What is the best way to let go of limiting/toxic beliefs you adopted as a child?

[PurpleTree]

Like some people for example adopted the victim mindset as kids, that people will help them if they're helpless etc. then they can't shake that belief when they're older.

For example i did romatisise suffering as a young kid. I thought suffering is kind of noble or in some ways cool. I thought there was something "deep" about a depressed kid. Sometimes as a kid i thought if i got sick and then died a tragic death that would be cool or special or whatever. Because then the people who annoyed me or worse, or didn't appreciate me or whatever would then regret it and maybe even be sad at the funeral. Just mostly childish thinking. Or someone told me about the Maculay Culkin movie where he's in a wheelchair and this girl loves him and everybody's sad, and then he gets stung by bees and dies and everybody is devastated. I thought that was such a cool (for the lack of a better term) way to go out. I'm not sure if i adopted those beliefs but sometimes i wonder if in my subconscious or whatever still romaticise my suffering somehow, and think it's a good way to get back at people.

[Ulax]

I believe IFS therapy

[Nahm]

Manipulation is discordant. 

That’s how one knows one is employing it. 

By how you feel. 

Judging thoughts (beliefs) is more of the same. 

[Cathal]

man i just made a video on that today https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=mjqD40aHohs&ab_channel=cathal

and have been really trying to understand it. basically you need to create integrity and apply what you know by putting your foot down and saying, no, not today, i'm not doing that, that's bad for me 

you don't vanish belief systems by doing one major thing but it's applying consistent effort to do the thing that is good for you  that you built trust and confidence that your inner child can rely on your decisions instead of relying on the same stupid shit it did 20 years ago. -

you are driven by a dysfunctional emotional core but you do have the power to reshape that

integrity and consistent work 

Edited February 12, 2022 by catcat69123

[Raze]

Try internal family systems therapy

 

or try the Sedona method, Byron Katie work, or letting go by David r hawkins

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=2CidDVoHdmQ

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=60xN2BHPVkw

 

[PurpleTree]

thanks @ guys

On 12.2.2022 at 7:23 PM, catcat69123 said:

man i just made a video on that today https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=mjqD40aHohs&ab_channel=cathal

and have been really trying to understand it. basically you need to create integrity and apply what you know by putting your foot down and saying, no, not today, i'm not doing that, that's bad for me 

you don't vanish belief systems by doing one major thing but it's applying consistent effort to do the thing that is good for you  that you built trust and confidence that your inner child can rely on your decisions instead of relying on the same stupid shit it did 20 years ago. -

you are driven by a dysfunctional emotional core but you do have the power to reshape that

integrity and consistent work 

nice video btw. thanks dude