Addicted to porn

[K Ghoul]

1 minute ago, Something Funny said:

@K Ghoul  I didn't mean any precise term. 
 

 

And I didn’t mean anything more than what has been written. 
 

I wish we could continue with this word game but I don’t want this thread to get locked. So you gotta have to figure out the rest on your own

 

[K Ghoul]

@Something Funny good night

[MarkusR]

@Etherial Cat Mic drop ?. Im for sure on your side.

I'll say it again, the more effort I put into turning her on, satisfying her needs. The more submissive she becomes and willing to do pretty much anything; and therefore the sex becomes amazing.

If I treat the sex like a porn, which most of the time is just the guy doing nothing and the girl just automatically starts sucking his dick, it never works out as well.

You really cant expect her to do a lot without you taking the lead. Your the one doing the fucking, its simply the sexual dynamic between men and women.

Edited February 16, 2022 by MarkusR

[Federico del pueblo]

On 14.2.2022 at 7:51 PM, Gabith said:

Do you have good reasons or scientific reasons to stop watching porn & advice to break this addiction ?

Yes.

If you watch too much porn you'll become impotent with women.

You also might after some time experience heightened levels of social anxiety. 

Maybe your brain will start functioning less optimally, due to the extreme and repeated dopamine surges (if you have hard-core, marathon sessions).

 

Solutions:

Find a buddy, maybe here on the forum or somewhere else, and every time you relapse you have to pay 10$ to his PayPal, or maybe you have to donate 10$ to the political party you hate the most

 

Install porn blockers.

Make it very hard to access porn.

Have real sex.

Masturbate without porn (maybe you'll want a flashlight, see other thread).

Do other productive things, like meditation, working out, reading, engaging with your life purpose.

 

[mmKay]

16 hours ago, Leo Gura said:

I've had sex with a 10 where I didn't even cum cause she was fucking lazy and selfish.

did you communicate any of this to her?

[Matthew85]

22 hours ago, Leo Gura said:

When you reach God consciousness you will be able to orgasm just from watching two people have sex as if you were both of them, because you actually are.

@Leo Gura I feel our current models of relationships will change a lot as consciousness evolves. Polyamory is one example of this. 

[puporing]

18 minutes ago, Matthew85 said:

@Leo Gura I feel our current models of relationships will change a lot as consciousness evolves. Polyamory is one example of this. 

Yup.. I believe so too. Poly is likely the future when a significant enough number of people awaken. 

[Matthew85]

3 minutes ago, puporing said:

Yup.. I believe so too. Poly is likely the future when a significant enough number of people awaken. 

@puporing Yes. As our consciousness expands, the fear, jealousy and control that is still so much a part of relationships falls away.  

[K Ghoul]

40 minutes ago, puporing said:

Yup.. I believe so too. Poly is likely the future when a significant enough number of people awaken. 

I hope I don’t live long enough to see it.

[PurpleTree]

5 minutes ago, K Ghoul said:

I hope I don’t live long enough to see it.

really? i think that sounds pretty cool

although what about stds

[puporing]

LoL, it's also not the "destination". Being free to explore consciously will accelerate one's "burning of karma", shadow sides drop away faster when it is allowed to be seen and integrated fully. The abundance of love will make one feel more whole/complete and able to pursue self actualization instead of chasing something to fill this sense of lack. Hence the next future I predict will be towards more peacefulness and equanimity.

[K Ghoul]

54 minutes ago, PurpleTree said:

really? i think that sounds pretty cool

although what about stds

 

I guess by that point they will transcend to such levels of unconditional love that they will love their stdts too. Unconditionally.

 

Would be cool to become hermaphrodite, though 

[PurpleTree]

1 hour ago, K Ghoul said:

I guess by that point they will transcend to such levels of unconditional love that they will love their stdts too. Unconditionally.

"aaaahhhh i love the way it burns when i pee, this is true bliss "

1 hour ago, K Ghoul said:

Would be cool to become hermaphrodite, though 

why?

LoL, it's also not the "destination". Being free to explore consciously will accelerate one's "burning of karma", shadow sides drop away faster when it is allowed to be seen and integrated fully. The abundance of love will make one feel more whole/complete and able to pursue self actualization instead of chasing something to fill this sense of lack. Hence the next future I predict will be towards more peacefulness and equanimity.

you're selling it well, i'm in  

Edited February 16, 2022 by PurpleTree

[puporing]

??

[K Ghoul]

5 hours ago, PurpleTree said:

"you're selling it well, i'm in  

count me in as well I changed my mind 

 

 

 

[puporing]

@K Ghoul LoL nice. I just wouldn't want to live all together like that especially since everyone should be able to date outside if they wished to, and this makes it seem more like a harem ?. But Yeh people can have their own arrangements I guess whatever works for them.

Edited February 17, 2022 by puporing

[puporing]

That's the price of polyamory/open relationships, you have to be fairly independent already to want to engage in this and accept aloneness above all relationships. Because it guarantees nothing. Not that monogamy does either though just that it's more of an 'agreed contract' for some time.

[Raptorsin7]

@puporing Do you think people will main partners, or will everyone just be independent and constantly be changing partners?

And what about children? How would child rearing work?

[Roy]

10 minutes ago, Raptorsin7 said:

And what about children? How would child rearing work?

It wouldn't lmao. That's why our biological and cultural evolution has developed us to have an internal bias against polyamory. That's not an accident. I'm not making a moral judgement on if it's right or wrong here by the way, just a statement.

I'm sure it's quite possible for some unusual proto-communal society to exist where women are get indiscriminately impregnated and the children are getting raised in some sort of tribal fashion by everyone in the local group contributing to raising them in some way. Either taking turns or having different specific roles. Even as a thought experiment it's hard to imagine though since all that change sounds incredibly destabilizing for a child, when stability is the most important factor in developing in a healthy way from what I understand.

Personally I think the current rise of extreme exploration and liberalization of sex, through polyamory, transitioning, etc. has a lot of similarities to the "gluttony" phase at the end of the Roman Empire. We live in such a hedonistic, free, and decadent time that it's not a coincidence all these things are happening now, and not 100 years ago. I'm not against any of it it by the way. Maybe history won't repeat itself it's hard to say, but if birth rates inevitably plummet and we are doomed to the collapse of civilization all over again just like the Romans, I'm ALL for everyone having a good time and us fucking in each in every which way until the end 

[puporing]

@Raptorsin7 There's prob going to be a whole spectrum of arrangements. People will still go through periods of monogamy despite poly being an option. People who choose poly arrangements for a time can still be open to monogamy and so on, and stuff in between. It's a lot of complexity and I think requires more maturity for all involved. 

Personally wouldn't want a 'main partner' situation if I'm entering in a poly setup as it makes anyone else seem lesser. In this case, everyone should strive to be independent, but some dependence seems healthy too. Even in our current system, some people often remain as friends after breakups/divorces. A 'main partner' set-up is also fine if well communicated to others so they know what to expect. All in all it requires better communication skills the more complex it gets.

In regards to child-rearing, I think it would be spread out to the partners if they got along/want to be part of it, their family members, and the community they're in. How well childcare is funded also plays a role. Personally feel like this is a healthy thing for the child to be exposed to more parental-like figures than just their biological parents. And this creates a sense of 'children are not properties' of the parents. Or one can simply choose not to have children when engaged in a poly setup.

All of this demands greater consciousness of all individuals involved because it is more emotional labor to grow into this reality. Where I feel most people are at now simply don't want to deal with this complexity.

Edited February 17, 2022 by puporing