100% unable to take my mind off sex & be productive

[Vincent S]

@Striving for more Try to use your creative power to create stuff in your life/reality. When we are not using that creative source, we get bored and release it through other means. 
Nothing inherently wrong with masturbation. Its just a way to release your creativity. Sadly it just goes to waste, most of the time. 
 
Releasing is not only for letting out creativity, its also for releasing heavy emotions, releases built up and stored negativity, letting off some steam, it relaxes the body and it reminds you how it feels to be in ecstasy and bliss (when you orgasm) It reminds you of your True Nature.  

Nothing is good or bad. Its just what it is for whats needed in the moment. if you feel guilty for masturbating, try inspecting that guilt and reprogram your view on it. Next time, fap consciously. And maybe you wont feel like you need it as much and your desire for it might be more balanced. 

 

[something_else]

16 minutes ago, Striving for more said:

U could say the same about the peer pressure of staying on no fap too though? 

"Don't fap, it's never worth it!, don't be weak!!" 

I'm not against no fap but dont u agree most no fappers are closed minded to nuance.

E.g unable to conisder that fapping sometimes is worthwhile, rather than "it's always bad". 

I'd probably say once every 2,3 or 4 weeks. 

For me at least 3 weeks gap is best. Depends though.

This still seems crazy to me. How on earth can jerking off every 3 weeks be that different to jerking off every 3 days

Your body is designed to ejaculate pretty much as often as it possibly can

[mememe]

18 minutes ago, Striving for more said:

U could say the same about the peer pressure of staying on no fap too though? 

"Don't fap, it's never worth it!, don't be weak!!" 

I'm not against no fap but dont u agree most no fappers are closed minded to nuance.

E.g unable to conisder that fapping sometimes is worthwhile, rather than "it's always bad". 

I'd probably say once every 2,3 or 4 weeks. 

For me at least 3 weeks gap is best. Depends though.

wrong peers, too. its a technique, like kundalini has techniques, like breathing technique and so on, the way you use it is supposed to teach you elements of tantra. it won’t if you do listen to others all the time. there is probably a reason why some say to stay with it for a certain time. if you don’t meditate on that, you won’t find out.

if i tell you to eat sugar while on a sugar diet, would you be someone who finds an explanation why you ate sugar then, when i told you, or maybe would you blame me? i don’t tell you to blame, far from it, just notice control mechanisms.

[mememe]

yeah wrong peers. not worth it.

[Javfly33]

3 hours ago, Roy said:

How malleable or weak does ones personality have to be to get affected by whether they jerk off or not lol.

Am I missing something, is this actually a problem for people?

@Roy Yes because It can strongly act as a placebo or nocebo. 

No joke, when i was Deep into nofap, some days i would literally experience 0 social anxiety in social situations. Then when i learned It was Bro science and i stop believing in It, It doesnt anymore work ?

[Juan]

7 hours ago, Roy said:

How malleable or weak does ones personality have to be to get affected by whether they jerk off or not lol.

Am I missing something, is this actually a problem for people?

@Roy The problem is not to masturbate perse in my view and experience but rather some people over do it and they affect their life overall.

Edited February 3, 2022 by Juan

[integration journey]

jerk off to release that needy energy. Go back to your center that way.

[Leo Gura]

6 hours ago, eTorro said:

Or a woman is not like a man, meaning that she doesn't need to have sex as often as a man. 

It is absurd to compare the sexual needs of a man with a woman.

[Hardkill]

18 minutes ago, Leo Gura said:

It is absurd to compare the sexual needs of a man with a woman.

Aren’t there women out there who have high sex drives? 

I’ve heard of some women who have had sex twice day with different guys during each week. They aren’t even hookers, escorts, or pornstars.

[puporing]

15 minutes ago, Hardkill said:

Aren’t there women out there who have high sex drives? 

I’ve heard of some women who have had sex twice day with different guys during each week. They aren’t even hookers, escorts, or pornstars.

Lol yep, just maybe less common than there are men like that and they are probably more closeted because of the amount of slut shaming out there (so you don't hear about it as much as men talking about it). I don't know what the % is compared to men but one must also wonder why 50 shades of grey got so popular...

[puporing]

6 hours ago, Vincent S said:

@Striving for more Try to use your creative power to create stuff in your life/reality. When we are not using that creative source, we get bored and release it through other means. 

Very true. You can channel it to multiply your output creatively whatever outlet speaks to you. 

[Roy]

6 minutes ago, puporing said:

I don't know what the % is compared to men but one must also wonder why 50 shades of grey got so popular...

That puts thing into perspective pretty well 

[Thestarguitarist14]

I can’t believe how everyone is advocating jerking off.  A lot of people have porn addiction issues and at the end of the day self pleasure is anti social.  He clearly feels like he it’s hurting his life.

You might as well tell him to do Heroin as that will make him feel better.

[puporing]

@Thestarguitarist14 It's a coping thing I mean you simply can't have sex on demand even if you have a bf/gf that's not how relationships work and that could turn pretty toxic and potentially abusive. But yeah overdoing it can also make you unproductive/unable to focus so balance is key like anything.

There are some anti-depressants type pharmaceuticals that lower your libido but there are side effects so I wouldn't recommend that unless it's really extreme.

Edited February 3, 2022 by puporing

[Thestarguitarist14]

24 minutes ago, puporing said:

@Thestarguitarist14 It's a coping thing I mean you simply can't have sex on demand even if you have a bf/gf that's not how relationships work and that could turn pretty toxic and potentially abusive. But yeah overdoing it can also make you unproductive/unable to focus so balance is key like anything.

There are some anti-depressants type pharmaceuticals that lower your libido but there are side effects so I wouldn't recommend that unless it's really extreme.

If you are not getting your sexual needs met from gf/bf to the point that you have to masturbate then unless you are a real sex addict you need a new gf/bf, point blank.

[Shiva99]

35 minutes ago, Thestarguitarist14 said:

I can’t believe how everyone is advocating jerking off.  A lot of people have porn addiction issues and at the end of the day self pleasure is anti social.  He clearly feels like he it’s hurting his life.

You might as well tell him to do Heroin as that will make him feel better.

+1

 

[puporing]

4 minutes ago, Thestarguitarist14 said:

If you are not getting your sexual needs met from gf/bf to the point that you have to masturbate then unless you are a real sex addict you need a new gf/bf, point blank.

Ideally, but you still can't avoid periods of being single throughout your life, or your partner getting sick, being away various things like that etc. Idk it's just not always so smooth like that and coping mechanisms are good for those times. 

[Thestarguitarist14]

Just now, puporing said:

Ideally, but you still can't avoid periods of being single throughout your life, or your partner getting sick, being away various things like that etc. Idk it's just not always so smooth like that and coping mechanisms are good for those times. 

Nah, coping mechanisms are not good  .

[vladorion]

2 hours ago, Leo Gura said:

It is absurd to compare the sexual needs of a man with a woman.

There's no such thing as sexual needs of a man vs a woman.

There's sexual needs of a particular man and sexual needs of a particular woman.

[Thestarguitarist14]

31 minutes ago, vladorion said:

There's no such thing as sexual needs of a man vs a woman.

There's sexual needs of a particular man and sexual needs of a particular woman.

Men definitely view and experience sex differently than women.