Why You May Care of Others Opinions or Feel Lonely

[Fearless_Bum]

You want people's awareness that's all, that's why you care about them caring about you. 

What if we could apply that same love, care, attention to ourselves? 

What if all the awareness that's needed is your own? 

What if attention/focus is Love? 

[Whatever]

Oh my god that would be lovely! I could ne complitelly independent of others and world around me. Sheltered in my cocoon of self love, not caring about anyone else <3

Let them create their own cocoon and stay the fuck outta mine

[Fearless_Bum]

@Whatever focus is creation. 

Recognize in this present moment that there is nothing that is "not focused on". 

The only thing there is is what is focused upon. 

Also, I don't mean to encourage solipsistic thinking, or about defending oneself from others or isolationist behaviors.

[Whatever]

Then you might be open to idea that there are other relationships that one toward yourself. And those actually hold greater potential to strip you from self centeredness than loving yourself ever would. Love essentially isnt focus but relationship. Thats how I see it.

[Fearless_Bum]

5 minutes ago, Whatever said:

Then you might be open to idea that there are other relationships that one toward yourself. And those actually hold greater potential to strip you from self centeredness than loving yourself ever would. Love essentially isnt focus but relationship. Thats how I see it.

@Whatever you mind clarifying? 

Other relationships that one toward yourself? 

What I mean by the focus stuff, is that focus is quite literally creation, there's nothing in your experience that isn't focused on. 

If the thought arises "but there are things that aren't focused on." That is just being focused on. May take some observation, a bit difficult to wrap the mind around.

Self centeredness stems from focusing on thoughts about "me" and "you".

And nothing against relationships, I like them. 

Edited January 9, 2022 by Fearless_Bum

[Gregory1]

@FearlessWanderer

@Fearless_Bum 

"What if we could apply that same love, care, attention to ourselves? "

Why ask questions? No need to get an answer, no need to even ask, no need to know. Just relax, calm your senses, let it go, let it flow.

[Fearless_Bum]

@Gregory1 

6 minutes ago, Gregory1 said:

@FearlessWanderer

@Fearless_Bum 

Why ask questions? No need to get an answer.

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[Gregory1]

Just now, Fearless_Bum said:

@Gregory1 

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I'm sorry lmaoxD, just let go and let it fow..

Like @flowboy

[Gregory1]

5 minutes ago, Fearless_Bum said:

@Gregory1

 

@flowboy 

@Fearless_Bum

Let it all just flow, let the senses mix and intensify, let the senses disappear. 

 

Give in to the not knowing, give in to the confusion, there's no need to know what is going on, no need to know what's what. 

 

Let thoughts flow, they don't care about anything, they just wanna flow, no need to figure anything out, no need to create blockages of seriousness, let it flow. If you're trying to figure something out just move on, let it all just flow. 

 

Everything is okay, the inner craziness is the peace. 

[mandyjw]

Yeeeeeeees. Yes, yes yes!  "Being aware of being aware." Every negative judgement of lack is totally decontextualized when spoken as true Self (Awareness.) Separate I was the con-text. When we feel overlooked we are the ones overlooking. 

"For the LORD thy God is a jealous God among you."

PAY ATTENTION TO ME, GODDAMN IT. No holier words have ever been spoken. 

 

[Fearless_Bum]

7 minutes ago, mandyjw said:

PAY ATTENTION TO ME, GODDAMN IT. No holier words have ever been spoken. 

@mandyjw ?. 

Being in touch with feeling/focus is the most loving thing one can do .

[Whatever]

7 hours ago, Fearless_Bum said:

@Whatever you mind clarifying? 

Other relationships that one toward yourself? 

What I mean by the focus stuff, is that focus is quite literally creation, there's nothing in your experience that isn't focused on. 

If the thought arises "but there are things that aren't focused on." That is just being focused on. May take some observation, a bit difficult to wrap the mind around.

Self centeredness stems from focusing on thoughts about "me" and "you".

And nothing against relationships, I like them. 

In relationship there is me and you. Focus on me doesnt allow me to really see you and thats self centerdness.

All I am is my relationship to you, to myself, to world, to God. And my well being is well being of those relationships. So to love to have any depth it needs to be loving relationship to someone, not a state of niceness. 

Same goes for God. Its my relationship to You. God to me is "you" an eternal thou, not "it" as how people in the forum refers to God. "It" exist for me to use. "You" are not me, "you" are eternal mystery and more mysterious I let you be, the closer we are. So I spend my life admiring "you" in prayer, meditation and in the realest way in the eyes of others. Recognising that my whole existence is complitelly dependent on You.

God is me but I am not God. Milk is cheese but cheese is not milk. Now there is room for me, God and developing relationship between us. Also between me and other people. All that is taken away with belief "I am God". Suddenly there is no more room for me, ego is scapegoated. Im trying to be other people, im trying to become God. 

Trying to become God, even if its costs me losing myself is the very essence of envy.

 

So wouldnt stress over having toughts of me or you. Or if focus is creation or not but who to serve and how. Serving you is essence of forgetting ones selfcenterness.. and my experience is that less self centered i am, the better I feel. More time im spending loving someone or doing something out of love. 

 

 

 

[Loba]

I don't want opinions of others, or feel ""lonely"", I want knowledge and Love.
I want to meld what I know with what others know and grow myself, as my own thing.

I want codependency and sovereignty at the same time.
I want their Awareness, but do you know what that means for me?  Probably not.

I want the Awareness that creates writing that brings the end to seeking for an individual.
When I say I WANT.  I mean, I will have it.

[Gregory1]

6 hours ago, BenG said:

@Gregory1 @Fearless_Bum

 

@BenG love you.xD