I had to let her go, now how can I "recharge" myself?

[Sanyikas]

Hey guys, hope you are doing well. 

I'm 23 and I had to broke up with my girlfriend, she was 31. 

We have been together for only 2 months, and it all started as just having sex,but it got more serious quickly, we were colleagues, but things escalated really fast and we were living basically together at my place, then she had to change her job and she had to move. That's where things started to go wrong, because I didn't wanted to move and quit my job, so quick. 

I really enjoyed her being emotionally mature and the way she had this ability to see through some bullshit I was doing. We had nice conversations, amazing connection and sex.

It helped me realize things about myself, mainly how selfish I can be and in some cases even narcissistic. However, when I met her I was feeling good about myself and I was about to get really focused on my life purpose, but when I started to spend more time with her it slowly turned into constant stress and worry. I started to doubt myself and my confidence started to get lost.

Everything started to be about the relationship and how to make it work.  Which I had to admit is never going to work because I was not feeling like going after her, and I'm not at the stage of starting a family, which she really wants in the next couple of years. And all this just brought incompatibility issues, because we can't be on the same page in terms of our future, so I had to let her go. Which was not easy.

Now I'm feeling extremely tired and exhausted all the time. It's like I'm sleepwalking through life. I don't find joy socializing at the moment, or being around other people at all. 

Do you guys have any advice how I could push through this? I feel like all of it was a catalyst for me to get more serious about my life, but I can't seem to find the power to start it. I just had no one to share my feelings in my surroundings. So I appreciate it. ❤️

 

[Gianna]

I don’t think you need to push through it. I think you simply need to allow it, watch it with your awareness, and release it when it naturally decides to release. It may seem frightening that you feel so tired and exhausted and a lack of motivation, like you will never get out of it. But these are your mind and body’s natural response following a relationship that took so much energy out of you. You are simply in the process of re-acclimating to yourself, of becoming centered again, of trying to realign your energy. Don’t give you body the message that this process is wrong. Allow it. Let your body do what it needs. It has amazing intelligence, it just needs your support and validation. Don’t worry about getting/being stuck. God/Consciousness’s priority of expansion will not allow it. All forces of the universe/awareness are for you right now. The path/trajectory you are on right now is the one with the most expansion. You learned a ton and thus have grown a ton from this relationship— as you were meant to. Allow yourself to rest. ?

[Roy]

Time heals all. You made the right choice, it just doesn't fully feel like it right now because there is still heartbreak. It will fade though. All you have to do right now is focus on what you have to do in the immediate future and put yourself in that.