Social Circle Game - Things are moving way to fast

[ValiantSalvatore]

I don't really seem to understand social circle game. I am consistently bored I meet beautiful women sure a lot mostly briefly, yet my friends know so many people I have no idea what is going on. I like deeper connections usually, which makes it quiet difficult to be seen as social. They greeted approximately 10-20 people when I greet one guy one, yet I geniuently like him so this means way way more to me.

Every venue change we at least hit up a bunch of girls and they talk effortlessly while I just watch. They know each other and I just look at them. Some of them I am not attracted and I ask myself what is the point or the use of talking then. I know sure to be social, yet somehow I don't talk and people ask me what is wrong me head is so full of sensory information and I usually meditate and calm down and try to vibe and it works, yet then I have to talk again. 1v1 I am very good. I'll list social situations that occured this night to make this whole situation plausible. 

I did not drink till the third venue change. Or social setting 3 and I only drank two beer (0.2 liter each) 

Social Setting 1:

We meet I just shake hands I did not wear anything fancy, nobody said anything. We sit down I greet, I feel weird as usually people feel very happy meeting me when I see them or have some level of enthusiasm. I don't know them, yet that well so I take things slowly. 5 people 3 guys, 2 girls. One guy is my friends sister she is hot and has a sexy slim body I did not know that it was his sister. I recognized her from the day I touched the girls boobs when we made out and heavily escalted inside the club. I had good vibe feelings from her as she seemed to be an uplifting person. The other one I immediately felt like this women something is fking incorrect. We get to that later. We leave from the bar. I talked a bit to the waiter she was also quiet hot, she touched me also immediately and moved her body close to me.

Social Setting 2:

We go out I briefly talk to one guy friend then they meet two girls ask bla bla bla how are you doing, where you going. With more small talk I already filtered from my memory. They check each other out we move consider where to go. I have no idea who is associated with whom still I did not know if they meet the girl who gave me incorrect vibes or not. My friend was talking to her in the bar and I thought they were at least moving things forward. Anyway we are at the second bar they greet again 2-3 people each. My friends sister also. I am bored and did not drink I thought about holding conversation, as at least my friends hot sister seemed interesting. First I was a bit unsure. As she is older, yet you can't really tell hot sexy slim body, beautiful face, blonde colored hair and green eyes with arabic vibe and super fking slim body I mean like wtf. Thick lips top notch clothed gucci bag I know they have money. I did not want to bore her and silence seemed to not bore her lmao. She is also super feminine and seems none-toxic just social and can get bored also. We talk a bit we riff a bit on the shitty music and made some hitler jokes as none of us are fully German and we went to the most visited German type bar in the city. Anyway we sit we talk sing a bit I loosen up a bit sing with them NANANANA some stupid stuff. I notice I become first now attracted to his sister she just told me her name at one point because I was so silent. We talk I did not want to ask the typical questions, yet nothing very interesting came up and sometimes things move so fast in the moment I ask some stuff something else happens and then I forget. Anyway we just chill and move. 

Social Setting 3:

We are outside the super German bar some random old dude came up and was hitting on the second girl my friends sisters friend. They talk, my friend was like let's go we go to venue 3, we are infront of venue 3. Two cute girls come up they talk with my friend. Where are you going I noticed one girl noticed that he wanted to get laid he was absolutely non-needy. Well where are you going the club you want to go to is closed. He said. I did not want to say anything as I noticed this and I know the club was closed. One girl turned around they talk a bit she pulls her a bit back then she was like yeah we are going back inside let's meet upstairs. What happens? 

We are inside after 30 minutes of waiting, my friend knows the bouncers. I am relaxed and quiet curious as I did not drink yet and had no intention to. I drank juices and water. I do feel very tired. They talk with the bouncers shake hands more people shake hands with the bouncers. I am thinking when is this shit show over. We get inside the one bouncer gives me I hate you vibes for no reason and just acts like he is above me. Fine whatever. We go inside I wait. They sat at a table I was moving to fast as I did see my friends sister go to the toilett and I thought we are going upstairs subconsciously. So I chill a bit. Searched for them found them at a table. My friend is gone no idea what is happening I am at the table alone at one point with two hot girls bored as fk. As I can't really escalate without knowing how people are related as people move back and forth from groups and stay in their main group. Old dude comes back I talked briefly with my friends sister she tells me she is to old for this tells me she wakes up at 06:30 used my name once or twice without even me telling her my name. I was unsure I really would have just made out with her still it's my friends freaking sister she is the older sister and I barely know them 3 times we meet. I had strong family vibes being in a combination with them 3 which was nice and they included me. Anyway she leaves as she intuited smth. about the other girl I thought something is going to happen. SOOOO Old dude comes back. They talk and I was the whole time this is just to weird. Age gap was like approx max 10-20 years +-5 to the range. No idea scarfy bitch face. 

