Bullying

[Ulax]

Has anyone here recovered from the emotional affects of bullying? If so, how did they do so?

I want to hear about certain techniques that people have used. I am not looking for things like the following. "I just decided not to be held back by my bullies anymore". I want a method that enables deep change.

Thank you in advance.

[Hugo Oliveira]

Recognize that bullying is limited content that happens in a limited context. Reality is a vast field that presents many many other contents and contexts. 

Maybe you created a self image and worldview based on the way you were treated during your bullying times. In order to change it, I recommend challenging this perspective. 

Look at the world and at yourself and take notes of everything that goes against whatever false and obsolete belief you hold. See that you and the world both changed and keep changing every second. Focus on the information that is better aligned with the new and fresh vision you want to obtain.

For example, if the doorman was very respectful to you when he said "good morning", write it down. If some friend texted you because you are important to him/her, write it. Write and observe even the small things that align with the truth that you are worthy of love and respect. Do it as a game for a week or longer. 

If some bullying emotion or situation occurs, simply allow it to go away. Give it less and less attention and the pain will pass. 

[AlwaysJoggin]

@Ulax i was bullied all the time even by the people i use to hangout with , and physically abused from teachers,  well I just see it as part of life i guess time healths and life showed me that the bullying really doesn’t effect my life i just look back at all the pain it doesn’t feel the same but it did effect me emotionally I just accept it as part of the journey that i had to experience to reach this point 

don't make it feel that is it still effecting you, now you are stronger just remembering that helps going through bad experiences makes you stronger 

[Danioover9000]

@Ulax

11 hours ago, Ulax said:

Has anyone here recovered from the emotional affects of bullying? If so, how did they do so?

I want to hear about certain techniques that people have used. I am not looking for things like the following. "I just decided not to be held back by my bullies anymore". I want a method that enables deep change.

Thank you in advance.

   I still have some shadow work in this area, but I'd say I'm 80% recovered from it.

   Study, learn and develop your masculine side. Things like exercise, martial arts, enforcing boundaries, learning and training to control and develop your voice and tonality, go from high pitch to low, and project voice, social proofing yourself, strong frame and posture, non verbal's, reading other's body languages. Subconscious training like positive affirmations, visualizations to overcome specific situations, shadow boxing, hypnosis. Learning and studying self defense.

   

Edited February 8, 2022 by Danioover9000

[Roy]

A big realization that helped me get over the final hump was learning about what the ego is, and why people (egos) behave the way they do. It's really hard to take things so personally when you realize most people in the world are just NPCs acting reactively and have such simple, crude motivations.

Now whenever I'm reminded of a bully from a long time ago, I actually pity them. They didn't know any better.

[Danioover9000]

   Although, this is highly contextual and personally happened to me, but beating up a bully helps a bit. Of course, don't start it, but if you are really cornered into defending yourself, finish the fight strongly, and show them you are not weak. Bullies pray on the weak.