Whenever I psychoanalyze myself, I see two sides in me.  One is polite, gentle, helpful, caring, sweet and funny. Subdued. Submissive.  The other is mean, bitchy(bitch - like),  critical, psychopathic, sketchy, condescending, egotistical, selfish, narcissistic etc.  I sometimes take pride in having attitude.  I switch between the two very often. I can almost see myself switching between the two.  There is always a tug of war between these two sides. I feel conflicted because of that and it often ruins my relationship with people who I interact with.  I don't think I want to get rid of the bitchy side. I don't like to pretend that I'm nice.  How should I reconcile these two sides?