How to exhaust cravings for video games and porn?

[Vynce]

For the last years i really had the attitude to hide my low conscious desires like video games and porn. Especially as I developed spiritually, I really had to make plans to "cover" these desires to seem more developed. 

Exhausting the desire for video games seems pretty easy for me. I feel how every game gets boring really quick. Nowadays its just one game, which I probably de-install pretty soon. Exhaustion is happening. 

However, with porn it's another pair of shoes. I was addicted for like 9 years since I was 10. At 19 the pendulum swang hard to the other side. I was into NoPMO and NoFap. All in all I thought to have solved the desire completely. 3 years later, my desire for porn has not shrank a bit. I don't even want to cover or hide this circumstance. Its just that i really feel that porn doesn't do my life any good. But I cant ignore it either. I really need a concrete plan to exhaust this desire.

But what shall I do? Have sex with lots of porn stars? Go make porn movies myself? 

I welcome a serious talk about this, as I intuit that most of us struggle with this or similar unconscious desires as well. 

 

 

[Raze]

Try the easypeasymethod or this https://www.shinzen.org/wp-content/uploads/2016/12/art_urges.pdf

[SonataAllegro]

Yeah idk about this whole burning through karma stuff... it can be misleading and be used as an excuse not to stop. I think mindful usage is supposed to be an unbiased noticing of what benefits/drawbacks you are getting from the addiction and ultimately observing for yourself that the drawbacks outweigh the benefits. Easypeasy method is great^.

[Salvijus]

If a person wants to be free from reacurring patterns(karma) he/she needs to dissolve those patterns by being equanimous and aware when they come.

Every time a person blindly reacts to the sensation or a craving it multiplies. Everytime a person observes a craving or a sensation with equanimity it burns and dies out. That's what burning karma means. It means purification of the subconscious mind through meditation or other spiritual practice. 

Edited January 11, 2022 by Salvijus

[Kksd74628]

How does one stop eating candies? By doing other things that give same hapiness, but from more healthy source. Point is that you cannot just take away action without adding, because otherwise there will be empty space to be addicted to the thing.

Okay first of all denying basic need just makes more problems. I would work with chackras expecially second chackra witch handles sexuality. So you know sexual energy activation witch comes from yoga or energywork is just better than any orgasm you ever had. So you can image it in your mind it's like build up orgasm which just keeps building up faster and stronger till you have to stop, because pleasure just makes you sick of it

Okay to the other part of the question. I see you like video games so think about most realistic video game you can. All these great effects and soundquality is so crispy. It feels very 3D. You are controlling person in the movie and every action you do is very precise without any lag. It's also very sandbox kind of where you can progress in all emotional things and money things and anything you are interested. If you are gamer that most likely will get your hands wet to order it, but I tell you that you already have it just start playing. To make it better it's game where when you win the game you realize you even made the whole game and top of that you are whole beautiful thing with best graphics you can imagine  

[Vynce]

@Kksd74628 Oh thanks for this post. The video game analogy really resonated with me  

[Kksd74628]

@Vynce No problem my friend  
One other way to think about addictions is that just learn to love things that you gain from not doing addictive thing more instead of trying to suffer life without your lovely attachements. When you do so 2 things may happen.

Either you stop being addicted and move on. Or you keep doing those things, because you see that doing so won't harm you. 

Also learn to see difference between addiction and just enjoyment of the thing. Difference is that if you can live week without thinking about it and not getting physical or emotional or any level of side effects then it's just for enjoyment. Week is just imaginary time change it to anything that makes sense in your mind.

Also remember if you are working in job thinking about weekends and waiting them is addiction like anything else, Think about that if you like 2 days out of 7 then how much time you just keep idling or in worse situation suffering. 

I have analogy to working also and it's pretty powerful at least for me.

First think about that you don't work and you are just home 24 / 7 or partying with friends ( the thing you actually do is meaningless in this example ) Why do you go to work? ... ... ... So you can be more happy with the time you have. Okay then you go to doing job so you get more money to have fun with your "free time", but all of the sudden you only have 2 days left and those days you are exhausted to do anything except to rest and you maybe don't want to see your friends, because of you keep thinking that your "free time" is going to end. That way you can't be relaxed and doing so week after week, month after month and year after year you see that you are so exhausted and stressed that you yell at people and you are not "yourself" then you can think why is that. Only reason is that you didn't think what you want do for living long enough. 

I advice everyone not to work for money, but work for the sake it's your passion and the thing you wanna do, because you love doing it. There are people who say work is not meant to be fun or bosses would do it, but that is bad attitude towards the thing you do most of your life. Like in video game if you only liked end of the "map" or "level" or last seconds of "guest" why would you play the game to begin with.

Also one thing to keep in mind is that you sleep one third of your time so if you don't have personalized bed go and save and buy one that cost much, but it will stay with you 10 years it will boost your energy levels and minimalize stress and maybe it will pay you back if you are used to buy massage for your back many times a month.

Okay that post was kind of about everything, but I want to make sure all my fellows are heading in right direction.
 

To the reader, I love you very much <3

Edited January 12, 2022 by Kksd74628

[hyruga]

One way to stop playing games is to ignore and delete the games. Then give them away.

Another way to burn through gaming is to play so much of them that you already mastered most types of games and you no longer crave playing them.

Edited January 12, 2022 by hyruga

[Raze]

Try pleasure and purification by Shinzen young 

https://www.shinzen.org/?s=Pleasure+and+Purification&post_type=product

you can be more completely satisfied with less

[gettoefl]

do fully til you see the futility ... what are you going to regret on your deathbed? ... you've only a few breaths here ... you incarnated for one reason

[mememe]

@Vynce become a pornstar.