What's with older guys (10+ yrs older) approaching much younger women?

[somegirl]

17 minutes ago, Federico del pueblo said:

Your threads always explode like atomic bombs ?

Right? ?

[Federico del pueblo]

2 minutes ago, somegirl said:

Right? ?

 Yes.

The reason for this would be rather uncomfortable for you to know though!

In reality all the other profiles are dudes who are 20+ years older than you, thinking "if I write a good reply to somegirl, maybe I'll have a chance with her, muhahahaha".

So you must stay careful ?

[somegirl]

5 minutes ago, Federico del pueblo said:

The reason for this would be rather uncomfortable for you to know though!

In reality all the other profiles are dudes who are 20+ years older than you, thinking "if I write a good reply to somegirl, maybe I'll have a chance with her, muhahahaha".

Omg you're right. Then I'm offended! ?

Edited February 12, 2022 by somegirl

[mandyjw]

6 hours ago, somegirl said:

That doesn't make much sense. Can you elaborate? 

We just want to appreciate, and be appreciated. 

[somegirl]

@Preety_India I think you have made your point by the second paragraph. Glad you're owning up to your own dating life as well. Happy for you. 

[something_else]

Just now, Medhansh said:

@somegirl Can you answer my question?

Or any other girl on this thread?

it’s kind of a silly question, it’s a bit like asking if girls want to be approached by guys with beards

the factor that determines whether a girl wants to talk to you is not really your age, there are more important things and it varies per girl

unless there’s like a huge age gap, then maybe it will play into it a bit more

but I’ve had some good experiences with older women than me so of course some older woman will be into it

[K Ghoul]

6 minutes ago, Medhansh said:

Thank God there are still some sensible answers in this thread. 

I thought my answers were pretty good. I even quoted Charles Manson 

 

4 minutes ago, Medhansh said:

@somegirl Can you answer my question?

Or any other girl in this thread?

“do you like being approached by younger men?” - no, I like approaching them myself 

[Preety_India]

2 minutes ago, K Ghoul said:

I thought my answers were pretty good. I even quoted Charles Manson 

 

 

Girl you win! 

 

[somegirl]

10 hours ago, Medhansh said:

Do you girls like being approached by younger men?

I didn't get approached by younger men so far. Or at least they didn't let me know they like me, even if they do.
Though I wasn't talking about girl being older than a guy. I was talking about guys who are SAME age as girl, who do not approach said girl.. I mean... They are the same age, it's not like they are so much out of their league to be scared to approach. 
 

[somegirl]

I actually do not want to have negative  beliefs about this topic. And I mostly have positive experiences (I don't hold extreme negative beliefs at all) and wonderful male friends. But I just don't get intentions of much older guys... Why do they approach much younger girls? (apart from looks) What is wrong with girls their own age, or girls around their age range? Why they have a need to be with someone with much less experience than them? That obviously creates an imbalance in power and dynamics. He has more advantage than her in this case. He can easily use his accumulated knowledge and sell her any kinds of stories (because he knows that she doesn't know better because of her lack of experience), only if he wants to. And he has to be a saint not to do that. 
 

Edited February 12, 2022 by somegirl

[Roy]

13 hours ago, somegirl said:

Well it's not like guys in their early/mid/late twenties do not do anything. Some of them already have jobs, live on their own... 

True. It's not that it doesn't happen where the woman is the older one, it's just not as common. My last few partners have been a handful of years older than me, idk what I'm doing to break the norm haha.

[K Ghoul]

1 minute ago, Medhansh said:

Plus I don't know who Charles Manson is?

generation gap

[K Ghoul]

Just now, Medhansh said:

Thank you. I needed to hear this.

I hope you are serious about it though.

Younger men are shit-scared to approach older women. This gave me some confidence.

That's it fellas! Time to approach some hot older women?

 

Yea, legit. I don’t know how common this is thou some other girls might need to chime in to confirm if they’ve done it too. I once hit on a guy 10 years younger (I didn’t know first he lied about his age and told me he was 21 the motherfucker was 19) so I’m checking their IDs now 

[somegirl]

12 minutes ago, Roy said:

My last few partners have been a handful of years older than me

Did it ever bother you?
 

