The time in my life where I got the most girls

[Thestarguitarist14]

So I wanted to share this as I have seen a lot of desperation on here and a lot of old school pick up style thinking that to me is not keeping up with the times.

2017 was the year.  I had done pick up from 2013 to 2016, 2013 in D.C and the other years in L.A.  At my peak I was cold approaching seven days a week.  By the end of it about three to four max.  I mostly got one night stands with women I met in bars and clubs and dated here and there, but mostly I was a wham Bam thank you m’am kind of guy.

Fast forward to 2017 I decide to not to do pick up anymore.  Instead I decide to join an acting class (I am a working actor both on camera a d voice over), join meetups and go to bars and clubs on the weekends.  At this time I did not have a car either and lived in Hollywood so I was either on the train or walking.

This was by the far the easiest time that I had with girls.  I was at one point dating three at a time.  A lot of attractive women were showing interest in me, I hardly had any flakes, I was just bouncing from one woman to the next.

What was it?  Here is what I thinking was.

#1: I stopped leaving the house looking to meet women.  When I went to acting class I did not try to chat up the girls right away.  When I went out on the train it was the same deal.  I had a new job and some friends there and was really focused on that and some creative projects.  This definitely took any stank of desperation that I had.

#2: I built a social life of abundance.  I was doing something almost everyday.  Three tones a week I was in Kung fu class, once a week acting class, I was hanging out with my co worker, went to a party every Sunday night, went out to bars and clubs every Friday and Saturday.  I was going out so much that my social calibration was extremely high and by law if attraction if you go out a lot you will bump into women who find you attractive.

#3: My overhead was lower.  My rent was cheap so I could spend more money on things.  This is big.  I don’t care what of game you have, certain women do not like to deal with brokes.

#4: I was seen with a lot of women.  Social proof is huge in getting women.  A big reason why I was getting a ton of women is because I was seen with them.  I’d be in acting class talking to a woman and another would see me and she would show interest.  Or at a meet up I would be talking to a woman and another would see me and make herself available.

Adam Corolla said it best: women like guys who get a lot of women.

#5: I had a good social circle.  I had some good friends that I would party with, a good group on Sunday nights that I’d party with, and friends from work.  How do friends help you get girls?  What it is that it keeps you social and keeps your mood up so you are so needy when you meet women as you have gotten some basic needs met from  your friends.  
 

#6: I wasn't dependent on night life.  While I during the period I did date some women that I met in bars, most of the women that I dated and hooked up with I met in my everyday life.  Be it acting class, Kung fu class, my Sunday parties, on the train, at work, meetups, camping and etc.  This is the best way to meet women if you want to have relationships as you will only be dealing with women who have a high level of interest in you which is everything.

Now granted my years of pick up primed me for that.  I will never forget the summer of 2017, tons of good times with some fun women.  The only thing that held me back was I was not truly happy deep down and it destroyed a potential relationship with a cool chick,  Later that year I lost my job and joined another acting class where the teacher (a woman whereas the first was a dude) decided to teach with fear and anger and that put me into a depression and from 2018 to 2019 my life has been very up and down.  I was getting the groove back in 2019, was seeing two women and focused on the wrong one, got back down, then was getting my groove back right before Covid hit and I am getting back into this groove now.  Even in my down years I was still able to date and hook up with attractive women just by going on and being social.  While I did pick up I did natural game so I think that helped a lot as well.

So what is all this to say?  It’s all about your energy at the end of the day.  Rather than be so focused on getting numbers and jumping into bed with women, just build a social life of abundance.  Once you do that you will start being more and more around women which will give you social proof, your mood will shift and this shit will feel easy.

Edited February 1, 2022 by Thestarguitarist14

[Javfly33]

Thanks, this kind of posts are like gold. Thanks for sharing your experience ???

[PurpleTree]

when i was high on xtc was the time i got the most women

because i was the opposite of needy and loved everyone 

Edited February 1, 2022 by PurpleTree