Therapy for social anxiety

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I’ve had social anxiety ever since school

I’m not totally incapable socially, but I almost never feel at ease in social situations and in many of them I get downright overwhelmed

I was wondering if anyone had experience/advice with therapy for treating, I would say, moderate social anxiety?

I reached out to what appears to be the main therapy group in my city to see what they say, but it’s gonna be around £100 (~$130) a session so it’s certainly not cheap

I’m doing my own stuff to try and be more sociable as well, going out, hobbies etc. but even then there’s always an undertone of anxiety and uneasiness that I want to eliminate and I figured maybe therapy could help

Thanks for any advice!

[JonasVE12]

It can provide a support structure and some containment. If you are deep into apathy, it can be good to get therapy. It will help you gain some momentum. And if you get therapy, It is also wise to seek out the right groups that embody values that are helpful for growth, not regular talking groups that have low standards for proactive work or even victim groups. You want highly motivated and insightful groups that actually move you forward. No nice coffee and thee groups that talk and talk and talk. This can even make you identify with those thoughts, emotions, vibrations more. In the better groups, it can release tension and bring more acceptance by opening up. So definitely be selective. Also the act of going to a social group in itself will release tension in social anxious people so there is always some benefit. 

Though, none of that is really needed and it can be a distraction. Actually, therapy is totally insignificant to when you really decide to take responsibility and when you become proactive, each day.

Healing your anxiety issues is really straight forward. You need to rewire your nervous system consciously to react differently to the tension/resistance it feels when talking to people, by proactively, each day, talking to people on the street. The reason that the anxiety and fear persists is because you never made it a life goal and purpose to get rid of it. Your decision is not strong enough to set you free. 

If you would however, each day, approach 5 people with the intention of getting to know them, you would heal all of it after some time. 

It is not some random approaching that heals you, it is the deep understanding and insight into the mechanisms of feeling, releasing emotions and emotional embodiment what does it. Approaching people needs to be integrated into a holistic integrative embodiment practice where you deeply understand the relationship between you, your internal energy and how external reality mirrors your internal energy. You learn by going out approaching, to change your internal feelings in response to the tension and resistance. And eventually after time, you simply grow. You rewire your nervous system and balance your internal feelings. You become more like a grounded tree. Most people with social anxiety dont get to this stage of growth because they are reactive to their feelings. They fear what they feel, so they dont confront it directly. Therapy can be a trap in this sense because it is also indirect and partially avoidance. The path to healing is the direct path and it is the path of surrender. Surrender to what you are feeling and surrendering to what you want to feel and directly going for that. 

Do you think that after you have approached 1 000 000 people, you will have any anxiety left in your system? You would stop caring, you would become masterful and free. Along the way, you would start experiencing more joy and freedom than you ever experienced and your creativity and inspiration in all parts of your life mirror this expansive feeling of freedom. 

The only thing that is between you and that freedom, is you. 

Do you really need therapy? Would you waste years with therapy, while approaching 5 people each day, applying the right growth and embodiment principles can set you free forever? The difference between having approached 1 000 000 people and approaching 5 people a day for a year is very very small. it does not take long. You can be there in a year. It is all about consistent action and building on yourself 1% each day. No days skipped. 

Socially anxious people need to make a decision, and stop being reactive. Therapy is redundant. Liberation is around the corner. 

Make it your life goal, your mission, to step in resistance, to step into what you fear. And do this consistently each day. This is what grows you and makes all of it work. Don't try to get rid of social anxiety. Just do it and decide that you will take action.

Edited February 26, 2022 by JonasVE12

[Javfly33]

2 hours ago, JonasVE12 said:

Do you think that after you have approached 1 000 000 people, you will have any anxiety left in your system? 

The issue is, most guys won't think it's possible precisely because the thoughts they experience about themselves 

[JonasVE12]

37 minutes ago, Javfly33 said:

The issue is, most guys won't think it's possible precisely because the thoughts they experience about themselves 

Limitation exists in order to be transcended by evolving your consciousness. Those who are ready will change. All thoughts, feelings and experience are temporary. You either tap into the mechanisms of change and free will, or you stay behind. Unfortunately a lot of guys stay behind and will never expand. For those guys that are stuck, but full of hope and desire, it can help to seek out people who will help heal them by being in their presence. Just like a meteorite impact can create powerful change in the composition of physical reality, the presence of someone who evolved their consciousness and aligned themself to the truth they wish to embody, can help them to increase their own consciousness and gain their own strength and intuition.

There is always a potential. You just have to find a way to connect to it. Either by yourself or with the help of other people.