12 minutes ago, Roy said:

idk what I'm doing to break the norm

Seems like you're a catch to more experienced ladies hahah

[Roy]

2 minutes ago, somegirl said:

Did it ever bother you?

No I don't analyze stuff like that too much. All that matters to me is chemistry and attraction.

4 minutes ago, somegirl said:

Seems like you're a catch to more experienced ladies hahah

I guess I have a boyish charm 

[K Ghoul]

Just now, Medhansh said:

What's wrong with 19??

The suffix -teen is making me uncomfortable.

It didn’t last thou - looks-wise everyone thought the age was in reverse as if I was the younger 21yo one, but the age gap was really a problem in terms of interests, outlook on life, maturity etc. definitely not meant for anything serious  Imagine us in 20-30 years? Lol I’m a strong believer that a man has to be older.

[Truth-Seeker]

9 hours ago, Gianna said:

But what about outside of a nightclub? And outside/before any dinner date? 
 

Most guys just want sex. This is natural.

However, as I got older (26 currently), I started to think that if a girl is an airhead but hot, I would only want sex, but if she is deep and spiritual and has only a small amount of toxic behavioural patterns from past traumas, then I will want sex and a whole relationship.

Sadly, most girls I met (AND I MET A LOT) are either airheads, or toxic from trauma.

I live in a country with heavy COVID restrictions still after 2 years since this bullshit started and it's cold as fuck outside, so I can't do pickup yet... I want to do pickup soon to meet more girls day to day. I tried online dating. I got around 150 matches (I am a good looking guy I guess, I workout a lot and take care of myself) but only 25 of them were at the level of beauty I really liked (7s, 8s, and 9s) but those never respond and when they do, they aren't interested. So after the weather gets warmer and the country scraps restrictions, I will go do this stuff and get either laid with a hot airhead or in a relationship with a spiritual/deep girl LMAO. 

[Raptorsin7]

1 hour ago, somegirl said:

I actually do not want to have negative  beliefs about this topic. And I mostly have positive experiences (I don't hold extreme negative beliefs at all) and wonderful male friends. But I just don't get intentions of much older guys... Why do they approach much younger girls? (apart from looks) What is wrong with girls their own age, or girls around their age range? Why they have a need to be with someone with much less experience than them? That obviously creates an imbalance in power and dynamics. He has more advantage than her in this case. He can easily use his accumulated knowledge and sell her any kinds of stories (because he knows that she doesn't know better because of her lack of experience), only if he wants to. And he has to be a saint not to do that. 
 

I think part of the reason is men tend to be attracted to young woman because of peak beauty, fertility, etc and so if a man is looking for woman based on her sexual desirability (which I think a lot of men do) then they will preferentially pursue younger woman.

A man who's 35+ plus will likely be most turned on by woman who are 20-30ish and so that's where he will put his attention. Also men at that age may be unconsciously attracted to the desire for children, and older woman will be screened out because of fertility decline 

It's like how woman are attracted to certain masculine traits like confidence, leadership, ability to provide etc and so those traits are always desired by woman. It just so happens that part of a womans sexual value peaks at a younger age.

I do think there is much more subjectivity possible for attraction so maybe this dynamic can be transcended and men can learn to see a 40 year old woman as equally sexually desirable as her 20 year old self, but Idk how to make this possible and the vast majority of people don't live according to that view sadly.

[K Ghoul]

1 hour ago, Medhansh said:

It could be. Most guys my age are testosterone-charged, estrogen-starved species and think through their dicks. I am no exception. 

Every life stage/phase comes with certain specifics, yep

 

Since your life has just begun here’s some words of wisdom that I managed to collect from my life experience- never buy into anyone’s ideas of how you’re supposed to live life, find your way/what works for you and stay true to yourself because there will be social pressures. Listening to others is a road to misery. Create your own rules based on your vision not anyone else’s 

 

[Loving Radiance]

10 hours ago, Roy said:

All that matters to me is chemistry and attraction.

Right on ?