Discouraged To Do Pickup After Watching This

[mememe]

@K Ghoul thanks for your kind words. my mom also calls him asshole - sometimes we forget his real name.

i also stopped gratulating him since  one or two years.

do you think they expect sth back for their birthday like a cake? or the same? maybe a plastic vagina? i would not give my boyfriend a cheap perfume my nose is sensitive…

Edited February 8, 2022 by mememe

[Bando]

There is truth to every perspective dating is definitely easier when your a well rounded man i.e, your fitness, finances, personality, but you definitely don't have to be in the top "10 percent" to get decent results, im prety sure you know people in your life who have less than you but can still get the results you want.

The thing with watching content like that is that your doing it to reaffirm your limiting beliefs not to learn notice that next time your about to click on a video like that

[Leo Gura]

If I buy her a gift it will not be off her shopping list, it will something I come up with and a surprise.

Of course I would get her a bd gift. It just won't be as transactional as you frame it above.

The bottom line is that I don't want my romantic relationships to be transactional. A quality girl will appreciate this. If she likes me she likes me for me, not for what I can buy her. And when I do occassionally buy her something that is icing on the cake.

[Leo Gura]

You become in the "top 10%" simply from leaving your fucking house and talking to girls. 90% of guys are too lazy to do that.

[PurpleTree]

7 minutes ago, Leo Gura said:

You become in the "top 10%" simply from leaving your fucking house and talking to girls. 90% of guys are too lazy to do that.

too scared i assume in most cases not too lazy

[K Ghoul]

@Leo Gura You assigned it a transactional frame because it is not in your mental inventory to ask a girl what she wants for her bd- you prefer to “do it yourself” and surprise her. The eagerness to want to surprise a woman usually wears off once you realize that it’s a lot easier to “surprise” her and get the desired reaction- her happy smile - when you surprise her with something she wants to be surprised with Win-win for both, you don’t need to do the guesswork, and she gets something she actually wanted.

Not transactional. It’s called caring about and listening what the other person needs and/or wants and giving that to them. It’s bizarre to see that someone who claims he knows what God/unconditional love is does not seem to recognize it and implement it into their dynamic of how they relate to their loved ones..

Edited February 10, 2022 by K Ghoul

[Michal__]

3 hours ago, Yali said:

are there karmic consequences to using prostitutes? @Leo Gura

The karmic consequence is that you won't learn to talk to girls.

Edited February 8, 2022 by Michal__

[K Ghoul]

@mememe when two people like each other they want to do nice things for one other so yes, it goes both ways 

[Matthew85]

4 hours ago, SQAAD said:

This guy in this video says that women are basically hypergamous and they are going after the 10% of men in terms of money, square jaw, abs, etc. And that they will not settle for anything else. 

I am sure this is the reality he is experiencing. Your beliefs, assumptions and expectations become self fulfilling. I would suggest you stop consuming content that doesn't represent what you want to experience. 

[Leo Gura]

Don't forget that guys are also going for the top 10% of girls.

Everyone is picky and trying to get the best mate they can land. Mating is competitive. Be willing to put in energy to compete, or get left with scraps.

[something_else]

If content gives you a weird, unpleasant feeling in your gut and makes you feel generally shitty about yourself you shouldn't watch it

People get addicted to this feeling for some bizarre reason so there's money to be made in producing content that makes people feel that way

It's almost cathartic. I think in this case the enjoyment comes from being able to place all of the blame onto women instead of yourself

Edited February 8, 2022 by something_else

[Karmadhi]

4 hours ago, Leo Gura said:

How come I am able to pull models from the club? I don't have a square jaw, hair, abs, and I am too cheap to buy women drinks, nevermind anything more than a drink.

Are you able to make them your girlfriend and make them stay loyal to you though? It is easy to pull a model from a club but keeping her long term is another matter. All your girlfriends have been models?

What matter is the quality of your girlfriend, not of the girls you pull from clubs. Everyone can get lucky with a drunk girl that is emotionally willing to get fucked and horny.

 

[K Ghoul]

12 minutes ago, Karmadhi said:

Are you able to make them your girlfriend and make them stay loyal to you though? It is easy to pull a model from a club but keeping her long term is another matter. All your girlfriends have been models?

