Boyfriend and female friends..

[something_else]

@Ineedanswers Do you have some past experience with being cheated on or someone you know being cheated on? It seems like a slightly strange perspective even though I can see you're technically just asking, you're very persistent

You should not stand for being disrespected by a partner like that, if they cheat you should not just forgive them and move on because what you're basically saying when you do that is that you're ok with being walked all over. If someone cheats on you and you have this attitude, 90% chance they'll cheat again when whatever circumstances lead to it before occur again, because now they know there are limited consequences

Sure, you tell yourself that if they cheat again that will be the last time, but if you forgive them the first time then your mind will probably find a way to forgive them the next time as well. You either set the limit at ZERO times or you don't get into a committed, monogamous relationship

[Bando]

11 hours ago, aurum said:

But my mind in general just doesn’t go there. I don’t think about random potential catastrophic scenarios in the future and how I might mitigate them.

Definitely agree with this statement, its like not letting your mind go certain negative scenarios is a byproduct of taking a proactive approach to things in life. 

I wanted to see what people had to say in regards to cheating I think we can all agree if there's no marriage or kids involved you'd be better off leaving your parnter but why do those two variables change someone's boundaries on cheating? (assuming he/she admitted to cheating quickly, took responsibility of it and set a plan to make the relationship work?) More of a food for thought kind of question

[Lyubov]

I personally agree that cheating is the end for a relationship. It’s kinda hard to avoid all sorts of micro infidelities today though like liking a photo of a girl you wanna fuck or occasionally peaking on tinder or making eyes and flirting a bit with a co worker or wishing an ex happy birthday. Social media especially has kinda just opened a whole new world of mingling and orbiters. I think it can easily be avoided physically cheating if you both have boundaries. It’s why I’m not so into this “pure freedom no boundaries around socializing” in a relationship. It’s not as simple as just detaching if you both have a lifestyle that doesn’t quite jive with a serious LTR. A couple that’s serious about a LTR will have the communication and lifestyle that accommodates an LTR. A guy running around and drinking with his bros on a Saturday night behind her back while she is at home taking care of the baby is another example of this. It’s not healthy for an LTR. 

[PurpleTree]

i also know a woman who cheated on a guy

then the guy banged another woman to kind of even it out

and now they have kids together

they've also been together since forever though

Edited February 2, 2022 by PurpleTree

[something_else]

2 hours ago, PurpleTree said:

i also know a woman who cheated on a guy

then the guy banged another woman to kind of even it out

and now they have kids together

they've also been together since forever though

I would bet like $1000 they've both cheated again lmao

[Roy]

8 hours ago, somegirl said:

I actually know a guy who "forgave" his girl for cheating (even though he brings it up here and there and they broke up couple of times over it but got back together) and now they have a baby. And they seem stable now... 

Just interesting to see lol

lol two peas in a pot. They must both be slightly desperate and decided to settle. Yes people can make things technically "work", but it's like building a house with the wrong material or construction methods. Clock is ticking.

[Arcangelo]

9 hours ago, somegirl said:

I actually know a guy who "forgave" his girl for cheating (even though he brings it up here and there and they broke up couple of times over it but got back together) and now they have a baby.

That happens to guys that don't know RP knowledge.

[Arcangelo]

@Tangerinedream BTW if your BF is heterosexual:

1. He is not that into you.

2. He is fucking those other girls.

3. Wake up and smell the coffee.

4. Truth hurts.

5. LOL at boys and girls being friends.

6. IRL boys and girls can't be friends.

[something_else]

46 minutes ago, Arcangelo said:

@Tangerinedream BTW if your BF is heterosexual:

1. He is not that into you.

2. He is fucking those other girls.

3. Wake up and smell the coffee.

4. Truth hurts.

5. LOL at boys and girls being friends.

6. IRL boys and girls can't be friends.

You sound like a 15 year old boy who's been reading a little too much redpill content on reddit

Edited February 2, 2022 by something_else

[Arcangelo]

8 hours ago, Arcangelo said:

4. Truth hurts.

 

[Arcangelo]

7 hours ago, something_else said:

You sound like a 15 year old boy who's been reading a little too much redpill content on reddit

to be fair point number 2 was too much of a projection.

 

[Arcangelo]

I went once into reddit to watch the Rittenhouse thing. I got scared and never visited reddit again. Borderline dark web.

[Bobby_2021]

4 minutes ago, Arcangelo said:

I went once into reddit to watch the Rittenhouse thing. I got scared and never visited reddit again. Borderline dark web.

Agree. It's borderline darkweb, but filled with teenagers.

[Gesundheit2]

On 01/02/2022 at 0:26 PM, Bobby_2021 said:

I just can't accept my gf ever going out with male friends. Big no.

Unless he's the plumber I think you're safe.

[Preety_India]

On 03/02/2022 at 0:04 AM, PurpleTree said:

i also know a woman who cheated on a guy

then the guy banged another woman to kind of even it out

and now they have kids together

they've also been together since forever though

Too much insecurity. 

[PurpleTree]

10 hours ago, Preety_India said:

Too much insecurity. 

i mean they have been together since high school and now in their mid 30s

when they both once cheated and got it out of the way, why not seems fine

[somegirl]

14 minutes ago, PurpleTree said:

when they both once cheated and got it out of the way, why not seems fine

Sounds like a wonderful relationship. #relationshipsgoals

[PurpleTree]

3 minutes ago, somegirl said:

Sounds like a wonderful relationship. #relationshipsgoals

she cheated when she did a year abroad or so i think

[Bobby_2021]

On 2/3/2022 at 11:36 PM, Gesundheit2 said:

Unless he's the plumber I think you're safe.

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