What 4 Years Of Personal Development Did To Me

[kray]

Great to see the progress! I started the personal development journey about a year ago, but I always find myself going back to the same toxic habits I had previously. How can I break this cycle?

[Kksd74628]

@kray
There is something in your toxic habit that makes you feel good about doing it. Attempt to find what it is and try to add positive habit that feeds same purpose. 

For example if you:

1.  party and drink a lot, because you want to socialize then replace that by chilling with bros talking deep stuff.
2.  smoke pot, because you want to calm your mind then replace that by meditating
3.  get angry when talking to your friends, because you feel that your opinion does not get heard then learn self expression through music, art, writing etc.

Change of behavior should't be executed before change of mindset. By that I mean that you need to contemplate fully what makes you feel good and bad doing toxic habit and what makes you feel good and bad quitting it. When you have weighted all perspectives and you see clearly that toxic habit is overall negative thing, something may click on you somehow and you change behavior.

[kray]

15 minutes ago, Kksd74628 said:

@kray
There is something in your toxic habit that makes you feel good about doing it. Attempt to find what it is and try to add positive habit that feeds same purpose. 

For example if you:

1.  party and drink a lot, because you want to socialize then replace that by chilling with bros talking deep stuff.
2.  smoke pot, because you want to calm your mind then replace that by meditating
3.  get angry when talking to your friends, because you feel that your opinion does not get heard then learn self expression through music, art, writing etc.

Change of behavior should't be executed before change of mindset. By that I mean that you need to contemplate fully what makes you feel good and bad doing toxic habit and what makes you feel good and bad quitting it. When you have weighted all perspectives and you see clearly that toxic habit is overall negative thing, something may click on you somehow and you change behavior.

Noted! 

[Seed]

wow! this is awesome... very inspiring x 

[Gesundheit2]

I wanted to say something, and then I read the first comment and saw it written there already. Then I thought of something else and saw it written after that. I give up.

Edited January 17, 2022 by Gesundheit2

[Cireeric]

What a beautiful video! Its all about loving life. 

[hyruga]

22 hours ago, flume said:

I had a lot of fun creating this video 

Love this community!

Much love to all of you guys 

And Leo of course! You had such an impact on my life!

Beautiful video. 

It's time to laugh like a kid.

[gettoefl]

well done, you are doing amazing work and are a beautiful human being

[Snader]

No way, I started with the same book! And then I think it was Leo's book list that came and shifted me away to another amazing books.

Cool video by the way! I'm afraid your bed can't say the same 

 

 

[WonderSeeker]

20 hours ago, Kksd74628 said:

@WonderSeeker

What people often forget is that point of spiritual work or anything in life is simply to BE happy. You can play bodybuilding, being mucisian, being influencer, being smart etc. or just play tranceding all these things through spirituality and tranceding even that in the end. Any so called game you wanna play is meant to give pleasure doing it, because as everyone knows there is no meaning in the end, but meaning can be something you give to the thing you do.

People frequently get stuck in being unhappy, because they keep having personality traits they don't like, but after all if you were so called "perfect" person what would it change, because anyways you would be there to do something and you better like doing it or there wouldn't be any sense to do it. 

"Oh my god I was thinking again, but I am experienced meditator so that shouldn't happen ... And now I am being mad at myself and I though I have learned to be gentle to myself ... What is reason to do any of this, because of I am not progressing and I am mad all the time ... I can't have any pleasure, because of then I am attached to them etc. etc. etc."

I guess that previous example resonated with most of you, because that is mistake that I would be pretty sure to claim that everyone on this path to have at least once.

Just enjoy doing whatever you like and if you are not into strict practises then do something else, because if you really are passionate towards this work you would do it no matter what so take your time, because there is no hurry to get anywhere and there is actually no other place to be, but this exact moment. Think it as competition whoever enjoys this present moment most wins : )

Hope you had a happy time writing all that 

[Vynce]

How hippie it may sound. But I'm really looking forward for a world were people are so conscious and done with thought-made-fear, that dancing together with complete strangers while waiting in line for coffee is a normal thing  After all dancing, singing, and being are the only things left to do if all problems got resolved in consciousness

[Kksd74628]

@WonderSeeker

34 minutes ago, WonderSeeker said:

Hope you had a happy time writing all that 

Hope that it somehow is valuable to someone : )

[RendHeaven]

Your algorithm-optimization is really noticeable on this one! Your success is inevitable if you keep strategizing in this way ?

[flume]

On 16/01/2022 at 10:42 PM, WonderSeeker said:

Wow, inspiring! The habit-trackers and rituals made me laugh...they are quite fun but really do look insane after a while. 

After about 2 years, I'm slowly experiencing the 'becoming a kid again' aspect too. Letting-go and not being too serious about the work is so counter-intuitive because it looks counter-productive to the work itself. 

Cheers!

Haha, couldn't agree more. Cool that you can relate

On 17/01/2022 at 0:13 AM, mandyjw said:

Love it! Also your voice is soooo pretty and soothing. 

Now this comment made me really happy. It's a little side dream of mine to read audio books on my channel 

23 hours ago, Snader said:

No way, I started with the same book! And then I think it was Leo's book list that came and shifted me away to another amazing books.

Cool video by the way! I'm afraid your bed can't say the same 

Haaaah, awesome! I love how niche this forum is And yeah the bed needs to go anyways... Did those jumps too many times

[flume]

Thanks everyone for leaving such kind comments here  Love you guys!

[Thought Art]

Great video! 
 

lao tzu 

the wise child

[Gregory1]

@flume I love you.

Keep dancing like that, it is beautiful!