Anyway they talk shit escaltes they sit both right infront of me at the table he starts becoming somewhat physical I was suprised a bit first then he moved into her face a lot she pushed him back I thought about stepping in again. I looked at my other friend who was there we are both taller then this guy by a lot. The girl starts spitting at him he spat at her. Making reference you are making out with the other friend of mine who was there at the table. Turns out they were engaged the old dude and the younger girl. I had to laugh the whole time I could not resist. I looked for other girls, yet I had no idea where how or what to approach. When things are moving so fast girls moving by etc. 

Girl who is engaged leaves after my friends sister left. 

Social Setting 4:

MY FRIEND GOES UP WHO HAS THE HOT SISTER THE CLUB UPSTAIRS IS OPEN FOR ONLY 10 MINUTES. 10 MINUTES HE PULLS TWO GIRLS AND ONE GUY AND MEETS OTHER GIRLS OUTSIDE. I had to wait as they only gave him two chips. Said fine 10 minutes smth is going to happen. We go outside after the pull. He said come with me to the toilett I was fine. We go. We go up. Group 2 leaves with other girls, group 1 he pulled comes with us for food. They eat they keep talking to the girl who had an interest to flake from group 1 (2 girls, 1 guy). To sooth the situation I said nothing 99% of the time I say anything shit turns silent. No matter what happens presentations etc. I am very bad at perceiving external perception. After 30-40 minutes of eating and waiting and meeting more new people. We leave they pull the two girls with the guy, the guy was like a super nice guy silent I mean I talk like don't get me wrong, small and skinny. I was not attracted to both of the girls they pulled as I dislike these kind of girls by personality. Even if I don't know them I did not get the best vibes. One of them the one who wanted to flake seemed okay. They went to my friends place. 

I was just annoyed be the whole ordeal and left even though they pulled again. I mean I don't know why I left I was unsatisfied that I did not approach and how many people they know. They all knew each other and I feel left out and including myself I often friendzone myself as I am to nice.

What can I do when girls move by? Or what do I do in a social circle setting? Often times by the "law of transference" I am quiet angry with how I was treated racistly growing up in Germany even with a good amount of shadow work and my pain body feels this. I know it's my own posion, yet I still feel this at the moment and it's very often transferred. I was unable to get into a good mood besides at social setting two where I connected a bit to my friend and my friends sister.

It was not easy to find a situation to approach as I did not get into the club upstairs where not so many people pass by as well as social circle shit confuses the shit out of me. I could have joined them for the pull and see what happens. Yet, I had enough. I thought I observed enough. 

My question is how to get to know people when shit moves so fast? Girls walking by hey Maria! What's up Dennis? Hey Isabella? Hey XYZ etc. etc. etc. Meeting like 10-20 people on the street mostly or in a pub/club. Then I see they know more people and I witness the entire network communicating out of their desires, impulses etc. 

I can't get out of my head I breath into my body and relax then I have confident body language, yet my head is empty and I can't come up with shit to say. Basically I did 0 approaches the only place where I could have approached was at the toilett in the pub when changing venues. The club of the pub had so many hotties coming down man. I just did not know or felt a good approach I did not think of the 3 second rule either at the moment. As everyone left I could have tried direct approaches. 

Also I have no idea how my friend pulls he just talks with women effortlessly not even sexually or gamey and they pull every fking time I went out with them till now. No fancy shit anything you'd see with RSD and the girls a look quiet well. 

Even when I see it I don't get it when I watch RSD I am like AH I see why. Yet when I see this vanilla shit I see here I am like in my head no no this does not work it's incorrect. 

How to do approaches out of a social setting when my friends know so many people? I often feel petrified when they know each other I prefer anonymity as it feels easier to approach.

Anyway this is very long-winded post. I appreciate honest and well-thought of feedback there is so much nuance to this, yet I can't seem to get ouf of my head or free flow/associate. 

Edited February 12, 2022 by ValiantSalvatore

[ValiantSalvatore]

Anyway they all knew each other even the girls they pulled. Unsure if this is interesting. Guess this just happens and next time I approach at the end when people mingle to get their jacket. I saw two women alone. I approach. 

I usually take it slow when meeting new people as this seems to be okay and I can just get to know people and it's a principle from how to make friends and influence people I know it's an old book it seems to work a bit. Yet we barely talked as everything was crowded and people just moved the whole time. 

As everyone wanted to get into the club of the bar as this is the only thing that is open as clubs are closed. 

Unsure again feedback is appreciated my friend told me it's fine nothing really happens as there is not much going on currently.

Edited February 12, 2022 by ValiantSalvatore