Finding wings (wingmen) and toxic wings

[John Paul]

I don't have any go to solid wings yet and although I'm also trying to reestablish a social life in my life I think I need solid go to wings who know I"m their solid go-to wing like pickup specific relationships or something like this.

 

I know that @Leo Gura gave us some link to go find pick-up wings online so there is that option...but my city had less than 50 people on that particular list unless I need to check it again, i'm doubting my memory again. But I wanted to ask for advice on finding wings that are good besides that resource. Would you approach a wing and be like "be my wing bro" in a club setting? Because when I've been in state before, this was with drug use though, I'll just talk to anyone including men, not necessarily with any sexual energy, it could just be complete bro energy. Have you ever found wings on the night the way you would find a woman during the night and then they just became a wing that way? As a non-virgin but pickup newbie-beginner what are some signs they might be a good wing or bad wing? And not only good or bad as in effective but also solid for someone who has a vision for a whole life... like I don't want a guy who is going to end up being too low vibe in the way they are relating with people and women and substances. 

 

I'm just looking for support and perspectives/experiences here as usual

[flowboy]

Instead of a "wing", how about just making a friend who is on your level and likes to go out and socialize?

 

Of course, a potential friend could be amongst those 50 people.

Have you talked to all of them and deemed them unworthy?

 

I'm just trying to point to the fact that you might be stuck on the "wing" aspect of things, and your problem could be solved just by finding a friend who's into the same things. And so you can do that in all the ways that people normally find friends. The wingman stuff can be talked through / strategised over in the half an hour before you go out. It's peripheral.

 

Of course, if you want someone who's into going out, you can talk to guys and find one.

If you want someone, as you say, who has a vision for their life, then go fish in the pond of interesting people.

Join meetups that represent your interests, and see who you meet there.

Edited February 11, 2022 by flowboy

[Terell Kirby]

It can be hard to find a good wing.

You'll have to play the social circle game with guys for a month or two, then determine which ones are have the same goals regarding improving their sex life (you'll get good at determining which guys are good prospects).

It all starts with going out and being social, with both guys and girls.