What matter is the quality of your girlfriend, not of the girls you pull from clubs. Everyone can get lucky with a drunk girl that is emotionally willing to get fucked and horny.

 

^
 

They could also have recently broken up with their bf and wanted a revenge fuck / to fuck some random guy out of spite 

[Leo Gura]

Most girls in Vegas are in town for the weekend. Obviously most of them won't be becoming your girlfriend.

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Everyone can get lucky with a drunk girl that is emotionally willing to get fucked and horny.

Oh, yeah? Do it then. Let's see how easy it is for you to pull a dime. You wouldn't even have the balls to approach her let alone fuck her.

You guys have endless excuses. Notice that. That's why you don't get laid.

[Nahm]

7 hours ago, SQAAD said:

Man.. Everytime i watch a video on YouTube about the sexual marketplace I always regret it. Because I am alwaying listening bad bad news lol. 

This guy in this video says that women are basically hypergamous and they are going after the 10% of men in terms of money, square jaw, abs, etc. And that they will not settle for anything else. 

I was thinking about starting pickup but everytime I listen stuff like that I get super discouraged/disheartened and I begin to despise and hate all women. How am I even supposed to approach women when I receive these bad news about women Everywhere on the Internet?? You even hear it from Jordan Peterson and many many others. Basically almost everyone tells you how bad things are for the average man. It seems the 10% of men have all the women. And the rest are left with none. 

Also I believe Leo is wrong when claiming that most women don't care about money. The stats seem to contradict that. I think I will stick to prostitutes. They are legal in my country. 

https://youtu.be/Jxgf2YWH8ck

Don’t suppress the feeling and hold the speaker / video to be authoritative. Listen to the feeling and express. What anyone else thinks doesn’t actually matter… but you’re focusing on it as if it does. 

Stop choosing the content which is to you, so discordant. If you didn’t watch this stuff, you wouldn’t be thinking or focusing on any of this. If you are going to continue listening to people instead of the guidance within you, listen to people who’s content resonates. 

Discouragement is an emotion, and suppressing it to listen to the speaker is suppressing the guidance of infinite intelligence. 

Blame the speaker. 

Recognize that when you listen to that content, you start thinking that way, resulting in worrying about how it’ll go. 

Recognize doing this results in experiencing the emotion of doubt. Don’t suppress it, acknowledge it. 

As you said, “every time I watch a video on…”. Acknowledge the overwhelment felt & experienced.

Admit (‘for yourself’) this results again and again in frustration, irritation and impatience. Demystify this by acknowledging the emotional guidance. 

This results in pessimistic thoughts, or, the experience of the emotion pessimism. 

This results in boredom -  the desire is there, the intention is there - but the focus & clarity isn’t there. 

Let go of all the thoughts which arose from the material, all together. Really relax and just let it all go. Feel contentment with right now, as it is, as you are. Do not continue to believe those who imply you are not enough as you are, and need something from them. It’s a hamster wheel. 

When you feel contentment from letting these thoughts go… be sure to recognize contentment feels significantly better, than any of the previously mentioned emotions which arose in watching the content. 

As it is recognized letting it go results in contentment (not trying to be someone or something you’re not / not comfortable with, or trying to manipulate, change states, etc)… naturally… hopefulness arises. Because however it goes, you can always let discordant thoughts go, and the natural result will always be hopefulness. 

From hopefulness, and from knowing how to ‘return’ to contentment… naturally… positive thoughts, optimism will arise. It is the true nature of our being to rise whenever unfettered (letting the discordant thoughts go / listening to the emotional guidance, and doing so, letting go). 

Effortlessly focus on the optimistic thoughts. As you do, you will experience enthusiasm, eagerness and happiness (simply for having unfettered). 

This feels great, and naturally… passion arises. If you will, beyond enthusiasm, eagerness & happiness. 

Then you are, so to speak, ‘right back at yourself’, and creation makes perfect sense. 

Should any discordant thoughts again arise, simply use the scale again, instead of ruminating, or, focusing on thought loops, or information which is discordant for you. 

? https://www.actualityofbeing.com/the-emotional-scale

  Perhaps what you really hate, is that you continue to choose to watch content which is extremely discordant. (Referencing some of the gruesome stuff you’ve shared previously). Use the scale. It works for that too. 

