Preety_India Seems obvious but a healthy reminder. I don't think I'll ever set foot in a nightclub again for the rest of my life. The occasional times I do find myself at a bar is either catching up with friends or on a date. In both those situations I'm not meeting women for the very first time( unless a friend of a friend turns up), just chilling with the people I already know/ met. 

 

Edited March 2, 2022 by Spence94

[integral]

I consider women that go to clubs and bars regularly not compatible with me for long-term dating. So these places are the last places I would ever look to meet someone.

[Danioover9000]

@Preety_India

On 3/2/2022 at 7:35 AM, Preety_India said:

If you want a gf, the club is not the only place where you can find an interested girl. There are many places. 

For example I don't like to go to clubs because I'm just not the club type of person. There are so many guys who don't like clubbing and girls too. 

Especially if you're looking for a real girlfriend rather than just casual sex. 

A lot of guys are encouraged to go to clubs. 

Just dropping a suggestion, not starting a fight or anything. 

My suggestion is that you can find women in parks, grocery stores, cafeterias, coffee houses, yoga and dance classes, fitness clubs,libraries, house parties, ice rink, hiking, restaurants and basketball matches etc. 

I mean you get the idea. 

Another suggestion is to widen your social network and social circle. 

I met my my last boyfriend at a grocery store. 

Was just dropping a suggestion, nothing more. 

Have a nice day! 

 

   Great suggestion. Takes the pressure off of dating a bit, Clubs are not the only places on earth to find romance.

[something_else]

There are a few good reasons that clubs are suggested for dudes:

• Abundance. There are tons and tons of girls who want to meet new people there. More than you'll find pretty much anywhere else
• You get a lot of room for mistakes. It's the kind of place where you can make social mistakes and face very little consequences, compared to say being awkward in a gym, shopping centre, or even a bar, where you can be thrown out for basic social errors. Or even face criminal charges, although that's very unlikely
• Most guys should aim to have a fair few casual encounters before they start looking for a LTR
• It pushes your comfort zone like crazy
• Anonymity. It's so busy that you can blend into the crowd if you want, there are no eyes on you
• The type of girls who go to clubs are not really a unique type of girl. The girls in clubs are pretty much just normal girls. Any guy who says "Oh, I don't like the girls who you'd find in a club" is most likely trying to justify their fear of entering the club environment

You don't need to go to clubs as a guy, but they're fucking brilliant for meeting girls and you would be kind of silly to exclude them. Especially if you exclude them based on fear instead of an actual dislike of that environment

I would say that as a guy if you can't go into a club environment and feel relatively secure and confident then it would be a good exercise to develop yourself until you can. Not even from a meeting girls POV, just for confidence and self esteem reasons

 

[Tudo]

4 hours ago, something_else said:

 

You don't need to go to clubs as a guy, but they're fucking brilliant for meeting girls and you would be kind of silly to exclude them. 

 

I second this.

[Javfly33]

Thanks @Preety_India Even though most people in this topic are only saying negative things LoL. You right its not neccesary to go to clubs and do 3000 fucking approaches to Land a girlfriend lol

[Preety_India]

Just now, Javfly33 said:

Thanks @Preety_India Even though most people in this topic are only saying negative things LoL. You right its not neccesary to go to clubs and do 3000 fucking approaches to Land a girlfriend lol

Yup that was my whole point. Thanks for appreciating my view. At least someone gets it. 

 

[Danioover9000]

I definitely agree on the loud noise bit. It throws me off too much to socialize with other people.

[Preety_India]

5 minutes ago, Danioover9000 said:

I definitely agree on the loud noise bit. It throws me off too much to socialize with other people.

Me too. The loud noise can give me headaches for hours. It's not good for heart rate. 

[flowboy]

18 hours ago, Preety_India said:

Yup that was my whole point. Thanks for appreciating my view. At least someone gets it. 

 

Hey, I'm with you as well!

No need to make such a big project out of approaching girls, unless you want to.

I personally like to go with things as they naturally occur.

I feel like I want to meet someone. I walk outside. I see her, recognize her from something.

I feel a bit of fear. I go up to her and stutter a bit. She gives me her number.

We date for 6 months.

No clubs were hit, no pickup forums were browsed, no scorecards were harmed in the making of this adventure.

It's very low-key and casual.

Of course I was excited about it.

But meeting people is a natural process.

When you feel the impulse, all you need to do is not suppress it.

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[Lyubov]

21 hours ago, flowboy said:

But meeting people is a natural process.

When you feel the impulse, all you need to do is not suppress it.

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I like this a lot, how you put it here! 

I’ve never been the type to grind approaches. I just relax in my environment and it just sorta naturally occurs if I follow the flow of what’s going on. Been able to get my needs met fine this way. 

Edited March 16, 2022 by Lyubov