Comparative thinking, such as with statistics, is discordant. Listen to feeling. 

You are the creator of your reality! 

[Danioover9000]

@Bando

3 hours ago, Bando said:

There is truth to every perspective dating is definitely easier when your a well rounded man i.e, your fitness, finances, personality, but you definitely don't have to be in the top "10 percent" to get decent results, im prety sure you know people in your life who have less than you but can still get the results you want.

The thing with watching content like that is that your doing it to reaffirm your limiting beliefs not to learn notice that next time your about to click on a video like that

   Exactly. Improve other areas of your life will already make you a higher value man in her eyes. You have to so secure, happy,  confident and creative in your own life, that you really don't need to date other women. Dating is a bonus and treat it as such. It'll reduce your neediness a bit, and make the rejections easier to handle. You have a home to return to.

   Again, everyone. Beware the black/red/blue/white pill ideology, and any limiting beliefs about dating. At the end of the day, in most cases you will put your life first if you have to. Dating is not the end of the world 

Edited February 9, 2022 by Danioover9000

[PurpleTree]

49 minutes ago, Leo Gura said:

Most girls in Vegas are in town for the weekend. Obviously most of them won't be becoming your girlfriend.

Oh, yeah? Do it then. Let's see how easy it is for you to pull a dime. You wouldn't even have the balls to approach her let alone fuck her.

You guys have endless excuses. Notice that. That's why you don't get laid.

when you hit on a model or someone with an extremely symmetrical facial structure or whatever

do you ever mention their beauty, or not at all?

[Karmadhi]

53 minutes ago, Leo Gura said:

Oh, yeah? Do it then. Let's see how easy it is for you to pull a dime. You wouldn't even have the balls to approach her let alone fuck her.

You guys have endless excuses. Notice that. That's why you don't get laid

I have no interest in pulling a dime from a club.  If i want a one night stand with a dime i would just pay an escort and get her to fuck me instead. What i want is a girl that will stay around, not just a one night stand.

Nobody is saying, it is easy but it is much easier to pull a dime then to keep her.

I doubt a dime would be a girlfriend and stay loyal to guy for years who she thinks works at Walmart and has no ambition for his life. If that is the case then my bad. I just have never seen it.

Edited February 9, 2022 by Karmadhi

[Leo Gura]

48 minutes ago, PurpleTree said:

when you hit on a model or someone with an extremely symmetrical facial structure or whatever

do you ever mention their beauty, or not at all?

There's little point to doing so because everyone already knows it.

Usually the only physical compliments I give are: "You're cute" or "You're adorable". And I usually only say that so that she knows that I'm hitting on her vs being social/friendly. I use that to avoid getting friendzoned.

And sometimes I say it because I just genuinely find her exceptionally adorable.

There is no need to give a hot girl physical compliments. She already knows she's hot and everyone tells her that all the time.

You would have more success telling her that she's ugly.

"I like your personality, but why are you so ugly?"

"Has anyone ever told you how beautiful I am?"

"Can you handle a guy as beautiful as me?"

"Your eyes are pretty, but not as pretty as mine."

46 minutes ago, Karmadhi said:

What i want is a girl that will stay around, not just a one night stand.

Your logic is silly because you still have to sleep with her for her to stay around. You're not going to predict who stays around, and that really is none of your business. That's up to her, not you. If she wants she'll stay around. The only difference between a ONS and something more is that the ONS is followed by a 2nd.

Stop worrying about girls sticking around. That's a needy frame.

[PurpleTree]

8 minutes ago, Leo Gura said:

There's little point to doing so because everyone already knows it.

Usually the only physical compliments I give are: "You're cute" or "You're adorable". And I usually only say that so that she knows that I'm hitting on her vs being social/friendly. I use that to avoid getting friendzoned.

There is no need to give a hot girl physical compliments. She already knows she's hot and everyone tells her that all the time.

nice.

yea it's crazy when there's a pic of a hot/beautiful woman or whatever on a profile, the comments are just wow you're so hot, omg you're beautiful, you should be a model.....it's silly. thanks captain obvious

but i sometimes go to the other extreme and not give a compliment for the looks at all nor say they're cute and then get friendzoned

Edited February 9, 2022 by PurpleTree